Fluent Self Item!A somewhat goofy mini-collection of stuff I’ve been reading, stuff I’ve been thinking about and oh, some completely random crap.

Basically the stuff that never gets mentioned here because I’m not the kind of person who can just make some teeny little point. Not into the whole brevity thing, as the Dude would say.

Actually, I’m under the strict compulsion to write ten pages about anything on my mind. So this is me. Practicing brevity.

Still in my February Cranky. Which is somewhat preferable to a full-on February Funk.

But not by much.

Grrr. But hey. Wednesday. So we have Items (Item!).

Item! Post No. 54 in a mostly-weekly series that has me convinced that Wednesday happens way more often than it actually should.

Item! The measure free hippie cook.

Oh this makes me happy.

This site really is called MeasureFreeHippieCook.com. Perfect.

The tagline? Leave Your Measuring Cups Behind & Take Back Your Kitchen.

Which pretty much sums up my entire baking philosophy.

Well, except when I make pita. Then I still measure. But badly. So that counts, right?

“Could it be that … turning the art of cooking into a lockstep scientific exercise alienated us from our kitchens? To the delicious revolution!”

Also: cashew-cilantro pesto. Yum.

Got to this via the wonderful Celeste who is @burnkitty on Twitter.

Item! Tastes like chicken.

My friend Jeff is the funniest of the funniest.

This video of him and Evo Terra being fake social media experts is just delightful. Also, I love how they manage not to completely fall apart.

Jeff, we miss you! Come back for a PDX visit! Pleeeeeeeease?

“Social media kind of tastes like chicken…”

That’s @jmoriarty and @evo_terra on Twitter.

Item! Speaking of metaphors…

Jacquelyn wrote a terrific post about why she does what she does.

I was the marketing, sales, customer service, and billing departments rolled into a tidy little package. Things hummed along quite happily until, of course, one of our customers called to say:

At which point I would turn to my business partner and say, “I just want to bake pies.”

Okay. She doesn’t bake pies.
But she cooks up a mean metaphor. And she’s great. You’ll like her! A lot.

She’s @jacquelynkitt on Twitter.

Item! Writing about it.

Kyeli wrote about how violating boundaries is never okay.

And about that thing where we go eek and run away because we haven’t figured out what to do when someone is an ass.

I have a lot of thoughts on how scary/hard/challenging it is to know what to say or do in these unexpected moments of uncomfortable and inappropriate.

Later I always come up with a dozen or so of ways I could have responded, and honestly sometimes I wish I had a list.

Or a practice room.

But for now just wanted to say good for you Kyeli for not putting up with this stuff. And for writing about it.

She’s @kyeli on Twitter.

Item! Non-scary law questions for your business.

Rebecca has an e-course thing.

It doesn’t cost anything. And it’s about making legal Stuff not so scary and less baffling.

I haven’t signed up yet (one of the flaws of my no email thing) but it looks like a really good idea and useful service. Rebecca is awesome and I really like her.

She’s @cnsl2creativity on Twitter.

Item! Seriously great stuff.

Next time I run the Destuckification Retreat, instead of having a page about how great it is, I’m just going to point to people like Kelly, who has been blogging up a storm of smart, funny, fascinating content ever since getting back.

I can’t even call it “content” because content sounds kind of boring and this stuff is just hot. Wow.

Honestly her posts are so good that I don’t even know which ones to link to anymore.

There was one about guts that I read three times.

“A friend of mine recently had a close encounter with her gut.

She and her gut had previously related on a strictly need-to-know basis: Don’t ask, don’t tell. If I’m about to run into a wall? Holler. Otherwise, I’ve got this, thanks.

Ooh. This is also the post where Kelly said, “If direct response wanted to meet for a beer, I would totally be there.

And then her post about her worst client ever, which is one of the funniest — and most useful — things I’ve read online.

She’s @copylicious on Twitter.

Item! Visual word of the week.

Last week I wrote about Visuwords, which lets you map meanings of words.

It’s gorgeous.

And I have been kind of doing a practice of using it when I am stuckified on something. Just to see what connections are missing.

So this week my stuck thing was a trust issue with someone. I really wanted them to meet a commitment, and wasn’t sure that I trusted them to be able to.

So I looked up TRUST.

Here’s what I learned: one of the forms or permutations of trust is expect.

As in, I trust that you’ll get back to me on this by Friday.

And part of what wasn’t working in that particular situation was me being in sovereignty, and clear about my … expectations.

Anyway. It all got cleared up. But I thought that was kind of a cool little mini-revelation.

Item! Update from the land of the Peculiar & Hilarious Shivanauts!

The “peculiar and hilarious” thing comes from Melynda’s sweet bit about Butterfly Wishes.

Let’s see. I wrote up some unlikely answers to unlikely questions that I’m totally not qualified to answer.

And there is also a new Shivanauts group blog — thanks, Amy for making that happen.

Yay, Shivanauts!

Item! Comments! Here’s what I want this time:

  • Things you’re thinking about.
  • Things to look forward to in March (forward, March).

My commitment.
I am committed to giving time and thought to the things that people say. Even though asking for what I want still feels awkward for me, I’m just going to remind myself that this is a thing I’m practicing.

That is all.

Happy reading.

And happy Blustery Windsday. But Balmy for Claire, of course. Of course. See you tomorrow.

The Fluent Self