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So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.

Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.

Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.

And now it’s my Sunday ritual. Yay, ritual!

Let’s do it.

Thing 1: emotional and financial support with FUNBREWING

Here’s what I want:

Yes, I asked for support last week in a general sort of way. And got it.

And now I need more, and in different ways.

We (finally) announced our gigantic fun-brewing project this week. This is part of the Big Thing my pirate crew and I have been secretly working on since January.

And it’s to raise fun (yes, I am aware that other people say “funds”) for the the new Playground.

Opening a studio is exciting. And it also involves a lot of expenses.

It looks like we might be signing a lease this week, which is eeeeeeeeeeee! wonderful. And it also means we need stuff. For the studio. Quickly.

Like flooring, which is going to cost at least $1600. And all the materials for the stage we’re building. And screens. And curtains. And more props and toys for Old Turkish Lady yoga.

And a whole laundry list of other things.

So the fun-brewing needs help and support. And the monies. And I need patience and faith.

I need help staying connected to myself so that I can remember the essence of my mission, without getting overwhelmed by all the stuff around it.

Ways this could work:

More Shiva Nata to keep me in flow and deliver some serious epiphanies about this.

I can brunch some other products or at least put them in pre-sale mode.

Maybe we’ll throw some kind of party. Like a silly Shivathon dance marathon.

I can remind people about the fantastic Monster Coloring Book.

Fairy godmothers.



Unexpected sources of help.

Things I can’t possibly even imagine right now.

My commitment.

Again, to let myself have a meltdown if I need one.

To ask for help.

To breathe. To dance. To keep moving.

To sleep on it. And then sleep on it some more.

To brainstorm possibilities at the Kitchen Table.

To be open to being surprised.

Thing 2: Support for Guns N Rollers!.

Here’s what I want:

So Selma and I sponsor the coolest Roller Derby team in Portland.

You know that already. I’ve written about why Shivanauts love Derby, and of course really everyone loves Derby.

I know I have a ton of blog readers in the Pacific Northwest. A bunch of you in PDX proper. And I know some of y’all are Shivanauts.

Where are you guys? Selma and I want to see you at some of the bouts wearing pink and black (and maybe a moustache) and cheering for GNR!

I’ll be there with Shannon and Danielle and Cairene and Dana, and a duck. Nu? Are you coming?

Ways this could work:

I’m just going to ask.

And I’ll try to throw out a reminder on Twitter before the next bout sells out.

My commitment.

To keep harassing you about this, of course.

Thing 3: Caring for myself.

Here’s what I want:

There’s kind of a lot going on right now.

I’ve been pretty good about sticking to my napping regimen.

But I need to be giving myself some love while all the crazy is happening.

Ways this could work:

I’m not sure.

My commitment.

To pay attention to my patterns.

To keep my focus on taking care of myself first. And reminding myself that this is really the only way it works.

Well, it works the other way too but the price is too high. This has to be about living what I teach.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

I asked for support with the fun-brewing. And there was so much lovely excitement when I announced the monster coloring book. Everyone was lovely about it.

And it’s been a joy to see how enthusiastic everyone is about this new direction. So yay.

Then I asked for help with all the horrid things I didn’t want to do. And that went pretty well.

And I asked for stuff to work with the Vancouver trip. Not sure about that one yet.

All in all, it was a pretty good week. And I may be repeating some of these asks next time, with slight variations. We’ll see.

Comments. Since I’m already asking …

I am adding to my practice of asking by being more specific about what I would like to receive in the comments.

Here’s what I want (just leave them in the comments):

  • Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!

What I would rather not have:

  • Reality theories.
  • Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
  • To be judged or psychoanalyzed.
  • Advices.

My commitment.

I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird.

Thanks for doing this with me!

The Fluent Self