Comments on: It’s not freaking easy, okay?

By: What Must You Do? | Illuminated Mind

What Must You Do? | Illuminated Mind — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 21:41:12 +0000

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By: Yes, dammit, technology is hard | Wendy Cholbi

Yes, dammit, technology is hard | Wendy Cholbi — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 20:10:46 +0000

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By: Carrie

Carrie — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 15:11:08 +0000

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

As I was reading this post, my mind was having flashbacks to the time Mom was making pizza crusts from scratch. I told her I buy mine at the store, and she was saying “It’s EASY to make your own crusts.” I think she tried to explain it to me, but I was too busy feeling dumb to hear anything.

I’m sure, at times, I have lacked patience in teaching others as well. But I try to remember what it was like for me when I was new at it, and people appreciate it when I take time to show them things.

By: Garry Carlson

Garry Carlson — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 10:24:48 +0000

Havi,

Thank you for these gems! I just found you through a great friend who through acknowledgment and listening to what I was going through, sent me here!

Coincidental timing that she just read this post only a day or two before? No I don’t believe that for a second. That would be the easy explanation. Everything happens for a reason, and I appreciate your work.

The litmus test for me is putting the applications in play today, as I go out and ‘serve’ others my services, as it were. I’ll be back for more soon.

By: Nate

Nate — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 13:09:29 +0000

I never got why people insist that no one language is harder than any other. Logically, if you break it into pieces, some aspects of some languages (spelling/ writing system, variety of phonemes, tonality) are more difficult than others. How on earth could they all balance out perfectly?

The rest is cool. Thanks for the post.

By: Chris

Chris — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 13:56:40 +0000

I agree with this.
I’m an engineering student and I’m around IT-oriented people a lot – and it pisses me off to no end when they regard the vast majority of people as “stupid” because they do not understand the same things (which all, of course, are “easy”).
Of course, I think it’s easy to understand that the majority of the people they call “stupid” are just putting their priorities in a different order…
One thing that really is easy, though, is labeling people as stupid rather than trying to understand them.

By: Heart-Centered Technology Tip #10: Yes, Technology is Hard | Your Web Coaches

Wed, 26 Nov 2008 15:06:39 +0000

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By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 23:31:41 +0000

Learning Spanish AFTER German is probably what makes it hard... (to me anyway.) I don't know a whole lot of Spanish, but I know French, and trying to learn German after learning a "romance" language sucks. I can relate French and Spanish, but German... just whoa. lol Melissas last blog post..NaNoWriMo Excerpts

By: Naomi Niles

Naomi Niles — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 22:15:24 +0000

Oh, so true about Spanish. I’ve lived in Spain for almost 7 years and couldn’t even have a conversation with four years olds for the first 4 years. I felt so stupid. Everyone thought I just needed total immersion. So, I would spend hours with people speaking Spanish, not understanding a freaking thing and feeling totally stressed and left out. I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one that thinks learning Spanish isn’t as easy as everyone says it is.

Anyway, I don’t like when people say things are easy either. We all have natural talents and some things that come with more difficultly. Sometimes we just need a little empathy!

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By: Havi Brooks

Havi Brooks — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 19:02:47 +0000

@steph – Love it. And you’re so right. Why would you possibly care that someone else doesn’t have a problem with the thing that’s hard for you?

If anything, after you smack them for being annoying, you’ll turn around to look for someone else who actually gets it.

There’s this weird but completely understandable thing that a lot of people do when they start out with their own itty biz which is to try and be all “hi, I’m an expert who is perfect!”

When actually what I want is someone who knows my pain intimately and gets what a big deal it is that I’m even thinking about working on it.

I’ll take the hug and the non-cheesy acknowledging over the uninvited tough love any day.

Anyway, yay. I love how Naomi always has bright, thoughtful, all around great people on her blog, and it’s always awesome when they visit!