Fluent Self Item!A somewhat goofy mini-collection of stuff I’ve been reading, stuff I’ve been thinking about and oh, some completely random crap.

Basically the stuff that never gets mentioned here because I’m not the kind of person who can just make some teeny little point. Not into the whole brevity thing, as the Dude would say.

Actually, I’m under the strict compulsion to write ten pages about anything on my mind. So this is me. Practicing brevity.


I know we ended on a cliffhanger yesterday (and I promise we’ll get back to that exciting story tomorrow) but it’s Wednesday.

Also, my brain is tired and I can’t write straight.

And am also completely distracted by all the smart, funny, weird, interesting things on Twitter, which is partly why these Item! posts exist, because otherwise all this stuff just vanishes.

Item! Post No. 24 in a series that still has no point but has become (for me, at least) weirdly addictive.

Item! Care for your introvert!

Loved this Atlantic article by Jonathan Rauch.

Not because I necessarily agree with everything (or even a lot of) what he has to say but because it’s helpful for me to remember that other highly sensitive people have it hard too.

We’re sensitive mice.

And sometimes it’s nice to have permission to stay that way.

“Second, when you see an introvert lost in thought, don’t say “What’s the matter?” or “Are you all right?”

Third, don’t say anything else, either.”

Item! Best. News. Ever.

Okay, so I don’t have a television, but no, that does not stop me from being madly obsessed with the short-lived series Arrested Development.

I think I’ve seen every single episode at least twice. And the ones with Liza Minnelli in them? Way too many times and still not enough.

So it was pretty cool when I saw the trailer for the new Arrested Development Documentary.

Be happy for me!

Item! Sometimes people want to give us money and we don’t let them!

Nice post from Sparky Firepants about wanting to give people money and not getting to.

It’s called … Hello? Is anyone there? Can I give someone my money here?

And yeah.

This situation is totally a thing. I notice at least a few times a week that I’m really wanting to give someone my money and they’re (accidentally, I guess) making it extra hard on me.

And goodness knows I probably am guilty of this too. Useful.

He’s @sparkyfirepants on Twitter.

Item! Two lovely posts about a Sad Little Ghost.

The first post is a conversation post which references an earlier post which references me.

She’s doing the whole “talking to her stucknesses” thing.

Very good stuff.

“My Sad Little Ghost isn’t haunting me because he wants me to feel bad about myself. It’s a Sad Little Ghost because he’s just trying to get me to the things that he knows (and for that matter, I know) would make me happy in the long run. He’s sad because I don’t listen to him.”

Go read the rest.

She’s @supercareo on Twitter.

Item! This is nothing short of miraculous but maybe you could end up coming to Taos?

The amazing Jennifer Louden — who is not only smart and inspiring, but is also pretty much the only self-help-ey author that I actually listen to) is doing her week-long women’s writing retreat in Taos, New Mexico.

I crush so hard on everything she does that it’s just embarrassing.

And, incredibly, I’ve been invited to be a kind of scholar-in-residence there, teaching destuckification and epiphany-generating wackiness and gentle yoga and maybe even some emergency calming techniques.

And of course it sold out early because this is basically the best thing in the entire world.

But now, even more incredibly, two people can’t make it and there is an opening and ohmygod you should take it if you can.

Seriously. The opportunity to learn from someone like Jen in person is heaven. Add to that the prospect of getting destuckified with your writing and finding your voice again and devoting time, energy and love to healing the stuck bits …

I can’t even describe what an outrageously life-changing opportunity this is so I will stop stuttering and just give you the links already.

So first you want to read the long but useful page that describes the course and then you’ll probably miss the tiny, tiny, tiny almost-invisible link to where you actually sign up for it so yeah, this is where you do that.

Item! I I’m not the only one who makes fun of Stu!

About ten different people sent me the link to this picture.

Because I rant about Stu (my McCarthy-ist voice-to-text software) and his curious and malicious misspellings every single Friday.


Item! Comments!

So it was really cool the other day when I was working on my practice of how I ask for stuff and then I made a very specific request for the kinds of comments I wanted to receive.

And that totally felt awkward and weird.

But the cool part was that people really got it and all the comments were so lovely … and I realized that I’m actually making life easier on everyone when I’m specific about what I want and what I don’t want.

So I’m going to try it again!

Here’s what I want:

  • Things you’re thinking about.
  • Things you think I should read.

My commitment.
I am committed to giving time and thought to absorbing everything that people say, and I will interact with their ideas and with my own stuff as compassionately and honestly as is possible for me.

That is all.

Happy reading.

And happy Blustery Windsday. See you tomorrow.

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