So I started this blog a year and a half ago. With a post called I has a blog.

Since then there have been four hundred and thirty posts, if you include this one.

And close to ten thousand comments.

It’s weird, I know.

I don’t know what’s up with that last number, but I can definitely explain about the four hundred and thirty posts thing.

For starters, there are a lot of Chickens in there. And really, it’s not so much that I’m crazy prolific as just crazy.

And also because I treat blogging as therapy that I don’t have to pay for.

And because I do a lot of shiva spirals, which deliver epiphanies, often (for me) in the form of information that wants to be written down.

Anyway. That’s not the point.

The point is this:

I need some help choosing posts to recommend to people.

I have this stupid “greatest hits” thing in the sidebar.

Which was put up forever ago (in bloggishness, not in the grand scheme of things) before there really were any hits, greatest or otherwise.

Even if we assume that eventually I will come up with a name less annoying than “greatest hits”, it would still be nice to have a way to point people to some Useful Stuff.

The idea being that it that might give them a better sense of what we do around here. Stuff that isn’t in the FAQ or the Glossary.

Things that are not helping me decide.

Criteria? Hell if I know.

Because I don’t think number of comments should necessarily be relevant.

It might be a measure of something but I’m still not sure what.

I mean, there are a hundred comments on this post about hangers. There are a lot of comments when I piss people off by saying things like this.

And sometimes a specific post will get twenty thousand page views in a day. Like when I talked about what inspires me to buy art.

And about a year ago when I was trying to get people to stop hiring me, I put together a page of biggification-related posts to read on a page called no, seriously, don’t hire me.

Or my duck has a cult following of her own, so yeah, people also obsess over the posts that have pictures of her.

But again, these aren’t necessarily the posts that I care about. Or the ones that are infused with the essence of Havi-ness. Or the ones that really get to the core of the stuff we do here.

So here’s what I want.

Some of your favorites.

Because I know for a fact that there are a lot of you out there who have spent weeks obsessively stalking my archives (and yes, I love how dirty “in my archives” sounds).

And even if you haven’t. If there is a post that did something for you — a good something, yes? — that would be helpful for me.

My commitment:

I will be ridiculously appreciative of the suggestions my people come up with.

I will come up with a list of some of my own personal favorites that no one ever reads.

In the meantime I will leave you with how The Fluent Self got started, a story about scissors that helped me realize that I actually am a writer, kind of … and how this blog is totally not an overnight success even if that’s what it looks like from the outside.

And a few words about regrets.

My ask.

Otherwise known as? Comment Zen for the day.

Given that this is a place where we work on our stuff, acknowledge our stuff, give ourselves permission to have it to begin with … things definitely come up that can be awkward and trigger-ey.

So. We’re patient with each other (okay, fine, with ourselves), when we can stand it. We generally try to recognize that our stuff is our stuff. We don’t throw shoes.

Mensch-like: it’s our thing.

And if you have an idea for a less-dorky way to list these than “greatest hits”, I will adore you forever.

The Fluent Self