Change your setting / Center at the center:

Change your setting / Center at the center:

The dome in the desert was the grandest of grand experiments
and I enjoyed every minute of it.

And now we are done, because everything ends, onward to new adventures.
I will update on the blog/newsletter with details on new retreats in new magical locations.

With love for you, and trust in right timing until we retreat again!

the retreat at stargazer house

Come to the most peaceful place I know

Come because it is indicated,
and because it is good and useful to just be;
experience what happens when you do this in an extraordinary setting,
the healing in the pause,
no agenda other than show up,
be called, be here, [breathe & exist] in a state of awe,
held by the magic of PLACE

This magnificence will be your view

This roundness as your sanctuary + observatory,
come take steadying breaths beneath a wild canopy of stars, sing to the mountains in the distance if you like, follow whichever paths call to you — on the grounds and within you…

Return to yourself


Re-start from resonance;
rededicate yourself to your own
heart of sweetness, and let yourself rediscover
[that quiet pull of half-forgotten desire]
in these endless Arizona skies

Come for this

This is a place of sanctuary & magnificence,
of wild clarity & creative play
and it has been called into existence
for you & us
& this

It is a magical space in many senses, but especially this:

The center is not here all the time, not open at all times, instead it opens and closes for you, opening like a flower, blossoming for the time you are called here, a center that exists to support your return to center, does that make sense? Maybe. Maybe it is just a clue, and maybe a clue is enough. Let’s see if I can show you…

Come if it calls you
and come if it scares you
(I get it: same!)

What is this retreat for?
(Whatever you need it to be…)


Arrive with no agenda at all other than the gift of this container of designated time/space/magic for recovery. This is your reset button. Come read, nap, journal, devote yourself to doing Glorious Nothing in a truly healing setting.

While workaholic culture doesn’t get this (spoiler: it doesn’t want us to get it!), the pursuit of Glorious Nothing is some seriously powerful shit. Huge unanticipated magic is set in motion through replenishing. It’s astounding how much is revealed and solved through this intentional not-doing.


Time for writing (and righting!), a secret project, or a retreat just for you and your business. Immerse in dedicated time-space for the you who creates and dreams. Commune with your project, follow the sparks, surprise yourself, make giant progress on whatever wants your loving attention.


Integration time with Incoming You or a version of you who embodies qualities you want: issue the invitation and then get to know each other. I’ll share more on the blog about how I like to chrysalis.


Maybe you don’t know yet why you need to come here, it will be clear when you arrive or as you are leaving. Maybe it’s a heart-healing, an emptying and releasing, a welcoming, possibly a project or identity so secret that it can’t even be whispered yet. Come for the good surprises and to follow the rabbit holes!


I do not have words for the magic of this place or what it does.

But everyone gets amazing insights, next steps are revealed, clarity arrives.

“Havi, I have never been so focused and motivated in my entire life…it’s like all the wisdom from my retreat time at the dome took hold this week!!! It’s been wild to see how my time there has changed how I do everything.” — Anna Pruitt

This place is so peaceful, so beautiful, so magnificent and full of wonder.

You’ll feel it. You don’t really have to do anything other than show up. Things happen.

For more pictures, find us on Instagram: @thefluentself

Shape of a retreat day

There are no rules and no strict schedule, because this time is for you, but here’s what a day generally looks like:

I roll around on the floor and pretend to be a bobcat, you can join in, take a desert walk, or read in the sun.

Then I make a giant breakfast because breakfast is my one true love, join if you like.

After breakfast and witchy caffeinated potions, I light candles, pull cards and do some journaling which I call stone skipping. I ask questions of my project and incoming secret identity. We can do this together. Usually our projects tell us what they want for the day, and we follow that intel.

Maybe it’s a writing day or a picnic day. Or a Lots Of Napping Day! I support your project’s mission.

Evening is for the outrageous sunset. I do evening stretches with lots of props. We can review our day. Maybe project stars on the dome ceiling. Ultimately the day is yours to follow whatever pulls you.

My role, or: how co-retreating works

I host your retreat and am on retreat while you’re here. I channel superpowers and run sorceress ops for enhanced magic. Happy to chat about our secret missions using cover stories. We play in companionship and follow the trails that call to us. More formal one on one sessions available to book ahead of time for a reduced fee.

nothing less than
breath-takingly glorious
& spectacular here…


As you may have gathered, the location is devastatingly beautiful. We have five private acres to that back up onto Arizona state land as far as the eye can see. Enjoy gloriously uninterrupted desert, mountains and skies. Definitely bring closed-toe shoes/boots and long pants for wandering desert trails because most things are prickly and/or poisonous! You’ll see butterflies, bunnies, quail, you might even make a roadrunner friend.

* I’m available as walking/adventuring companion/ally as energy allows.

A breath for honor and clarity to name and acknowledge: this special place is unceded land of the Tohono O’odham Nation. Presence with this. May all we do on these grounds be in support of justice, healing, truth + consciousness here and beyond.

Your retreat suite in the dome

Private entrance. Breathtaking views from the picture window, a beautiful deck, two closets, huge bathroom.

Room has desk, mini fridge, lots of books. And the comfiest snuggliest spiraling cushion for cocooning.

Potentially useful intel about your space!

  • Walking from driveway to your door takes me 25 steps, relatively flat ground with a slight slope
  • One step up to your door: 3.5 inches high (9cm)
  • Door dimensions: main door is 2ft wide (61cm), sliding door to ensuite bathroom 34″ (86cm) fully opened
  • Shower/bathtub: ledge height is 20″ (50cm), tub 56×36″ (142x91cm)
  • Queen-sized Tuft & Needle Mint mattress (so comfy!), frame supports 2000lbs (907 kg)
  • Bed linens are jersey cotton (cotton-tencel blend), turkish towels are supima cotton
  • We aim to keep the center pet-allergen and chemical free, we clean with natural materials: Dr Bronner’s castile soap, baking soda, vinegar, essential oils
  • Access to main studio from outside: two steps, or enter via back deck for just one step!

Food situation

The kitchen at the center is stocked full of ingredients and snacks, help yourself to absolutely anything there. Let me know if there’s stuff you can’t eat or don’t want, happy to accommodate. We can do a grocery run on day 1 for you to pick up anything else.

I LOVE to make giant piles of food and whenever I’m making a meal or a snack, you are welcome to partake, or eat leftovers later or whatever you like. Keep me company or not, eat in the studio, on the deck, in your suite, as feels indicated.

You’re also welcome to use the kitchen to make food whenever, and there’s a fridge in your room if you’d rather snack there.

Help yourself to coffee or tea, and I can mix a cocktail/mocktail for enhanced sunset-watching joy.


The center is located just half an hour away from Tucson International Airport (TUS) by car, about $30 USD to Lyft/Uber. I am happy to run airport transport as long as it isn’t in the middle of the night.

Your view
from the yoga

Come to the roundness. You’re invited.

Come read, nap, write and/or right things

Come devote time, space, love and attention to a project, (maybe even the project of finding out why you needed to come here…)

Your project can be recovery or discovery or both, and you certainly don’t need to know what it is, just soak up peace & quiet, and receive the next steps…


Come have a good cry and an even better laugh.

Come to this wild magical place of peacefulness & wonder, and discover what happens, because whatever happens, you WILL leave transformed
(in a good way, promise!)


And yes there’s at least two double meanings in that: setting and setting, center and center

stargazing: ready to retreat!

What you get

Time & space in an incredible setting to discover what you are here to discover. Deep replenishing! Wild epiphanies! Commune with your incoming self, hang out with me while I practice sorcery.

Use the studio space in any way you wish — roll arond, play, read, journal, watch the clouds through the magnificent skylight.

I’m here an ally in adventures and presence if you want someone to join you on walks or co-work on our projects in the main space, share a meal, go on a grocery run, embark on a field trip day

You will be here. Magical things will happen. Next steps revealed. Stride back into your life with new habits, inspiration, clarity + excitement for pursuing your true yeses.

Bonuses (this week only)

I am doing a year program that includes weekly email Secret Missives about how to DIY retreat AND a secret group process space, I will comp you into both of these!

Leave a note in the cart checkout with the retreat you want.
Retreats go Friday through Wednesday. LMK if payment options is the only way for you.

beauty is healing /
all is revealed in
the quiet moments

A postscript in which I say fuck and also cry,
but not in a bad way

Literally every time I come here I find myself just gasping at how stunning the sky is, like come the fuck on, are you fucking kidding me with how beautiful it is here, how is this even possible!

And then I cry a little, and then somehow I feel better about everything, this wild beauty is transformative and healing in ways that I cannot begin to describe, what an honor to be able to play here together in whatever time is right.

Come give it all to the mountains
and the vast sea of sky
Come be held in this round space
(ground downward / look up)
let this place work its magic
a portal for something new and good to come through

all the small-printables (and the superpowers of trust, love, all timing right timing)

When we invest time/funds/energy in the process of BECOMING, integrating our incoming selves, it’s easy to get overwhelmed, because inviting change is a big deal and often scary, all the more so when this change is deeply desired. Add monster-fears and the online culture of frantic decision-making, and the whole thing becomes not fun. LET’S NOT DO THAT. 🙂 Let’s pause and breathe, change the experience, attune to ourselves, return to resonance. Let’s find our way to our quiet warm grounded yes. This feels more harmonious and sustainable as well as less stressful!

You’re committing to this container of time/space/love/presence for doing the work, whatever it is (might be deep resting!), and we are dedicated to supporting your commitment in all ways including not letting you run away from it. This is the heart-based thought process behind our policy of no returns/refunds, which you’re welcome to read about if it interests you. That said, we’re all humans going through life’s tribulations, so if something big comes up and you need to switch your dates, talk to us, we will do our best to figure out a new booking for you.

Please keep in mind when booking your dates that this space is opening specifically for you to come *be* in it at that time, and I’m committing to showing up at the same time, so that’s a lot of logistics already in place to hold your process. In other words, choose your dates with clarity and intention!

Giving back: Our main donation focus currently is helping asylum seekers who are trying to get into the United States, and organizations helping separated families at the border, we will be giving to Raices Texas and Paola Mendoza’s actions. We also like to gift retreat time to a writer/artist/activist whose work inspires us, as a thank you, so they too can rest, replenish + experience the healing magic and creative regeneration of this place.

Closing with breath, and with great love + gratitude for you, excited to retreat together!

The Fluent Self