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		<title>By: Disguised Learning, or Real-Life Business Tree Roots - Wendy Cholbi</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuff/regret-patterns-decisions/comment-page-1/#comment-42344</link>
		<dc:creator>Disguised Learning, or Real-Life Business Tree Roots - Wendy Cholbi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Sep 2011 05:32:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] I remembered a recent post from Havi in which she mentioned &#8220;the deep, complicated, loving, challenging relationship that I have [...]</description>
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		<title>By: Christine</title>
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		<dc:creator>Christine</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Apr 2011 08:52:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hello Havi,

I read your blog for the first time today, and then read quite a few of your earlier posts.

Please know I am not a blogger or a blog reder, i have a life so filled up with my own goings on &amp; things I tend to find blogging and or reading blogs take up to much time.  BUT after reading yours and getting small insight into what/who you are... it was as if you were speaking my soul.  I felt a deep connection to everything you said and if I had a blog... That would be what i would want for and from it.

I thank the Good Lord for people like you in the world, to help make it a bit easier? and maybe less scary? a place to exist and co-exist, grow and awake from the coma state in which most of us live.

Keep up the good vibe you are sending out.

Your blog definitely can make a difference in peoples lives.  The right people, the people that want to break free from the oppression of those who would have us believe less.

God Bless</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hello Havi,</p>
<p>I read your blog for the first time today, and then read quite a few of your earlier posts.</p>
<p>Please know I am not a blogger or a blog reder, i have a life so filled up with my own goings on &amp; things I tend to find blogging and or reading blogs take up to much time.  BUT after reading yours and getting small insight into what/who you are&#8230; it was as if you were speaking my soul.  I felt a deep connection to everything you said and if I had a blog&#8230; That would be what i would want for and from it.</p>
<p>I thank the Good Lord for people like you in the world, to help make it a bit easier? and maybe less scary? a place to exist and co-exist, grow and awake from the coma state in which most of us live.</p>
<p>Keep up the good vibe you are sending out.</p>
<p>Your blog definitely can make a difference in peoples lives.  The right people, the people that want to break free from the oppression of those who would have us believe less.</p>
<p>God Bless</p>
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		<title>By: Disguised Learning, or Real-Life Business Tree Roots &#124; Your Web Coaches</title>
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		<dc:creator>Disguised Learning, or Real-Life Business Tree Roots &#124; Your Web Coaches</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 07 Feb 2009 06:08:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] I remembered a recent post from Havi in which she mentioned &#8220;the deep, complicated, loving, challenging relationship that I have [...]</description>
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		<title>By: Lisa Wood</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuff/regret-patterns-decisions/comment-page-1/#comment-2557</link>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Wood</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Jan 2009 22:15:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh Havi, I just found this post - I think I missed a day reading and that&#039;s what I get for it! 

I love your honesty, your passion, your &quot;real-ness&quot;. 

I&#039;m seriously on the fence about the kitchen table - because I know it&#039;s SO worth it, but I also know I can&#039;t afford it. oy. 

I&#039;ll figure this out. In the meantime, keep doing what you&#039;re doing and don&#039;t throw your computer out the window please. I&#039;d miss you ;)

Lisa

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Lisa Woods last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://bestwebsitetips.com/tips-for-using-your-marketing-toolkit-wisely/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Tips for Using Your Marketing Toolkit Wisely&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh Havi, I just found this post &#8211; I think I missed a day reading and that&#8217;s what I get for it! </p>
<p>I love your honesty, your passion, your &#8220;real-ness&#8221;. </p>
<p>I&#8217;m seriously on the fence about the kitchen table &#8211; because I know it&#8217;s SO worth it, but I also know I can&#8217;t afford it. oy. </p>
<p>I&#8217;ll figure this out. In the meantime, keep doing what you&#8217;re doing and don&#8217;t throw your computer out the window please. I&#8217;d miss you ;)</p>
<p>Lisa</p>
<p><abbr><em>Lisa Woods last blog post..<a href="http://bestwebsitetips.com/tips-for-using-your-marketing-toolkit-wisely/" rel="nofollow">Tips for Using Your Marketing Toolkit Wisely</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Debra</title>
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		<dc:creator>Debra</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Jan 2009 02:02:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oops!  Feel free to edit my typo.  Please read:
Our lives are colorful (YOURS is exceptionally ducky :~)

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Debras last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://earthharmonyhome.com/happy-new-day-living-an-inspired-life/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Happy New Day ~ Living an Inspired Life&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oops!  Feel free to edit my typo.  Please read:<br />
Our lives are colorful (YOURS is exceptionally ducky :~)</p>
<p><abbr><em>Debras last blog post..<a href="http://earthharmonyhome.com/happy-new-day-living-an-inspired-life/" rel="nofollow">Happy New Day ~ Living an Inspired Life</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Debra</title>
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		<dc:creator>Debra</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Jan 2009 01:56:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Havi...

I&#039;ve been reading your posts for a couple of weeks now; all of them deeply engaging, freakishly aligned (and I mean that in the absolute, most stellar sense) and chock full of practical insight/tools.  Thank you!

I haven&#039;t commented before as your comment threads are already so full.  So full of incredible additions and insights.  :0)  Awesome.  I&#039;ve felt complete when finished reading all of them; no need to comment.  This time is no different really...except for the intense urge to say, ME TOO.

I&#039;ve been hearing that voice inside nudging me to add more of my own day to day process...on the way to the epiphanies.  I forget sometimes that while it all just seems sort of second hat to me; that it may be more interesting and helpful than I give it credit for.  

This is true for anyone, really.  Our lives are colorful (you&#039;re is exceptionally ducky :~)  People enjoy reading other people&#039;s &#039;color&#039;...it&#039;s what weaves the tapestry that much brighter.

Here&#039;s to putting more of &quot;us&quot; into our writing.  More soul, anyone?  Yes, please.  :0)

Thanks for creating such a safe space, and for feeling safe yourself, with all of us in the space you&#039;ve created.

&quot;Spread over us your canopy of Peace&quot;  

Yes, please.  There is *nothing* cheesy about that!

Peace, Love and Harmony...  Debra

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Debras last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://earthharmonyhome.com/happy-new-day-living-an-inspired-life/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Happy New Day ~ Living an Inspired Life&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Havi&#8230;</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been reading your posts for a couple of weeks now; all of them deeply engaging, freakishly aligned (and I mean that in the absolute, most stellar sense) and chock full of practical insight/tools.  Thank you!</p>
<p>I haven&#8217;t commented before as your comment threads are already so full.  So full of incredible additions and insights.  :0)  Awesome.  I&#8217;ve felt complete when finished reading all of them; no need to comment.  This time is no different really&#8230;except for the intense urge to say, ME TOO.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been hearing that voice inside nudging me to add more of my own day to day process&#8230;on the way to the epiphanies.  I forget sometimes that while it all just seems sort of second hat to me; that it may be more interesting and helpful than I give it credit for.  </p>
<p>This is true for anyone, really.  Our lives are colorful (you&#8217;re is exceptionally ducky :~)  People enjoy reading other people&#8217;s &#8216;color&#8217;&#8230;it&#8217;s what weaves the tapestry that much brighter.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s to putting more of &#8220;us&#8221; into our writing.  More soul, anyone?  Yes, please.  :0)</p>
<p>Thanks for creating such a safe space, and for feeling safe yourself, with all of us in the space you&#8217;ve created.</p>
<p>&#8220;Spread over us your canopy of Peace&#8221;  </p>
<p>Yes, please.  There is *nothing* cheesy about that!</p>
<p>Peace, Love and Harmony&#8230;  Debra</p>
<p><abbr><em>Debras last blog post..<a href="http://earthharmonyhome.com/happy-new-day-living-an-inspired-life/" rel="nofollow">Happy New Day ~ Living an Inspired Life</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Nathan Bowers</title>
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		<dc:creator>Nathan Bowers</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Jan 2009 23:38:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Havi and @Joely:

Very interested in what you both said about experiencing your &quot;stuff&quot; as colored textures like broccoli and pink dust bunnies.

I imagine my creative energy as a floating hot pink energy plasma that lives just under my skin. It comes out of my head, or my chest, or I spray it out of my fingers and it becomes my artwork. 

Weird right? But it totally feels right to me and so I &lt;a href=&quot;http://img132.imageshack.us/img132/4972/nathanbowerstwittergx1.png&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;illustrated it as my Twitter background&lt;/a&gt;. 

Maybe it&#039;s useful to try to experience both negative stuff like regret and positive stuff like love, creativity, etc. as textures, colors, smells, whatever, to help get a handle on them and direct them.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Nathan Bowerss last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Doodleist/~3/472355917/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;First 3Ã—5 doodles of December&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Havi and @Joely:</p>
<p>Very interested in what you both said about experiencing your &#8220;stuff&#8221; as colored textures like broccoli and pink dust bunnies.</p>
<p>I imagine my creative energy as a floating hot pink energy plasma that lives just under my skin. It comes out of my head, or my chest, or I spray it out of my fingers and it becomes my artwork. </p>
<p>Weird right? But it totally feels right to me and so I <a href="http://img132.imageshack.us/img132/4972/nathanbowerstwittergx1.png" rel="nofollow">illustrated it as my Twitter background</a>. </p>
<p>Maybe it&#8217;s useful to try to experience both negative stuff like regret and positive stuff like love, creativity, etc. as textures, colors, smells, whatever, to help get a handle on them and direct them.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Nathan Bowerss last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/Doodleist/~3/472355917/" rel="nofollow">First 3Ã—5 doodles of December</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Paulita</title>
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		<dc:creator>Paulita</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Jan 2009 04:39:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Havi - 

Thanks for writing about your process. I find reading about it very helpful. 

Also, your blog is functioning as a canopy of peace for me and I am very grateful for it. 

Best,
Paulita</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Havi &#8211; </p>
<p>Thanks for writing about your process. I find reading about it very helpful. </p>
<p>Also, your blog is functioning as a canopy of peace for me and I am very grateful for it. </p>
<p>Best,<br />
Paulita</p>
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		<title>By: Eileen</title>
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		<dc:creator>Eileen</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Jan 2009 04:19:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow. What beautiful imagery. 

I often will see the outside of someone I admire (Havi=insightful yogi thinker of profound thoughts) unconsciously compare it my own insides (me=person with a million flaws and regrets) and find myself lacking. So for you to open up your &quot;insides&quot; is such a gift.

It means that, for me, just reading your words is an actual, immediate, and active healing opportunity.  I doubt many &quot;personal development&quot; writers can say that ;)

I&#039;m still working on two big regrets (from 9 and 7 years ago...yikes). But I know what you mean about the emotional charge lessening over time. As of now they&#039;re just kind of in my back pocket--not stopping me from moving forward, but not quite gone yet either. Something you said reminded me of Maya Angelou&#039;s words: &quot;You did what you knew how to do, and when you knew better, you did better.&quot;  That&#039;s sort of my mantra when I fall too deep into the pocket of regret.

&lt;abbr&gt;&lt;em&gt;Eileens last blog post..&lt;a href=&quot;http://changingblog.com/2008/12/31/suggestion-3-shiva-nata/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;&quot;Suggestion&quot; #3: Shiva Nata&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;/em&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow. What beautiful imagery. </p>
<p>I often will see the outside of someone I admire (Havi=insightful yogi thinker of profound thoughts) unconsciously compare it my own insides (me=person with a million flaws and regrets) and find myself lacking. So for you to open up your &#8220;insides&#8221; is such a gift.</p>
<p>It means that, for me, just reading your words is an actual, immediate, and active healing opportunity.  I doubt many &#8220;personal development&#8221; writers can say that ;)</p>
<p>I&#8217;m still working on two big regrets (from 9 and 7 years ago&#8230;yikes). But I know what you mean about the emotional charge lessening over time. As of now they&#8217;re just kind of in my back pocket&#8211;not stopping me from moving forward, but not quite gone yet either. Something you said reminded me of Maya Angelou&#8217;s words: &#8220;You did what you knew how to do, and when you knew better, you did better.&#8221;  That&#8217;s sort of my mantra when I fall too deep into the pocket of regret.</p>
<p><abbr><em>Eileens last blog post..<a href="http://changingblog.com/2008/12/31/suggestion-3-shiva-nata/" rel="nofollow">&#8220;Suggestion&#8221; #3: Shiva Nata</a></em></abbr></p>
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		<title>By: Havi Brooks</title>
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		<dc:creator>Havi Brooks</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Jan 2009 00:59:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://fluentself.com/images/blog/ducks/Selma_tinyW.png&quot;&gt; What wonderful words. I love reading all of them, really. 

This place is so much better because you guys are here with me in this process-ey thing, and that you never mind when I get all cheesy but that you also don&#039;t mine when I apologize for it. It&#039;s really delightful. 

@Hopey, Julianna, Eva, Mona, Diane, Joyce &amp; Leonie - a kiss on the nose to each of you. Thanks for the sweetness ... and warm wishes to you on whatever you happen to be working on. 

So glad you&#039;re here.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://fluentself.com/images/blog/ducks/Selma_tinyW.png"/> What wonderful words. I love reading all of them, really. </p>
<p>This place is so much better because you guys are here with me in this process-ey thing, and that you never mind when I get all cheesy but that you also don&#8217;t mine when I apologize for it. It&#8217;s really delightful. </p>
<p>@Hopey, Julianna, Eva, Mona, Diane, Joyce &#038; Leonie &#8211; a kiss on the nose to each of you. Thanks for the sweetness &#8230; and warm wishes to you on whatever you happen to be working on. </p>
<p>So glad you&#8217;re here.</p>
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