Comments on: Vanilla.

By: Just a Quote

Just a Quote — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 22:39:37 +0000

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By: MissNibbles

MissNibbles — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 22:00:42 +0000

Your mom here sounds exactly like mine. I’d tell her something that happened that was funny, and suddenly it’d turn into a wierd accusation about huffing vanilla. :)

By: Lisa Claudia Briggs

Lisa Claudia Briggs — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 13:44:00 +0000

My inner-teen says "that's what you get for trusting mothers".Am also having a memory when I thought smelling like vanilla was the best and tried using Vanilla extract behind my ears. Cannot remember outcome, but since that practice didn't last long it must not have been a big success. If I had found the bottle in MY pocket, I would have made up a story about divine beings sending me messages. Those are my favorite conclusions to jump to, but lately after hearing Caroline Myss speak last week, it makes me feel naive. But I think a little naive can go a long way... hope you are on the mend. If not it's ok to throw an occasional fit. xox Lisa Lisa Claudia Briggss last blog post..Getting Beyond A Binge

By: Havi Brooks

Havi Brooks — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 04:15:39 +0000

@Extra Crispy Mark: I adore you.

@Maarten: poke poke poke indeed! I love FEAR — False Evidence Appearing Real. That is so genius.

@Hayden: yeah, it’s a weird middle ground that I haven’t really figured out yet.

@Liz: wow. What a great example. I can feel the truth of that situation, even though I wasn’t there. It reminds me of all the times when I was at the bar working, aware that I was taking everybody’s crap and that the whole exchange was somehow flawed.

@everybody else! I can’t talk to Stu anymore without throwing a fit so I’ll stop here but will just say that I am so loving and appreciating all of your insights and thoughts and stories. It makes everything better. So so so much better.

By: Mark W. "Extra Crispy" Schumann

Mark W. "Extra Crispy" Schumann — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 21:11:45 +0000

I have a particularly dangerous practice of gatherine information before making an assessment.

It starts with jumping in and trying something, usually The Simplest Thing That Could Possibly Work, but it’s often upsetting to the normal people around me. “Hey! Let’s try this shortcut!” It probably won’t work, but it might, and if it doesn’t at least we learned what shortcuts not to take.

So for me it’s watch a little, assess a little, try something, watch more, assess more, try something else, watch, assess, try…

Scares the hell out of normal people because yes, it means I do act without knowing what I’m doing.

By: maarten

maarten — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 20:53:22 +0000

Hiya,

Love the WEAR and TEAR analogy, hadn’t heard that one before and then realized that combined with the following one you definitely have the recipe for disaster (with a hint of vanilla or not):

FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real

Thought I just put my two cents in, oh and by the way I LOVE VANILLA! poke, poke…

By: Hayden Tompkins

Hayden Tompkins — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 19:13:15 +0000

There's a hard line to walk - you want to be around people that are like you and will support you, but you also don't want to be a carbon copy. But too different and you won't have any common ground. [It sounds like she was motivated by fear more than anything...fear that she wasn't 'enough' or 'good enough' somehow.] Hayden Tompkinss last blog post..How to Fly

By: Liz Smith

Liz Smith — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 18:33:52 +0000

I can't stand how sometimes my instincts are dead right and sometimes completly wrong! I like to think I give everyone a fair chance, but I know I can be judgemental. Am certainly trying to slow down and halt this rush. I worked in a retail shop where a customer would come in and verbally assault me about a special order I knew the owner had screwed up. After several traumatic incidents with her, I became unprofessional and yelled back. She was hurt! Then we did something monumental, we were honest with each other about our situations. I told her about my careless boss who made promises he couldn't keep that we had to clean up after and guess what? She'd recently lost her mom, had painful leg surgery and always stopped in at the shop after visiting her dying dad. Everyone has a story. I have to remember to Wait and Listen. Thanks for this reminder. Liz Smiths last blog post..Sisters We Three Consignment Shop

By: carma

carma — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 18:17:29 +0000

Love how you wove all this together. Was wondering where you were headed with the whole vanilla debacle :D carma carmas last blog post..Not Me! Monday

By: James | Dancing Geek

James | Dancing Geek — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 18:14:25 +0000

Delay assessment - rule 1 for self-acceptance as well. James | Dancing Geeks last blog post..Today I spent 6 hours philosophising