very personal adsPersonal ads. They’re … personal! Very.

So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.

Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.

Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.

And now it’s my Sunday ritual for clarity and remembering and stuff like that. Yay, ritual!

Let’s go.

Thing 1: the name for my hahahaha-escaping-Thanksgiving plan.

Here’s what I want:

A very delightful someone gave me the genius idea of running an event at Thanksgiving, so they could get out of doing Thanksgiving.

And I said ohmygod thank you.

Because this would get me out of Thanksgiving. Even if no one shows up, I still have an excuse for not having dinner with people that’s better than anything I’ve come up with before. Plus it would be crazy fun.

But what is it? It’s not a rally and it’s not a retreat … it needs a name.

Like … The Un-retreat That Just So Happens To Be At The End Of November.
Or: The Great Escape: A Get Out of Jail Thanksgiving Card.

No idea.

Ways this could work:

I can invoke metaphor mouse.

You clever, clever people can help me come up with something.

I can namestorm at the Kitchen Table.

And throw together a HAT (Havi Announces a Thing page) to see what comes up.

My commitment.

To have fun with this. To be silly.

To not spend too much time on it, since it’s mostly for me. But enough time so that it receives love, affection, wisdom and has a brilliant schedule.

Thing 2: a finalized 2011 schedule.

Here’s what I want:

Aw man. We were so close.

And then had to make a bunch of changes.

We have some parts ready and some other good things lined up.

But I’d just love to have my entire 2011 schedule set up by the end of the week. The absolutely absolutely version.

Ways this could work:

Maybe we can make some progress on this at the Rally (Rally!).

And at Drunk Pirate Council.

My commitment.

To pay attention, ask good questions and do a lot of writing.

And to remember what a big deal it is to schedule enough recovery time for the pirate queen. I’d hate for her to have to go on Emergency Vacation again.

Though clearly talking about oneself in the third person is a sign that it’s already too late. So I should just take myself on holiday right this minute. Hahahahahaha. Again.

Thing 3: a new system.

Here’s what I want:

Remember a few weeks ago when I wished for more wishing?

Well, it totally worked.

I’ve been keeping a little notebook by the bed and one at the Playground.

And I write three wishes in the morning and three wishes before bed.

Anyway, I think this needs a more official system. Maybe with a binder and a designated notebook.

Ways this could work:

Not sure.

I’m probably going to have to mess around with things to see what will work.

My commitment.

To do some Dance of Shiva on this.

To remember that all good systems take time to come together and not to stress this one too much.

Thing 4: the next Shiva Nata teacher training!

Here’s what I want:

I just announced a weekend Shiva Nata teacher training (February 18–20).

What I would love:

For people who totally aren’t considering teaching this to take a look.

And for people who teach other things but could incorporate this (because people learn faster when they’re having brain-zapping epiphanies, flailing around and laughing their heads off).

May everyone who needs to find this find it. Because this is one of my favorite things to teach.

Ways this could work:

Maybe people will ask me the right questions that will help me explain better why this is so important.

Maybe I will find the right words.

Maybe I will surprise myself.

Maybe I will remember to share the link with you again. See? Working on it.

My commitment.

Appreciation. Patience. Love. To keep flailing.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

I wanted a name for this one technique I do, and got one. Maybe not the best one but it will do. Domino-ing.

Then I was hoping to find a non-violent workout. And while nothing is final yet, I’m looking into some options that seem like they could be fun.

Also I wanted progress related to two specific patterns. Lots of good insights and much scribbling happened this week. Also got some help from Hiro, which was just the thing.

And I wanted two Rallions. Which is funny because two came and two went so we’re exactly where we started.

But I’m actually fine with it so in a weird way I got what I really wanted, which was to be fine with a small group. We have seven lovely, lovely people, and rallying a cozy rally will be a blast.

Plus now I don’t have to worry about the blocks and cushions I ordered coming late. 🙂

Comment zen. Here’s what I’d love today.

  • Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!

What I’d rather not have:

  • The word “manifest”.
  • To be told how I should be asking for things.
  • To be judged, psychoanalyzed or given advices.

Wishing love and good things for your Very Personal Ads! So glad for everyone doing this with me.

The Fluent Self