very personal adsPersonal ads! They’re … personal! Very.

So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.

Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.

And now it’s my weekly ritual. Yay, ritual!

Let’s do it!

Thing 1: Perspective.

Here’s what I want:

Things are pretty hectic on Planet Havi right now.

Teaching in North Carolina. Flying back to Portland. Taking off to Berlin.

Oh, and running a business at the same time. And writing a book. Wow.

So: I would like some tiny, sweet moments of quiet. Moments of grace, spaciousness, expansiveness.

Other than the ones that come during meditation or yoga or in the midst of the delightful whoosh of equal parts calm and chaos that is Shiva Nata.

Spaces. Breaks. Gaps. Little safe holes to crawl into.

Here’s how I want to get them:

Quiet little deguiltified reminders.

Or they could just show up.

Or I could remember to take them.

Or my gentleman friend could help me create intentional spaces for brief bits of not-doing.

Or? I’m open to possibility.

My commitment.

I will treasure these moments. I won’t wait until sickness or exhaustion make me take them. I will enjoy them even if they are brief. I will drink them in.

Thing 2: A blog post about Very Personal Ads.

Here’s the situation:

So I have been trying to write a post about these Very Personal Ads.

Well, about Very Personal Ads in general.

As a practice. As a concept.

About why this is not (for me, at least) an especially wacky practice. How (for me, at least) it has nothing at all to do with “law of attraction”-ey kinds of stuff.

Because people have questions.

And because they say stuff like “I didn’t know you believed in x, y and z” (I don’t) or “I don’t know how to make this work” (I do).

And the post is just not writing itself. And I can’t seem to get in the mood to write it.

I have lots to say about the topic. I just can’t write the post.

More about that:

It’s really important to me that people know they are completely allowed to have their own experience, whatever it is.

Because I have zero desire to dictate someone else’s experience or to impose my own Theories of How The World Works on them.

So if someone already has a life philosophy that’s working for them, awesome.

And at the same time, I want to give you guys the freedom to not have to subscribe to any particular reality theory to get big, crazy benefits from this practice.

And I want you to have tools that work, so that you can use Very Personal Ads (if that’s something that even kind of appeals to you) in a way that’s healthy and effective. And sustainable. And fun!

Ways this situation could resolve itself:

Maybe the post could write itself!

Maybe I could teach a clinic about how to create Very Personal Ads …

That could make it a lot easier to cover things like how to do it so it works. Or why it’s not necessarily a hippie spiritual practice, though it can be …

Maybe I can just give this time to gestate and stop trying to push a post that isn’t ready to be written.

My commitment.

I’m open to what comes up.

Willing to be surprised.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

The server issue is resolving itself nicely. Tech Pirate Charlotte is doing her magical genius thing.
The money showed up. We’re good for now.

And I’m still working on the “receiving support in a variety of ways” thing. But the working on it is really helping me.

And on Tuesday, I received amazing resources of support from an unexpected source and it was really freaking cool.

Big crazy biggification stuff happening over here. And a lot of people are coming together to make it happen.

So I’m feeling good about it.

Comments. Since I’m already asking …

I am adding to my practice of asking for stuff by being more specific about I would like to receive in the comments. And that way, if you feel like leaving one (you totally don’t have to), you get to be part of this experiment too. ­čÖé

Here’s what I want:

  • Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for.
  • Thoughts or ideas about ways any of the personal ads here could come true.

What I would rather not have:

  • Reality theories.
  • Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
  • To be judged or psychoanalyzed.

My commitment.

I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird. I’m commit to giving time and thought to the things that people say, and to interact with their ideas and with my own stuff as compassionately and honestly as is possible.

Thanks for doing this with me! Doing the Very Personal Ads with you is one of the highlights of my week.

The Fluent Self