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Each week I write these VPAs to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted.

I always get useful information about my relationship with various aspects of the ask. Join in if you like!

It’s Sunday, you guys!

Not sure when that happened.

Of course you can VPA all week, if you like. Okay.

Thing 1: It’s happening. Shiva Nata workshop in Boulder!

Here’s what I want:

Guess what? I’m going to be teaching a two hour fun-crazy-wonderful destuckifying Shiva Nata workshop in Boulder, Colorado.

It’s going to be on Thursday, November 10.


All levels welcome, including total beginners and people who have no idea what this is.

It’s going to be amazing.

What I want: 18 people! And for everyone to sign up in the next couple days, so that I don’t have to talk it up because I’m going to be running the Crossing this week and next week.

Ways this could work:

First off, I am going to give you the link so you can read all about it.

Then I am going to ask you for all your questions about this (or the questions you would have if you lived in or near Colorado).

So far all I’ve done is put up the page and also I told the Frolicsome Bar. And six people signed up right away, which is excellent.

Let’s see.

I can let people know at the local pub (yes, twitter).

And tell the much-neglected HAT list (aka Havi’s Announcing a Thing).

Tell the shivanauts. Update the Doing a Thing board posts at the Kitchen Table.

Put it up as an event on Facebook…

And of course, I can talk to slightly future me and find out how she did it. While wearing a costume!

My commitment.

To keep making my favorite not-funny joke.

Boulder? I hardly even know her. Ahahahahaaaa. COLORADO!

To be present for this. To be joyful about all the fabulous people I get to hang out with there.

To remember to wear my outrageously colorful shopkeeper’s hat when I’m telling people about this, because that makes everything easier and more fun.

And here’s the link again:

Thing 2: Advance planning, whoah! Crazy.

Here’s what I want:

For the past few years I’ve kind of taken advantage of the weird thing that is internet fame.

Mainly because I’m crazy-busy and also it’s just been the easy way.

Like announcing things five seconds before they start, because they’ll fill. See: the ask directly above this one.

Or forgetting to tell the announcement list about events/programs/special-weird-opportunities that are happening. And then people — rightfully — feel upset about having missed stuff. Sorry sorry!

It’s not fair to my people. And it’s not how I want to treat me-from-next-week either. It doesn’t go well with conscious entry, which is the thing I’m trying to live by.

So. I want to start announcing things way in advance, and giving everyone plenty of planning time. And I’m going to play with this.

Ways this could work:

Looking at what is working. It’s not all terrible. Steps are being taken!

A couple of the 2012 Rallies are already full.

We’ve already opened registration for NEXT November’s Great Ducking Out. As in, not next month but a year from then.

*waves to the brave signer-uppers who have a year to prepare for this*

And while my Crossing the Line 8 Day Voyage program starts this Toozday, you can already go ahead and apply for next October. Password: haulaway


What else can I do?

Some stone skipping to find out what’s next. I can schedule the Rallies for 2013. I can finish the HAT for Shivanauticon…

My commitment.

To experiment and play.

To invoke the qualities of safety, exploration, permission, autonomy, form and preparation.

To notice how my teachings about FLOW (our quarterly theme at my Kitchen Table program) are related to this wish.

To have fun with this when I can. To forgive myself when I can’t. There’s probably a good reason for why the old way has been the way.

Thing 3: posties….

Here’s what I want:

So if I’m teaching straight for the next eight days, not sure when/how blog posts are going to get written.

But they just are.

That’s what I want.

Ways this could work:

I have a list of 16 post ideas at the Playground…

Could share some of the capers we’ll be doing.

Or bits from my journal.

Or this could just magically resolve itself in a perfect simple way.

My commitment.

To love this space for what it is: a safe place to process, experiment, discover and goof off.

To stay connected to the culture of the blog, the Playground, and the Crossing. To feel or remember how they’re all connected, knowing that they share the same qualities:

Freedom, amnesty, safety, sovereignty, play, wonder, delight, calm, peacefulness, creativity, possibility.

Thing 4: Calling all KT-ers, past and present.

Here’s what I want:

We extended the Rally sale for Kitchen Table mice, whether from this year’s KT or graduates from 2009 or 2010.

Through November 4th.

I’m not going to have time to do a lot of spreading the word, so I need the word to somehow spread itself.

Ways this could work:

Not sure yet. Obviously I’ll put it up at the KT. And I’m planting this here.

The link. Password: crackers

My commitment.

To find out where I’m stuck on this. To ask wise, loving questions. To be willing to be wrong. To throw confetti.

Thing 5: Nailing Thriller and then learning the Shim Sham

Here’s what I want:

I’m feeling pretty good about the Thriller dance.

At this point I can do it at full speed without watching the video as long as I have audio cues.

This week I’ll practice some more until I can do it without any help.

And then I want to learn the Shim Sham!

Ways this could work:

I’ll get to practice Thriller at Last Thursday, and then during the Zombie walk next weekend.

And I can practice on my own.

Plus I’ll do some Shiva Nata for extra fabulous-coordination-agility-hotness magic.

As for the Shim Sham? I’m putting here and will let the wish percolate for a while.

My commitment.

Grab and pull, punch-punch-punch-down!

Dance it up. Dance it up.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

I wanted to learn Thriller, and I did!

It took going to three different classes and studying the youtube videos, but I’ve got it and it looks great.

Then I wanted love notes from shivanauts who do roller derby. Which happened but then I didn’t do anything with them, so that’s the next step.

I wanted to Go Dark and run away, which sort of happened and sort of didn’t. But big progress happened on my secret hideaway, so I’m feeling good about that.

Also I wanted to plant surprises for slightly future me, and we worked on that all week. So that was pretty cool

I asked for lots of people for the Art of Embarking, and for it to be incredible. Both of those happened too. A pretty good week this time. Right on.

Play-filled comment zen. Here’s what I’d love today.

  • Wanted: Your own personal ads, small or large. Updates on past ones if you like.
  • You can also do these on your own or in your head. You can always call silent retreat!
  • Leave your gwishes! Throw things in the pot!
  • Things we try to keep away from: the word “manifest”, telling people how they should be asking for things, unsolicited advice.
  • VPA amnesty applies, of course. Leave yours any time between now and next Sunday (or whenever, really) — it’s all fine by us!


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