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		<title>By: Alex Fayle &#124; Someday Syndrome</title>
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		<dc:creator>Alex Fayle &#124; Someday Syndrome</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Feb 2009 18:10:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The first part hard and good - my mother went home on Thursday after nearly 3 weeks in the hospital with pneumonia (good part). Today I talked with her and it&#039;s going to take a while to get better and I want to be there to help my parents through it and instead of on the other side of the ocean (hard part is bad-son feelings).

Hard part was no energy, but good part - I figured out why I was resisting things and decided to accept them instead, making life a whole lot lighter.

Hard part - struggling with a pitch letter for a novel for a contest. Good part, got it nailed (eventually).

Really good part, got my first newsletter out after taking a 2.5 year hiatus from delivering them. 

There was other junk, but I&#039;ll leave it there...

Happy new week everyone!

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Alex Fayle &#124; Someday Syndromes last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SomedaySyndrome/~3/_iqJwJ5UBbU/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;The choice of too much&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The first part hard and good &#8211; my mother went home on Thursday after nearly 3 weeks in the hospital with pneumonia (good part). Today I talked with her and it&#8217;s going to take a while to get better and I want to be there to help my parents through it and instead of on the other side of the ocean (hard part is bad-son feelings).</p>
<p>Hard part was no energy, but good part &#8211; I figured out why I was resisting things and decided to accept them instead, making life a whole lot lighter.</p>
<p>Hard part &#8211; struggling with a pitch letter for a novel for a contest. Good part, got it nailed (eventually).</p>
<p>Really good part, got my first newsletter out after taking a 2.5 year hiatus from delivering them. </p>
<p>There was other junk, but I&#8217;ll leave it there&#8230;</p>
<p>Happy new week everyone!</p>
<p><abbr><em>Alex Fayle | Someday Syndromes last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SomedaySyndrome/~3/_iqJwJ5UBbU/" rel="nofollow">The choice of too much</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: JoVE</title>
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		<dc:creator>JoVE</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 31 Jan 2009 04:19:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The hard:

Putting an offer on a new house/farm with conditions and then doing all the thinking and running around to deal with the conditions. Why do appraisers always think it is worth less than we offered even though we offered less than the asking?

Learning new things about business and then NOT KNOWING what the heck I really need and what I don&#039;t. Feeling like I&#039;m in some kind of soupy fog about where it is going.

Driving in a snowstorm at rush hour during a transit strike. Nothing crazy but SLOW.

The good:

Putting an offer on a new house/farm! We took the conditions off. We can still borrow the money we need. The inspection was great. We are going to do the thing!

Making a decision about getting a booth at the fair for the business (tip: Naomi&#039;s advice is &quot;always get a booth at the fair&quot; then evaluate whether it is worth doing again).

Writing a good draft of an e-book.

Writing a good draft of an About page.

Have a great brainstormy session of products to offer.

My 11-year old telling me that she is happy for me to be working more and thus ignoring her more. And said 11-year old mostly just getting on with her own stuff. (and asking me &quot;how was your day&quot; at bedtime)

That&#039;s it. Have fun retreating and having tea with P&amp;K.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;JoVEs last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://jove.homeschooljournal.net/2009/01/28/camnesia/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Camnesia&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The hard:</p>
<p>Putting an offer on a new house/farm with conditions and then doing all the thinking and running around to deal with the conditions. Why do appraisers always think it is worth less than we offered even though we offered less than the asking?</p>
<p>Learning new things about business and then NOT KNOWING what the heck I really need and what I don&#8217;t. Feeling like I&#8217;m in some kind of soupy fog about where it is going.</p>
<p>Driving in a snowstorm at rush hour during a transit strike. Nothing crazy but SLOW.</p>
<p>The good:</p>
<p>Putting an offer on a new house/farm! We took the conditions off. We can still borrow the money we need. The inspection was great. We are going to do the thing!</p>
<p>Making a decision about getting a booth at the fair for the business (tip: Naomi&#8217;s advice is &#8220;always get a booth at the fair&#8221; then evaluate whether it is worth doing again).</p>
<p>Writing a good draft of an e-book.</p>
<p>Writing a good draft of an About page.</p>
<p>Have a great brainstormy session of products to offer.</p>
<p>My 11-year old telling me that she is happy for me to be working more and thus ignoring her more. And said 11-year old mostly just getting on with her own stuff. (and asking me &#8220;how was your day&#8221; at bedtime)</p>
<p>That&#8217;s it. Have fun retreating and having tea with P&amp;K.</p>
<p><abbr><em>JoVEs last blog post..<a href="http://jove.homeschooljournal.net/2009/01/28/camnesia/" rel="nofollow">Camnesia</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Kate</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kate</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jan 2009 23:46:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh, man, it frightens me how easily my focus is disturbed these days. Except when I&#039;m in crazy laser mode, in which case a grizzly bear could run around the room and I might not notice. But that aside, yes, incredibly frustrating.

It sounds like a Very Good Thing that you&#039;re going on retreat. I hope it&#039;s delicious and refreshing and other adjectives that might suit some kind of marvellous cool fruit-juicey type thing.

Incidentally, I&#039;m now picturing your brother as an incarnation of things wonderful. I know nothing about him but his name and that he&#039;s funny, and yet I already have a little crush on him.

The good and the hard. 

The hard: 
-Everything has been on hold while we&#039;ve been putting &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.comfortretreats.com/cafe.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;The Comfort Cafe&lt;/a&gt; together (it launches this weekend, all being well - maybe even tonight), and there are a million things wanting my attention and not getting it. It will be lovely to have time to do things like blog, and reply to email, and begin the Kitchen Table thing &lt;em&gt;properly&lt;/em&gt;. 
- I&#039;m quite astonishingly sleep deprived. 
- Last weekend was a tango festival, and festivals always bring out tons of issues for me around various forms of social anxiety and overwhelm, perfectionism and performance anxiety, yada yada yada; plus someone on Sunday night said something small that upset me quite badly.

The good: 
-working on The Comfort Cafe has been an absolute joy. A joy. Never had I had such a delightful, playful, loving web job. &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.comfortqueen.com&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Jen&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.rockyourday.com&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Dave&lt;/a&gt; are teh roxor. I worked twice as hard for the sheer love of it. 
- I spent last weekend in rare and precious workshops and milongas with my hero tanguera and her current partner, and came away feeling utterly transformed.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Kates last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.artemis.io/blog/inspiration/the-dance&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;The Dance&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh, man, it frightens me how easily my focus is disturbed these days. Except when I&#8217;m in crazy laser mode, in which case a grizzly bear could run around the room and I might not notice. But that aside, yes, incredibly frustrating.</p>
<p>It sounds like a Very Good Thing that you&#8217;re going on retreat. I hope it&#8217;s delicious and refreshing and other adjectives that might suit some kind of marvellous cool fruit-juicey type thing.</p>
<p>Incidentally, I&#8217;m now picturing your brother as an incarnation of things wonderful. I know nothing about him but his name and that he&#8217;s funny, and yet I already have a little crush on him.</p>
<p>The good and the hard. </p>
<p>The hard:<br />
-Everything has been on hold while we&#8217;ve been putting <a href="http://www.comfortretreats.com/cafe.html" rel="nofollow">The Comfort Cafe</a> together (it launches this weekend, all being well &#8211; maybe even tonight), and there are a million things wanting my attention and not getting it. It will be lovely to have time to do things like blog, and reply to email, and begin the Kitchen Table thing <em>properly</em>.<br />
- I&#8217;m quite astonishingly sleep deprived.<br />
- Last weekend was a tango festival, and festivals always bring out tons of issues for me around various forms of social anxiety and overwhelm, perfectionism and performance anxiety, yada yada yada; plus someone on Sunday night said something small that upset me quite badly.</p>
<p>The good:<br />
-working on The Comfort Cafe has been an absolute joy. A joy. Never had I had such a delightful, playful, loving web job. <a href="http://www.comfortqueen.com" rel="nofollow">Jen</a> and <a href="http://www.rockyourday.com" rel="nofollow">Dave</a> are teh roxor. I worked twice as hard for the sheer love of it.<br />
- I spent last weekend in rare and precious workshops and milongas with my hero tanguera and her current partner, and came away feeling utterly transformed.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Kates last blog post..<a href="http://www.artemis.io/blog/inspiration/the-dance" rel="nofollow">The Dance</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Jen</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jen</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:16:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Please don&#039;t ever stop posting about how wonderful/amazing/fantastic/perfect it is that your brother lives with you. I would almost give my left arm to have my brother live with me. I miss (and love) him so.

Every time I read about how happy your living arrangement is with him, it gives me warm thoughts as I think about how it would be if my brother lived with me. It makes my insides smile something fierce.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Please don&#8217;t ever stop posting about how wonderful/amazing/fantastic/perfect it is that your brother lives with you. I would almost give my left arm to have my brother live with me. I miss (and love) him so.</p>
<p>Every time I read about how happy your living arrangement is with him, it gives me warm thoughts as I think about how it would be if my brother lived with me. It makes my insides smile something fierce.</p>
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		<title>By: Minerva</title>
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		<dc:creator>Minerva</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jan 2009 18:31:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The hard 

- losing computer access on Monday and feeling totally, completely, insanely lost and helpless and alone.
- panicking over losing computer access and then realizing the panic was really grief and it had been trying to get my attention for more than a week and had to with another matter entirely 
- blech dealing with an old worn out and tired emotion, that I&#039;ve been avoiding for at least a week (probably longer but who wants to admit that :P)

The good 

- getting the very first post up on a new blog without computer access at home - check it out http://sharing.spiritualchocolates.com (I didn&#039;t write it, I&#039;m the none too technical-geek behind the scenes)
- realizing the structure and systems I&#039;ve been telling myself I have, don&#039;t really exist outside my mind
- meditating for five minutes - almost everyday to quiet my mind and create a consistent and redundant habit

Enjoy the retreat Havi &amp; Selma. Take care of yourselves.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Minervas last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://blog.outsideconvention.com/2009/01/how-fear-spreads-thursday-thinker.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;How Fear Spreads &#124; Thursday Thinker&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The hard </p>
<p>- losing computer access on Monday and feeling totally, completely, insanely lost and helpless and alone.<br />
- panicking over losing computer access and then realizing the panic was really grief and it had been trying to get my attention for more than a week and had to with another matter entirely<br />
- blech dealing with an old worn out and tired emotion, that I&#8217;ve been avoiding for at least a week (probably longer but who wants to admit that :P)</p>
<p>The good </p>
<p>- getting the very first post up on a new blog without computer access at home &#8211; check it out <a href="http://sharing.spiritualchocolates.com" rel="nofollow">http://sharing.spiritualchocolates.com</a> (I didn&#8217;t write it, I&#8217;m the none too technical-geek behind the scenes)<br />
- realizing the structure and systems I&#8217;ve been telling myself I have, don&#8217;t really exist outside my mind<br />
- meditating for five minutes &#8211; almost everyday to quiet my mind and create a consistent and redundant habit</p>
<p>Enjoy the retreat Havi &amp; Selma. Take care of yourselves.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Minervas last blog post..<a href="http://blog.outsideconvention.com/2009/01/how-fear-spreads-thursday-thinker.html" rel="nofollow">How Fear Spreads | Thursday Thinker</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Joely Black</title>
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		<dc:creator>Joely Black</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jan 2009 17:54:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Here&#039;s to retreating!

My good:
- Feeling great at the start of the week.
- Getting two podcasts recorded rather than one - although that was accidental.
- Everybody being generally groovy and a lot of stuff being cleared up from my head and heart.
-My grandmother is getting better (much to her personal chagrin) and is being taken shopping by my parents. In related news, mother has finished another course of Crohn&#039;s meds.

My hard:
- The Anniversary.
- Spending the last couple of days so shattered I&#039;ve spent most of the day and the whole of the night sleeping. Seriously. Everything is so exhausting!
- Sometimes I would like to be able to take a holiday from myself.

P.S. So envious at the having fun with Pace &amp; Kyeli bit. They rock!

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Joely Blacks last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://isabeljoelyblack.wordpress.com/2009/01/29/processing-out-loud-being-good-enough/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Processing out loud: Being â€˜good enough&#039;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Here&#8217;s to retreating!</p>
<p>My good:<br />
- Feeling great at the start of the week.<br />
- Getting two podcasts recorded rather than one &#8211; although that was accidental.<br />
- Everybody being generally groovy and a lot of stuff being cleared up from my head and heart.<br />
-My grandmother is getting better (much to her personal chagrin) and is being taken shopping by my parents. In related news, mother has finished another course of Crohn&#8217;s meds.</p>
<p>My hard:<br />
- The Anniversary.<br />
- Spending the last couple of days so shattered I&#8217;ve spent most of the day and the whole of the night sleeping. Seriously. Everything is so exhausting!<br />
- Sometimes I would like to be able to take a holiday from myself.</p>
<p>P.S. So envious at the having fun with Pace &amp; Kyeli bit. They rock!</p>
<p><abbr><em>Joely Blacks last blog post..<a href="http://isabeljoelyblack.wordpress.com/2009/01/29/processing-out-loud-being-good-enough/" rel="nofollow">Processing out loud: Being â€˜good enough&#8217;</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Lori Paximadis</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lori Paximadis</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jan 2009 17:40:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m with you on the noise. The Neverending Construction Site(TM) next door brought in some kind of really awesome new machine yesterday that seems to be trying to drill through what has now become permafrost after nearly a month of below-freezing temperatures. Noise *and* vibration, all day yesterday and today. Yay!

And, weird coincidence: passport picture/application is on my to-do list this afternoon.

The hard:
- Um, the noise.
- Constant nose-to-grindstone-ness all week to meet a deadline.
- The hardness of all that work, and trying to juggle it with real life.

The good:
- Meeting the deadline and the fact that THE BOOK IS DONE! 
- Acquiring a promising new client.
- A relatively clear weekend ahead and a light week next week so I can spend some time in the studio and work on some of the ideas floating around in my head.

Enjoy your well-deserved retreat, Havi.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Lori Paximadiss last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.virtuallori.com/?p=277&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Cleveland Handmade featured artist:Cindy Benson&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m with you on the noise. The Neverending Construction Site(TM) next door brought in some kind of really awesome new machine yesterday that seems to be trying to drill through what has now become permafrost after nearly a month of below-freezing temperatures. Noise *and* vibration, all day yesterday and today. Yay!</p>
<p>And, weird coincidence: passport picture/application is on my to-do list this afternoon.</p>
<p>The hard:<br />
- Um, the noise.<br />
- Constant nose-to-grindstone-ness all week to meet a deadline.<br />
- The hardness of all that work, and trying to juggle it with real life.</p>
<p>The good:<br />
- Meeting the deadline and the fact that THE BOOK IS DONE!<br />
- Acquiring a promising new client.<br />
- A relatively clear weekend ahead and a light week next week so I can spend some time in the studio and work on some of the ideas floating around in my head.</p>
<p>Enjoy your well-deserved retreat, Havi.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Lori Paximadiss last blog post..<a href="http://www.virtuallori.com/?p=277" rel="nofollow">Cleveland Handmade featured artist:Cindy Benson</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Linnit</title>
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		<dc:creator>Linnit</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jan 2009 16:17:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>It&#039;s hard having this inability to filter out noise isn&#039;t it? My partner and I both have it so our house is very peaceful and quiet mostly. Except he plays the guitar and sings, quite beautifully, and when he does I have to stop and listen. Mostly that&#039;s great but when there&#039;s stuff I need to do - not so great. But I love him, so I guess if he needs to sing it&#039;s probably time to take a break and listen. 
BTW I found myself telling him the other day we needed to &#039;biggify&#039; our business ideas. As he doesn&#039;t read your blog this led to a very strange look :) but when I explained he did agree yay!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It&#8217;s hard having this inability to filter out noise isn&#8217;t it? My partner and I both have it so our house is very peaceful and quiet mostly. Except he plays the guitar and sings, quite beautifully, and when he does I have to stop and listen. Mostly that&#8217;s great but when there&#8217;s stuff I need to do &#8211; not so great. But I love him, so I guess if he needs to sing it&#8217;s probably time to take a break and listen.<br />
BTW I found myself telling him the other day we needed to &#8216;biggify&#8217; our business ideas. As he doesn&#8217;t read your blog this led to a very strange look :) but when I explained he did agree yay!</p>
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		<title>By: Jon</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jan 2009 12:35:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh man, the ukulele. That&#039;d mess with anyone&#039;s concentration. At least it&#039;s not an accordion.

Just kidding, I like all kinds of music. Almost all kinds. But sometimes my daughter plays the piano, which is right beneath my office. And I have to get up and walk around before I can ignore it.

But she&#039;s such a good musician, I&#039;m never going to ask her to stop playing. She&#039;s playing in the All-State orchestra in March and I&#039;m such a proud papa.

Okay, done bragging.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Jons last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/peltiertech/EsrO/~3/LgMnBXbmYN4/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Plot Two Time Series With Different Dates&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh man, the ukulele. That&#8217;d mess with anyone&#8217;s concentration. At least it&#8217;s not an accordion.</p>
<p>Just kidding, I like all kinds of music. Almost all kinds. But sometimes my daughter plays the piano, which is right beneath my office. And I have to get up and walk around before I can ignore it.</p>
<p>But she&#8217;s such a good musician, I&#8217;m never going to ask her to stop playing. She&#8217;s playing in the All-State orchestra in March and I&#8217;m such a proud papa.</p>
<p>Okay, done bragging.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Jons last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/peltiertech/EsrO/~3/LgMnBXbmYN4/" rel="nofollow">Plot Two Time Series With Different Dates</a></em></abbr></p>
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