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So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.

Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.

Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.

And now it’s my Sunday ritual. Yay, ritual!

Let’s do this thing.

Thing 1: napping! A way to make it actually happen.

Here’s what I want:

The best thing about my Not Even Slightly An Emergency Vacation last week was the unapologetic daily napfest.

I made a little vow that once I was back, the naps would stay.

But they’re not happening.

Not because I’m not making time for them. Because I am.

It’s just that now that I’m back, there is always something that is on my mind.

Oh look there’s a conflict at the Kitchen Table.

Oh look there’s something we screwed up and now we have to write an apology letter.

Oh look this person is upset because of such and such.

I can’t nap when there’s stuff like this going on!!!

It’s not that I have to go to work or whatever. I can totally not work on it. But I’m still processing it and thinking about it and brainstorming. Which isn’t conducive to the sleeps.

Here’s how this might work:

I can ask my First Mate to not share anything with me until after nap time.

I can not log into any of my company sites until after nap time.

Nap time can go onto the schedule with a clear “do not disturb, mentally, emotionally, energetically or otherwise” directive.

Other possible solutions … hmmm.

I can try and get some Dance of Shiva insights on this. Do some journaling. See what comes up.

Put out the ask.

My commitment.

To pay attention to whatever patterns and stuff come up around the napping and related themes.

Without judging myself for having stuff or for being in my patterns.

To notice what I need, and when and how I need it.

To take notes.

To try stuff. And when it doesn’t work, to try other stuff, until something works. To keep this as a top priority, dammit.

Thing 2: ketchup.

Here’s what I want:

Man, there is big crazy catching up to do after the ridiculously long not-working thing.

Piles.

Deadlines.

Things that people are waiting on. Things that I am waiting on.

So I need serious progress without burning out.

Ways this could work:

Slow and steady.

With lots of yoga.

Use iguanability to stay accountable and keep it fun.

Use my First Mate and my fairy godmothers and whatever else can help.

Stay focused.

My commitment.

To make my first priority my own state of mind.

The napping thing again.

Lots of Shiva Nata for those mini-epiphanies.

To pay attention to what I need, what’s working and what isn’t.

Thing 3: oy, pesach.

Here’s what I want:

It’s freaking Passover like, tomorrow.

I’m still not done cleaning the kitchen. Never mind the cooking.

And, as we know from Thing 2, all sorts of other things are lined up for this week as well.

So it just has to work.

Ways this could work:

My gentleman friend will help.

I imagine there will be lots of hysterical laughter and some tears as well, but maybe it can work despite the crazy.

I don’t know. We’ll see.

The point is, I want smoothness and things getting done. And a beautiful holiday.

My commitment.

To stay connected to the essence of Pesach, which is liberation and safety.

Liberation. And safety.

And to try and bring more of that into my week and my life.

While wearing a pirate apron and throwing things around the kitchen.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

I asked for rest. And got it. In spades!

That was probably the best VPA ask ever. I seriously did nothing but sleep for a week and it was awesome.

I asked for insights about belonging and got them (thanks Shiva Nata!).

And I asked for help finishing a project and totally didn’t do anything with it.

But I did get renewed motivation to interact with it, so that counts for something. We have Drunk Pirate Council tonight so I’ll poke at it some.

Comments. Since I’m already asking …

I am adding to my practice of asking for stuff by being more specific about what I would like to receive in the comments.

Here’s what I want (just leave them in the comments):

  • Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!

What I would rather not have:

  • Reality theories.
  • Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
  • To be judged or psychoanalyzed.
  • Advices.

My commitment.

I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird.

Thanks for doing this with me!