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We dissolve stuck and rewrite patterns. We apply radical playfulness to life (when we feel like it!), embarking on internal adventures (credo of Safety First). We have a fake band called Solved By Cake. We build invisible sanctuaries, invent words and worlds, breathe awe and wonder.

We are not impressed by monsters. Except when we are. We explore the connections between internal territories and surrounding environment to learn what marvelously supportive delicious space feels like, and how to take exquisite care of ourselves. We transform things.* We glow wild.**

* For example: Desire, fear, worry, pain-and-trauma, boundaries, that problematic word which rhymes with flaweductivity.

** Fair warning: Self-fluency has been known to lead to extremely subversive behavior, including treasuring yourself unconditionally, unapologetically taking up space, experiencing outrageously improbable levels of self-acceptance, and general rejoicing in aliveness.


Scholarship! Ship!

Scholarship-ship sailings are embarking between now and this Sunday, January 1st.

The scholarship is for a Rally (Rally!) in 2012.

Except for January and April which have already sold out.

Everything you need to know about the HMS Scholarship is on this page.

Enter as you wish to be in it.


12 Responses to Scholarship! Ship!

  1. Cathy
    Twitter: cathyyardley

    I’d been tentatively edging toward considering going to Rally. I’d love to go — it just didn’t seem feasible, economically or logistically. But I really really REALLY want to go.

    I got the Art of Embarking instead. Then saw it was a prerequisite for Rally.

    I was talking with friends, who asked “if you could do ANYTHING next year, what would it be?” And I thought “I would Rally (Rally!) for sure!” But I couldn’t say it.

    Finally, I looked at the application’s pickle page, which mentioned this:

    “…it would generally be customary for you to set off to the four corners of the earth in order to fetch me the feathers of a Yardleyak and make me a glamourous feather boa…”

    My name’s Cathy Yardley.

    And I am SO going. :)
    Cathy recently posted… 2012: Embracing Apocalypse.

  2. secret agent girl says:

    A scholarship where one gets to pay only…full price.


  3. Marisa
    Twitter: MarisaDebowsky

    I like the receiving & giving concept in a Scholarship-Ship: you take one big step, and then you develop some serious tools for your toolbox, and then you go out and take the next big step while simultaneously enabling the next person to take their first step.

    (Imagine if higher education worked like this. Instead of paying $X to do four years of school, you pay $X/2, and then you learn all kinds of things and go out into the world, and then instead of paying interest in your student loans for ever and ever, you pay $X/2 towards a new student’s tuition at your school. Doesn’t that sound like a radically healthier concept than the one we have?)

  4. Havi Brooks
    Twitter: havi

    @secret agent girl:

    When you find that you don’t care for something, that’s your experience. If it bothers you though, that’s a sign that your stuff is coming up.

    When that happens, you can do one of two things. You can use the tools here to process your stuff, or you can decide not to.

    (And even then, you can use the tools, if you want. Maybe silent retreat or remember that not everything requires a response.)

    The one thing you don’t get to do is throw shoes (and this is your shoe). And my readers will perceive it as a shoe, which will interfere with their ability to feel safe bringing things into the world.

    We don’t get to throw shoes here. That’s not how this culture works. We create safety through taking responsibility for our experience. Through recognizing our stuff and owning it for what it is. Instead of being *in* our stuff and lashing out.

    So do that.

    And if you can’t do that yet (for whatever reason), don’t come here.

    If I could wave a magic wand that could help people reading this blog see the world without painful filters of blame and mistrust, I would do it in a second. I can’t.

    All I can do is give tools, and create a culture of safety for the people who are willing to play with those tools. Wishing love, safety, kindness and comfort to everyone who reads here, including secret agent girl, if you want it and can receive it.

  5. Simone
    Twitter: simonethinks

    I think many of us are working through feelings of having been screwed over, manipulated and taken advantage of by businesses. Of course, those are our *experiences*, as Havi says, and I am beginning to interact with mine.

    Because of dominant culture in which business can be icky and often seems like a zero-sum game (I manipulate you into giving me more money to fatten my bottom line; I “gain” and you “lose”), sometimes it is hard to remember that there is a way to do business (i.e. engage in transactions of money, goods, services) in a completely sovereign, love-based way, and that there are *gasp* people who are actively practicing this. Like Havi. And Mark Silvers, who teaches this stuff for a living.

    Havi has written quite a few posts that I can remember on the subject of money-related stucknesses and they have helped me tremendously, not only in terms of understanding sovereign business practices from but also interacting with my own experiences and pain related to old stuck ways of thinking about money and not being able to afford stuff that’s ‘too expensive’. Here are two links, if it’s helpful to anyone, but there are certainly more:


    In this culture, especially when it comes to money and business practices, it is so easy to cast ourselves in the victim role and be “in” that experience instead of interact with it. I’m starting to seriously destuckify in this arena as I’m starting a business myself and trying out the role of “provider/merchant” as opposed to only seeing things from a consumer’s perspective.

    These practices are challenging and advanced; I wish lots of healing space, peace, compassion and love to anyone else interacting with these concepts.
    Simone recently posted… Humbleness.

  6. Hannah
    Twitter: Hannah_Savannah

    @Simone – a provider/merchant role!

    that just helped me tremendously in ze-thinking-about-money

    it also makes me think of those trading games like Settler’s of Catan :)

    *** of to collect coloured feathers from various parrots and birds in the corners of the world! ***

  7. Simone
    Twitter: simonethinks

    @Hannah, normally the word ‘merchant’ is weird and kind of icky, but thanks to your bringing up Settlers of Catan, now I have a fetching mental image of myself looking something like this: http://www.1st-art-gallery.com/thumbnail/203268/1/A-Janissary-And-A-Merchant-In-Cairo,-Illustration-From-The-Valley-Of-The-Nile,-Engraved-By-Charles-Bour-1814-81-Pub.-By-Lemercier,-1848.jpg

    Maybe this Arabian-Nights-costumery will be my “hat”! *giggles*
    Simone recently posted… Humbleness.

  8. Leni says:

    Every winter I go to a large pagan convention in California. it is the most expensive thing i do all year. The registration fee is very cheap, and I pay it in the summer. My traveling buds book the hotel and I pay my share at the time. Airfare is the ouchiest part, and that consumes my Xmas money.

    And every year I come back floating on air, full of joy! and purpose! and juicy yumminess! I am overjoyed to see my kids, the husband. “Re-entry” can be hard–cuz, you know…”after the ecstacy…the laundry.” So that’s alwasy hard, but I call these 4 days “the best four days of the year” because it enables me to move back into the rest of my life feeling renewed and cared for.

    The only thing I want more than these four days is….RALLY!

    And I will come to Rally! I know it will be this year or next. I don’t know when. I know it will take some sacrificing on my part. I know it will take some negotiating with my husband, because 5 days as a single parent is hard. It may even require me to sacrifice my February convention. we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.

    But I know the main reason I have not yet made the commitmnet to rally! is that I am still a little scared of accessing that much of my fabulousness. Will I be able to come back to my old life? Will my old comforts and addictions still comfort me? Will I become a person who scares me?

    Last February I scraped up enough of my Xmas money to buy the Shiva Nata starter kit. And everything has changed. My life is so much better, more sovereign and engaged and powerful, because of that DVD and the Flailing. I am still reaping benefits from Havi’s Colorado visit (thanks for coming, sorry about Commerce City). I am using so many of these tools and tech and showing them to friends who think they are as cool as I do.

    So much yum!

    So while I may think or even say, Rally is expensive, it will be difficult to save this money and take the time from work to go…the real cost is losing a lot of excuses and victimization scripts and the safety of my misery.

  9. Hannah
    Twitter: Hannah_Savannah

    @Simone! Yes yes yes! Exactly like that :). A merchant of the olden times carrying spices and perfumes and pearls and boa feathers :) to share.

    *much giggling*

  10. VickiB says:

    Wow, so much richness in these comments!

    @ Simone, I love the picture. I want that Merchant’s clothing– I love the flowing robes — but I want brigher colors, and the Janissary’s hat! The merchant’s turban would too much like I’d wrapped my head in a towel.

    I could see you looking fabulous in the Janissary’s vest and sashes and those pants! (I’ve seen your picture on your blog.)

    @ Leni, you made me laugh so much with “After the ecstasy, the laundry”! And then you said you were a bit scared about accessing that much of your fabulousness — OMG you put something into words for me.

    @ Marisa, I agree with you!

    @ Havi – your response to secretagentgirl was so clear and so firm, and a model for what I need.

    Just yesterday I took notes from the comment zen about helper mode, and from an older post about regrets-patterns-decisions, and I’m going to add this as well. It’s another layer in my defenses: first the buffers, then the force field, and now this — what to call it — thing to repel intruders. It goes right with my notes about sovereignty and the dammit list.

    Thank you, Havi, and everyone else. And especially to @secretagentgirl for providing the opportunity for Havi to make this response that is going to be so useful!

  11. Cherilyn
    Twitter: Bikeblisschick

    I know this comment is very late in the game, but I’ve been mulling it over. I’m so quietly amazed at how this community handled a negative comment. Clear, gentle, and then the conversation went somewhere really fun. Wow.

    Marisa–I am completely in love with the concept of funding education like Habitat for Humanity. You’re still paying something, which adds gravity to the connection to the material, but you’re giving someone else a hand up.

    Simone–Ahhhh…thanks so much for posting the links about money. I think I’m still a safe distance from being in the eye of that issue, but it’s so helpful to have that foundation to consider.

    Leni–Thanks for your comments on Rally. I finally have the courage to go this year, but maybe not the funds. When I saw the prices going up, it was easy to slip into a scarcity pattern and think “Eeep! I missed the best time to go!” But it will work out when it should.

    Vicki B–Your gracious, compassionate shout-out to secret agent girl taught me much. Thank you for that example.

    Off to flail and tend!
    Cherilyn recently posted… Another great New Year’s for the books!

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