About the Director
Writer, dancer, troublemaker, passionate liver of life (verb, not organ).
What does a Havi do?
Labyrinth Walker (non-metaphorical). Cake Detective (extremely metaphorical). Panther-in-training.
Glamorous Bond Girl. Known Eccentric. Wild Sensualist.
Unapologetic about Safety First and whatever it takes to make this noisy complicated world work for when you are highly sensitive and/or somewhat witchy.
What does a Havi do here?
Founded The Fluent Self in 2005. Director/curator ever since. Writes about self-fluency and very interior design.
Her teaching is of the very sneaky variety — document/model/live the work of self-fluency by practicing in public. This is intentional. Anyone with a keen sense of curiosity can study through observation. This is how we subvert the rigged-game bullshit of guru culture aka putting other people on pedestals instead of remembering we have our own answers. Accessing our own wisdom means letting go making someone else more of an expert in us than we are.
What does a Havi like?
Play. Quiet. Water. Movement. Horizon. Being under the stars.
Bells. Bridges. Secret ops! Inventing words and superpowers.
Texture, explosive color, big taste, richness of sensation. Raw silk. Heaping spoonfuls. Spice. Bare feet on grass. Old wooden doors. Freshly ground peanut butter. Roughness and edges. Anticipation.
Messiness. Order. Contradiction. Rough things that become smooth over time and smooth things that become rough over time. Whispered words. The shapes of letters. Moonstone.
What is she doing right now?
Writing, probably in the form of skipping stones. Testing out ridiculous dance moves on a balance board. Walking a labyrinth or getting lost in a kaleidoscope. Naming things. Reducing input as much as possible. Adding vulcan fire salt to everything.
Where do you find her?
Writing here. In the comments section of posts. Otherwise mostly on the road, generally between Idaho, Washington, Oregon, California, and Nevada.
If you want to play with a Havi
Hi! I don’t believe in teaching or coaching-like things anymore, but I do play with other secret agents who already practice self-fluency. More on that soon, but the recommendation is work with the techniques and material until you can access and trust your own wise knowing and don’t need me at all!
In the meantime, you can play at The Secret Star Society if you like, and hang out in the comments.
In the meantime, love love love love love, and even more love than that.
photo by heaven mcarthur
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