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		<title>By: Amy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Amy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 31 Dec 2009 20:17:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>So I just read this again, after reading it last year, and I still can&#039;t fathom why you would get hate mail for it!?! 

People. Wtf.

&lt;3 to you and Selma</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So I just read this again, after reading it last year, and I still can&#8217;t fathom why you would get hate mail for it!?! </p>
<p>People. Wtf.</p>
<p>&lt;3 to you and Selma</p>
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		<title>By: monday morning motivator! 7, my back pages &#8212; creative lifestyles</title>
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		<dc:creator>monday morning motivator! 7, my back pages &#8212; creative lifestyles</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Jan 2009 05:45:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] and yet&#8230;when the energies are right, and when you&#8217;ve got some super secret weapons (thanks havi!), miracles can happen! and that&#8217;s what i am praying for this week! hallelujah [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] and yet&#8230;when the energies are right, and when you&#8217;ve got some super secret weapons (thanks havi!), miracles can happen! and that&#8217;s what i am praying for this week! hallelujah [...]</p>
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		<title>By: Diana Maus</title>
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		<dc:creator>Diana Maus</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2009 21:54:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Havi, I didn&#039;t realize you did all that in ONE YEAR! It seems more like I&#039;ve been reading this blog for years and years. You are so expressive and I am still kinda mute (can&#039;t talk about grief easily) so I will jump right to..

My hardest: I have 2...sudden onset hearing loss accompanied by severe vertigo and panic. Has fully resolved thank goodness with minimal permanent hearing loss. No tumor, a virus, a relief.

Waiting for months and months hoping my daughter&#039;s threatened pregnancy didn&#039;t turn into another miscarriage (grief again).

My Best Thing (almost ever):
My first grandchild, a girl! December 17th. Absolutely healthy and vibrant, and also the most beautiful baby in the world.

My Biggest Challenge: Waiting. Waiting for her to be born, to be safe. Waiting now to see her besides on the computer (this spring hopefully). Getting back to my own work since I haven&#039;t been because I&#039;ve been consumed with waiting.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Havi, I didn&#8217;t realize you did all that in ONE YEAR! It seems more like I&#8217;ve been reading this blog for years and years. You are so expressive and I am still kinda mute (can&#8217;t talk about grief easily) so I will jump right to..</p>
<p>My hardest: I have 2&#8230;sudden onset hearing loss accompanied by severe vertigo and panic. Has fully resolved thank goodness with minimal permanent hearing loss. No tumor, a virus, a relief.</p>
<p>Waiting for months and months hoping my daughter&#8217;s threatened pregnancy didn&#8217;t turn into another miscarriage (grief again).</p>
<p>My Best Thing (almost ever):<br />
My first grandchild, a girl! December 17th. Absolutely healthy and vibrant, and also the most beautiful baby in the world.</p>
<p>My Biggest Challenge: Waiting. Waiting for her to be born, to be safe. Waiting now to see her besides on the computer (this spring hopefully). Getting back to my own work since I haven&#8217;t been because I&#8217;ve been consumed with waiting.</p>
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		<title>By: Wormy</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/update/new-years-2008-chicken/comment-page-1/#comment-2322</link>
		<dc:creator>Wormy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2009 18:57:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&quot;it doubles as a crazy coordination technique that makes you strong, hot and really, really fit.&quot; 

Why didn&#039;t you say so before?! Now I really am tempted and shall be giving the starter pack some veeeerrrry serious consideration. Because being really, really fit is very important to me being able to do most of the things I love most...

So, hmmmmm, I think this may well go on my wish list to help me with my desires to i) include more yoga in my life and ii) notch up the level of fitness one more. 

Some more epiphanies may well be an added bonus!!! :)

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Wormys last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://thesecretlifeofwormhill.wordpress.com/2008/12/31/old-year-edition/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Old Year Edition&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;it doubles as a crazy coordination technique that makes you strong, hot and really, really fit.&#8221; </p>
<p>Why didn&#8217;t you say so before?! Now I really am tempted and shall be giving the starter pack some veeeerrrry serious consideration. Because being really, really fit is very important to me being able to do most of the things I love most&#8230;</p>
<p>So, hmmmmm, I think this may well go on my wish list to help me with my desires to i) include more yoga in my life and ii) notch up the level of fitness one more. </p>
<p>Some more epiphanies may well be an added bonus!!! :)</p>
<p><abbr><em>Wormys last blog post..<a href="http://thesecretlifeofwormhill.wordpress.com/2008/12/31/old-year-edition/" rel="nofollow">Old Year Edition</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Sonia Simone &#124; Remarkable Communication</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sonia Simone &#124; Remarkable Communication</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2009 05:47:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>That&#039;s a lot of stuff to get into a year. It&#039;s funny, I think of you as having always been right here, you and Selma and the Procrastination Dissolv-O-Matic. It never occurs to me that you haven&#039;t had the blog for years and years. 

I know, about your friend. &quot;Why did you leave us all here ON PURPOSE? I know you were facing the unbearable, but my friend, I would have faced it with you.&quot; I know that dance. I don&#039;t think there&#039;s a way through it except to just sit with the feeling of your heart on fire. But you know that.

I can&#039;t wait to see what you do with the next year. Give Selma a little happy-new-year kiss from me.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Sonia Simone &#124; Remarkable Communications last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheRemarkableCommunicationBlog/~3/479771912/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Why This is the Best Time to Finally Break Free&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>That&#8217;s a lot of stuff to get into a year. It&#8217;s funny, I think of you as having always been right here, you and Selma and the Procrastination Dissolv-O-Matic. It never occurs to me that you haven&#8217;t had the blog for years and years. </p>
<p>I know, about your friend. &#8220;Why did you leave us all here ON PURPOSE? I know you were facing the unbearable, but my friend, I would have faced it with you.&#8221; I know that dance. I don&#8217;t think there&#8217;s a way through it except to just sit with the feeling of your heart on fire. But you know that.</p>
<p>I can&#8217;t wait to see what you do with the next year. Give Selma a little happy-new-year kiss from me.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Sonia Simone | Remarkable Communications last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheRemarkableCommunicationBlog/~3/479771912/" rel="nofollow">Why This is the Best Time to Finally Break Free</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Karen</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/update/new-years-2008-chicken/comment-page-1/#comment-2311</link>
		<dc:creator>Karen</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2009 05:17:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Happy anniversary and Happy New Year, Havi! Like the others, you were (are) a bright star in my 2008. I&#039;m so glad I found you. (And, to think I comment on the same blog as a friend of the founder of Findhorn! Wow.) I love being here.

Going back over the past year feels a bit like thinking about my childhood so I&#039;ll just say, it wasn&#039;t great. The Good: Finding you and a whole internet community, and my wonderfully challenging, confusing, warm, enlightening, close-friend/family-making, musical, trip to Cuba. The Bad: Surgery + complications. But being immobile DID lead me to you and other discoveries I&#039;ve made on the net. I&#039;m hoping to finally begin Shiva-ing now that I&#039;m feeling better. Can hardly wait!. I&#039;ve been told my brain works too much as it is so this could be dangerous. ;-)

I wish you, Havi, and everyone here, a great 2009.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Happy anniversary and Happy New Year, Havi! Like the others, you were (are) a bright star in my 2008. I&#8217;m so glad I found you. (And, to think I comment on the same blog as a friend of the founder of Findhorn! Wow.) I love being here.</p>
<p>Going back over the past year feels a bit like thinking about my childhood so I&#8217;ll just say, it wasn&#8217;t great. The Good: Finding you and a whole internet community, and my wonderfully challenging, confusing, warm, enlightening, close-friend/family-making, musical, trip to Cuba. The Bad: Surgery + complications. But being immobile DID lead me to you and other discoveries I&#8217;ve made on the net. I&#8217;m hoping to finally begin Shiva-ing now that I&#8217;m feeling better. Can hardly wait!. I&#8217;ve been told my brain works too much as it is so this could be dangerous. ;-)</p>
<p>I wish you, Havi, and everyone here, a great 2009.</p>
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		<title>By: Dick Carlson</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/update/new-years-2008-chicken/comment-page-1/#comment-2310</link>
		<dc:creator>Dick Carlson</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2009 03:43:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hardest thing?  Lost my mom -- even though I was lucky enough to have her until her 87th year, and lucky enough to know long in advance that she was going, and lucky enough to have a raft of great hospice folks who helped her go gently at home with her family.

Best thing?  Moving 3000 miles across the country to South Carolina from Seattle (just a coincidence that I&#039;m as far as possible from Selma while still being in the US, no fear of ducks here, no siree Bob, not me!)and finding that life can be very different and wonderful in the sunny slow lane.

Biggest challenge?  Deciding what I want to be, in this new life.  Retiring isn&#039;t getting any easier, even though I do it every ten years or so.  I wish there was someone very wise and sweet that could guide me as I struggled with these issues.  Oh, well -- I guess I&#039;ll just drink myself into a stupor, again...

Best wishes to you all on whatever comes your way in the shiny new year.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hardest thing?  Lost my mom &#8212; even though I was lucky enough to have her until her 87th year, and lucky enough to know long in advance that she was going, and lucky enough to have a raft of great hospice folks who helped her go gently at home with her family.</p>
<p>Best thing?  Moving 3000 miles across the country to South Carolina from Seattle (just a coincidence that I&#8217;m as far as possible from Selma while still being in the US, no fear of ducks here, no siree Bob, not me!)and finding that life can be very different and wonderful in the sunny slow lane.</p>
<p>Biggest challenge?  Deciding what I want to be, in this new life.  Retiring isn&#8217;t getting any easier, even though I do it every ten years or so.  I wish there was someone very wise and sweet that could guide me as I struggled with these issues.  Oh, well &#8212; I guess I&#8217;ll just drink myself into a stupor, again&#8230;</p>
<p>Best wishes to you all on whatever comes your way in the shiny new year.</p>
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		<title>By: Kate</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kate</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2009 03:38:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>My anniversary with my significant-ex was new year&#039;s eve, too. I have many happy memories of those evenings. I always hated new year&#039;s eve, till it became our anniversary instead. 

Happy anniversary.

The hard: living in a country with a language I barely spoke; a desperate, impossible passion; freaking out in the summer about where my life was going (though as a friend of mine once pointed out, I&#039;ve lived in a perpetual state of mid-life crisis since I was a kid); living without my friends. Tango.

The good: far too much to list it all, really. Living the extraordinary. Coming to Portland and finding myself &#039;home&#039;. Discovering you, Naomi, and various other people and resources that have allowed my thinking about work and money to shift. Much growth. Tango.

Happy new year. Enjoy the lentil game.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Kates last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.artemis.io/blog/uncategorized/happy-new-year&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Happy new year&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My anniversary with my significant-ex was new year&#8217;s eve, too. I have many happy memories of those evenings. I always hated new year&#8217;s eve, till it became our anniversary instead. </p>
<p>Happy anniversary.</p>
<p>The hard: living in a country with a language I barely spoke; a desperate, impossible passion; freaking out in the summer about where my life was going (though as a friend of mine once pointed out, I&#8217;ve lived in a perpetual state of mid-life crisis since I was a kid); living without my friends. Tango.</p>
<p>The good: far too much to list it all, really. Living the extraordinary. Coming to Portland and finding myself &#8216;home&#8217;. Discovering you, Naomi, and various other people and resources that have allowed my thinking about work and money to shift. Much growth. Tango.</p>
<p>Happy new year. Enjoy the lentil game.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Kates last blog post..<a href="http://www.artemis.io/blog/uncategorized/happy-new-year" rel="nofollow">Happy new year</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Hiro Boga</title>
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		<dc:creator>Hiro Boga</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2009 00:30:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Sweetest Havi, deep empathy and tender cradling for all the pain you feel about your friend&#039;s suicide. And the way in which you found out about it. The rifts it has caused in your life. Wishing you blessings and gentle love around this hard, hard hard.

Yaaay and hooray, and joyful celebrations for all you&#039;ve accomplished this year! The Procrastination Dissolvomatic. The Berlin yoga classes. This jewel of a blog. Your Hoppy House. Biggifying your business and spreading the light in all sorts of ways to so many people. Yaaaaay!!

The hard and happy things for me always blend together --two faces of the same Love that holds me no matter what. So. My sons&#039; father (my ex-husband) died this summer. Two weeks before my youngest&#039;s wedding. I was able to be with him, to help him through the process, for which I&#039;m so grateful. And he&#039;s no longer here, which is both hard and happy. Because he was ill for a long time and died peacefully.

This year I launched my website. Took me months of agonizing, and more months to recover from creating it, but now it feels like solid ground beneath my feet, and I&#039;m so grateful.

Attended Mark Silver&#039;s retreat this fall, and new places opened up in my heart again. 

Met you, and my heart expanded even wider. Discovered so much through knowing you--Dance of Shiva; this Fluent Self blog-haven; Twitter; lovely people. And your own shining self, for whom I&#039;m so very grateful.

Oh, and I launched my blog! With so much support from so many beautiful people. (Thanks again to you!)

Had several visits this summer with my dear friend Dorothy Maclean, founder of Findhorn, 89-year-old mysticonaut, model for what a life of loving service can be. 

Got given a big award for my writing by our national treasure--the Canada Council for the Arts--this spring. :-)

Struggled with osteoarthritis in my hip all year. My external world shrank as walking became more and more difficult. My inner world opened as I surrendered to my vulnerability. And help and support came flowing in from unexpected directions.

So that&#039;s my year. And you, my dear, are a shining star in the sky of it.

Wishing you and Richard a happy, happy anniversary! And so many bright blessings for 2009.

Love and hugs,

Hiro

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Hiro Bogas last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://hiroboga.com/2008/12/29/creative-connection-where%E2%80%99s-your-muse-when-the-baby%E2%80%99s-spitting-up-at-3-am/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Creative Connection: Where&#039;s Your Muse When the Baby&#039;s Spitting Up at 3 am?&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sweetest Havi, deep empathy and tender cradling for all the pain you feel about your friend&#8217;s suicide. And the way in which you found out about it. The rifts it has caused in your life. Wishing you blessings and gentle love around this hard, hard hard.</p>
<p>Yaaay and hooray, and joyful celebrations for all you&#8217;ve accomplished this year! The Procrastination Dissolvomatic. The Berlin yoga classes. This jewel of a blog. Your Hoppy House. Biggifying your business and spreading the light in all sorts of ways to so many people. Yaaaaay!!</p>
<p>The hard and happy things for me always blend together &#8211;two faces of the same Love that holds me no matter what. So. My sons&#8217; father (my ex-husband) died this summer. Two weeks before my youngest&#8217;s wedding. I was able to be with him, to help him through the process, for which I&#8217;m so grateful. And he&#8217;s no longer here, which is both hard and happy. Because he was ill for a long time and died peacefully.</p>
<p>This year I launched my website. Took me months of agonizing, and more months to recover from creating it, but now it feels like solid ground beneath my feet, and I&#8217;m so grateful.</p>
<p>Attended Mark Silver&#8217;s retreat this fall, and new places opened up in my heart again. </p>
<p>Met you, and my heart expanded even wider. Discovered so much through knowing you&#8211;Dance of Shiva; this Fluent Self blog-haven; Twitter; lovely people. And your own shining self, for whom I&#8217;m so very grateful.</p>
<p>Oh, and I launched my blog! With so much support from so many beautiful people. (Thanks again to you!)</p>
<p>Had several visits this summer with my dear friend Dorothy Maclean, founder of Findhorn, 89-year-old mysticonaut, model for what a life of loving service can be. </p>
<p>Got given a big award for my writing by our national treasure&#8211;the Canada Council for the Arts&#8211;this spring. :-)</p>
<p>Struggled with osteoarthritis in my hip all year. My external world shrank as walking became more and more difficult. My inner world opened as I surrendered to my vulnerability. And help and support came flowing in from unexpected directions.</p>
<p>So that&#8217;s my year. And you, my dear, are a shining star in the sky of it.</p>
<p>Wishing you and Richard a happy, happy anniversary! And so many bright blessings for 2009.</p>
<p>Love and hugs,</p>
<p>Hiro</p>
<p><abbr><em>Hiro Bogas last blog post..<a href="http://hiroboga.com/2008/12/29/creative-connection-where%E2%80%99s-your-muse-when-the-baby%E2%80%99s-spitting-up-at-3-am/" rel="nofollow">Creative Connection: Where&#8217;s Your Muse When the Baby&#8217;s Spitting Up at 3 am?</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Liz Grandmaison</title>
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		<dc:creator>Liz Grandmaison</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 31 Dec 2008 22:37:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Havi, before my guests show up for the evening I want to end the year right and say thank you for this wonderful, insightful, comfortable place you&#039;ve created. I&#039;ve been a silent but devoted reader here for several months and look forward to every post. (I discovered your blog and Naomi&#039;s at the same time, but since she, the lucky *ahem* young lady, has been busy moving to England, I get to crush-out here more often.)

The Hard - my family of origin keeps following their decades-old patterns and keeps trying to get me to join the fun. Boundaries and obligations make uneasy bedfellows.

The Good - my husband and daughter, first as always. Your blogging therapy series gently reminding me to dust off that English degree. And gradually finding an audience for my artwork.

My fondest wishes to you for all good things in the new year, Havi.

Cheers!

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Liz Grandmaisons last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.lizgrandmaison.com/gallery/6045504_SYXP7&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Maine Kantele Institute&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Havi, before my guests show up for the evening I want to end the year right and say thank you for this wonderful, insightful, comfortable place you&#8217;ve created. I&#8217;ve been a silent but devoted reader here for several months and look forward to every post. (I discovered your blog and Naomi&#8217;s at the same time, but since she, the lucky *ahem* young lady, has been busy moving to England, I get to crush-out here more often.)</p>
<p>The Hard &#8211; my family of origin keeps following their decades-old patterns and keeps trying to get me to join the fun. Boundaries and obligations make uneasy bedfellows.</p>
<p>The Good &#8211; my husband and daughter, first as always. Your blogging therapy series gently reminding me to dust off that English degree. And gradually finding an audience for my artwork.</p>
<p>My fondest wishes to you for all good things in the new year, Havi.</p>
<p>Cheers!</p>
<p><abbr><em>Liz Grandmaisons last blog post..<a href="http://www.lizgrandmaison.com/gallery/6045504_SYXP7" rel="nofollow">Maine Kantele Institute</a></em></abbr></p>
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