Friday chickenBecause it’s Friday AGAIN. And because traditions are important. In which I cover the good stuff and the hard stuff in my week, trying for the non-preachy, non-annoying side of self-reflection.

And you get to join in if you feel like it.

It was an odd little week. Don’t really know what to think of it yet.

So I’m going to go bake challah now.

On with the week.

The hard stuff

Eating frogs.

Who is that horrible, horrible ruin-er of my week author who came up with the idea of frog eating — the worst metaphor in the history of the world for getting stuff done?

Oh right, it’s Brian Tracy. Thanks Google.

Worse, it turns out that original seed of the idea came (completely accidentally, of course) from Mark Twain, who, upon finding out that he is now being used as an example for anything by — of all people — productivity experts decided to roll over in his grave and then vomit and then haunt the living daylights out of all of us.

But I digress.

I had a bunch of things to do this week that I really, really didn’t want to do.

Thinking about them as frogs made it worse. Thinking about them as frogs that needed to be eaten made it totally way especially worse.

It was gross and slimy and horrible. I don’t want to talk about it. Out, damned metaphor.


I know it’s good for me, but ayiiiiiiiiiiiii.

The next day everything hurts more and it was really warm this week and I had to wear long sleeves to not scare people with all the bruises.

System changes in my business… always weird and hard.

My head hurts now too. Ow.

Guilt. Obligations.

See: frogs.

Alright. Good stuff?

The good stuff


Even though my dear girls (Guns ‘n Rollers!) lost to the Heartless Heathers, they were still extremely bad-ass. They played hard, skated mean, and I love them.

Okay, fine. I love the Heathers too. But argh.

Bonus: I didn’t lose my voice and I didn’t get in any fights.

Also, I left Selma at home because she doesn’t like crowds. Which is too bad because duck derby would be the most awesome thing in the entire world.

I saw the most amazing film.

It’s called The Fall. And it blew my mind. To be honest, I was kind of expecting to hate it because my brother recommended it, so I was fully prepared for it to be boring and pretentious and arty and annoying.

Because I’m the worst sister in the world.

But it was incredible. And inspiring. And beautiful. You should see it.

Spring = Happy.

As if the lilacs and tulips weren’t reason enough to be frolicking around without a care in the world, it gets even better because everyone in Portland is all happy and frolicking too.

Also, my gentleman friend made me take Monday off and we went for a four hour walk in the sun, which we probably haven’t done since the last time we were in Berlin. No, that was a completely euphemism-free sentence, if you’re wondering.


As much as I hated some of the things I had uh … on my plate this week, we did get crazy amounts of stuff done this week.

Including – finally – putting up the new Events page and taking care of a bunch of other super important things like getting my airplane tickets to Taos and setting up a bunch of things that have been driving me crazy.

And … STUISMS of the week.

Stu is my paranoid McCarthy-ist voice-to-text software who delights in torturing me misunderstanding me. I can’t stand him.

Anyway, some of the gems from this week, including the occasional acetyl accidental Freudian slip.

  • “I may have 2×2 of them” instead of I may have to buy two of them.
  • “It’s remarkable that Seth Godin sends hats” instead of It’s remarkable, in the Seth Godin sense that…
  • “making any decisions are ominous” instead of making decisions on this.
  • “being a novice like that” instead of weren’t being goddess-like.
  • “for your Church” instead of for your hurt (nice capitalizing, Stu).
  • “These Gen-Xers are so here” instead of these insights are so huge.


  • The Fluent Self Archives (for those of you who like to spend a quiet afternoon reading old posts) have moved. Not in the top navigation anymore.
  • There is a big, happy blue starburst-ey sort of image in the sidebar right under the “free stuff” bit. It says Archives! That’s where they are.
  • There is now an Events page thing (you can also find it in the navigation links at the top of any page on the website) where you can find out what I’m teaching when. (This includes both live events and online courses.) Yay.
  • Speaking of which, if you are thinking about maybe signing up for the Stuff Havi Thinks You Should Know (about how to get really, really great testimonials and referrals) class, do it. This is the most affordable it’s ever going to be.*

*And if you don’t know the answers to the two questions that give you $100 off the course tuition, they’re actually in today’s post.

That’s it for me …

And yes yes yes, of course you can join in my Friday ritual right here in the comments bit if you feel like it.

Yeah? Anything hard and/or good happen in your week?

And, as always, have a glorrrrrrrrrrrrious weekend. And a happy week to come.

The Fluent Self