very personal adsPersonal ads! They’re … personal! Very.

So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.

Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.

Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.

And now it’s my Sunday ritual. Yay, ritual!

Let’s do it.

Thing 1: my back.

Here’s what I want:

I strained a muscle in my back yesterday morning (a perfect storm of stress, disorientation, not being mindful), and now there are all these … unexpected limitations.

So what I want is:

— to maneuver these limitations with grace, patience and a sense of humor.
— to accept that yes, I am going to need help with a lot of things.
— quick, healthy healing.

And to not be too annoyed about stuff like my gentleman friend having to put my socks on for me.

Ways this could work:

Ice packs.

Information from my body about what’s going on and what it needs.

Softening. Mindful movement. Rest.

Lots and lots of rest.

Faith that this isn’t necessarily a bad thing even if it really does feel like one right now.

Permission to be in the hard. And appreciation for all that rest and how hard it is to make a priority when I have so much happening.

My commitment.

I will keep talking to and with my body. Asking it what it needs from me.

I will make this whole healing thing a priority and do my best to treat it … if not like a guest, then at least not as the most annoying thing that has ever happened to me.

I will do what I can to meet myself where I am — so if I am feeling annoyed and resentful, that’s allowed too.

To notice what my patterns are, without judging myself for having them. As much as I can, without pushing myself. To give myself support.

Also, yesterday afternoon I spent four and a half hours in bed. Two hundred points for me!

Thing 2: keep on avoiding Internet Hangover.

Here’s what I want:

These past ten days I have been using a couple of the techniques that Hiro is going to teach in her upcoming Internet Hangover class that I totally bullied her into teaching.

And it’s been incredible.

I only had internet hangover twice this week. Instead of oh, a hundred times a day.

And then I knew what was happening and cleared it. Awesome.

So I’m ready for these techniques to become deeply ingrained habits. A regular practice. So I can add some new ones, since I’m really just scraping the surface here.

Ways this could work:

Having a really clear intention that yes, I am changing my relationship with being online.

And also with how I navigate the experience of being on different sites, and monitoring what’s going on while I’m there.

My commitment.

To pay attention.

To be impressed with myself (two hundred points, baby!) for being in the process.

To recognize that these are big changes, and that they’re not only influencing my work but everything I do. So I’m allowed to take some time with it.

Big crazy gratitude for this stuff.

Thing 2.5: Lots of wonderful people in the Internet Hangover class

Here’s what I want:

While I was just writing about my relationship with internet hangover, one of my monsters came up and I thought:

Man, I hope I didn’t talk Hiro into teaching this class just because I need it so badly.

But what I meant was: I hope her class is packed with the kind of smart, fun, sweet-hearted people that come to my classes.

Ways this could work:

Lots of enthusiasm at the Twitter bar.

Everyone who needs this course finding the page, and realizing just how amazing it is.

I’m going to give you the link to the course page again, just in case you haven’t read it yet. 🙂

My commitment.

To be an enthusiastic evangelist for this thing because Hiro’s stuff has done the most remarkable things for my business and everything else in my life. And this, especially, fills an enormous need in the world.

Seven hundred points for the fact that I met Hiro!

Thing 3: Faith. Trust. To get better at letting things happen instead of making them happen.

Here’s what I want:

To release my need to push push push until stuff starts to move.

Ways this could work:

Patience. Practice. Faith.

Repeat as necessary.

My commitment.

To recognize that there are good reasons for me to cling to something that has served me well for so many years.

To acknowledge the power and legitimacy of old patterns, even as I’m trying to introduce new ones.

I can’t do Shiva Nata site on it right now, because of my back. But I can recite the numbers. Or listen to the numbers.

And let the math do its magic in my head. Let the sequences do whatever useful reprogramming needs to happen. Because that works too.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

I asked for smoothness with lease-signing and got it. We haven’t signed yet, but the negotiations are going really well and I feel good about it.

The second ask was about sovereignty stuff and, while it’s definitely been challenging, it’s been the focus of my practice all week.

And I wanted to make lots of changes to the Shiva Nata site and it wasn’t happening but then it totally happened. And I wrote up a page about the teacher training. Phew. Three hundred points for me!

Comments. Since I’m already asking …

I am adding to my practice of asking for stuff by being more specific about what I would like to receive in the comments.

Here’s what I want (just leave them in the comments):

  • Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!

What I would rather not have:

  • Reality theories (automatic deduction of 100 points for the word “manifest“, unless combined with destiny in the context of 19th century American politics.)
  • Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
  • To be judged, psychoanalyzed or given advices.

My commitment.

I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird.

Thanks for doing this with me!

The Fluent Self