The people this stuff is for (is this you?)

37-page Destuckification sampler (enjoy!)

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Jill’s Situation

Random positive thoughts?! Totally unlike me!

Basically I wanted to be working on my music and other creative projects, but was dealing with so much self-doubt and fear that I couldn’t even begin.

Also I just wasn’t sure I could move beyond my baggage after years of hating my body, chronic pain issues, depression, etc. I’d just get agitated and overwhelmed even thinking about making changes.

This work has brought me so much calm. All of a sudden I’m nice to myself and my body isn’t the enemy anymore. I find myself having random happy, positive thoughts just come up on their own. Totally unlike me! AND I put up a website and started performing …

Jill in San Francisco (Habits Program)

Hey there! I wrote this specifically for a very particular type of person that I like to work with. I hope it’s obvious that anyone wanting to rewrite their habits and patterns can use this material to shift stuff. So if I’m not talking to you here, we’ll hang out later on the blog, okay?

Most of my clients and students are bright, thoughtful, creative independent professionals (or people who *want* to be independent professionals) . They know that their tangled life patterns are getting in the way of what they want. They also know that they have something amazing to share with the world, but don’t feel comfortable yet with the whole “putting it out there” thing.

Or the “promoting it” thing. Sometimes even just the “saying it out loud” thing.

If you’re anything like the people I work with, you know you need to be able to stop second-guessing yourself so you can do what you love and do it now. And feel great about it.

Any of this sound familiar?

You have wanted to do something with your music, your book, your art or your teaching forever and it just isn’t happening.
You think about it all the time. You talk about it sometimes, but just to the people who you are 100% sure won’t knock it down. You want to do it. You want to be there. And most of the time you even know you’re good enough, but the thought of really putting yourself out there is stopping you in your tracks. The what-ifs are wearing you down. How do you get over the reluctance hump?

You’re creative for a living, but can’t seem to make the creativity happen on deadline.
Overwhelming, anxiety-fueled procrastination is getting in the way of everything. Blech.

You may already have a job that’s good for you, or (more likely) good for the world but you secretly want to be doing the thing that you are actually passionate about.
Gaaaaaa! Guilt attack! What about all those people who need your help? What about your career? You’re worrried about people judging you or thinking that you’re being selfish for concentrating on your own stuff rather than saving-the-world stuff.

You want to get biggified! You want to put yourself out there! But if you’re going to do it, you want to do it with integrity, goshdarnit.
There are a gazillion coaches, marketing experts and other professional biggifiers out there all shouting at you that it’s time to think big, and you’re kinda sick of it. You really do want to get the word out there about what you do so you can attract the right clients and give more to the world, but you don’t want to end up as one of these hyped-up, highlighted-out, “buy now”-screaming internet gurus.

So in the meantime you’re erring on the side of subtlety and no one is getting it.

Half the time people don’t even realize that you’re offering something. Whoops. You want to do your thing and see it grow and flourish, but you need help getting there. And you’ll only go there if you can trust that you won’t lose yourself in the process. You want to know for sure that the biggification is going to support you and not turn you into a sleazeball.

If that’s hitting home, let me tell you what I’m looking for

I’m pretty particular about the kind of people I like to have in my programs, so let me just describe the kind of bright, thoughtful creative people I have fun working with.

You already know that the journey up the mountain is just as valuable as getting to the top. Sure, you’re excited about the end result, but you are also open to all the great things you can learn about yourself along the way. You’ve been in the self-work and self-learning process for a while now, and you are ready for all these pieces to fall into place.

And sometimes you still roll your eyes at the word ‘journey’.
I like to work with people who have a healthy dose of both sarcasm and goofiness. You’re open to learning new things and maybe even test out some esoteric techniques, but you’re not gullible and you don’t just swallow everything that comes your way. You interact with new ideas and information in an intelligent, careful way. And you’re not afraid to speak your mind.

That being said, you are equally interested in working with heart and head.
The people I work with enjoy the fact that I give them way, way more than traditional cognitive techniques. And they also trust me not to drag them way out there into woo-woo land. You are open to integrative techniques that use mind, body and spirit in equal measures. And you know that I will always meet you where you are and will never suggest anything that doesn’t suit your frame of mind or way of doing things.

You are willing to make the time to do the work.
I help my clients with every step of creating and sticking to a plan, but you need to be ready to commit to putting the time and energy into working on different pieces of the puzzle.

Your life is centered around self-learning.
Getting ready to biggify yourself in a mindful way fits in perfectly with the way you want to live your life. It’s all about the learning. It’s all about using your experience to steer you in a better direction. “What can I take from this experience?” is your favorite question.

You have a vision.
You’ve already done clarifying work around what the direction is. This is not a case of “maybe I want to write a novel, but I think I might want to be a kindergarten teacher, but what about my poetry and oh, I also want to become famous for interpretive macrame design”. You know what your “thing” is and you know it’s what you are supposed to be doing. You just don’t know how to get there or how you want it to take shape.

You have a personal practice or are willing to start one.
Yoga, dance, Tai Chi, Aikido, meditation . . . you’re into the idea of spending intentional time doing conscious movement or inner listening or something that combines those. It doesn’t matter what kind of practice it is, and (if you don’t already have one) I’m happy to make suggestions or give tips. But if we work together, we definitely will combine stuff for the body and mind. Expect it.

» Might be you? You-ish? More about how we might work together.