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We dissolve stuck and rewrite patterns. We apply radical playfulness to life (when we feel like it!), embarking on internal adventures (credo of Safety First). We have a fake band called Solved By Cake. We build invisible sanctuaries, invent words and worlds, breathe awe and wonder.

We are not impressed by monsters. Except when we are. We explore the connections between internal territories and surrounding environment to learn what marvelously supportive delicious space feels like, and how to take exquisite care of ourselves. We transform things.* We glow wild.**

* For example: Desire, fear, worry, pain-and-trauma, boundaries, that problematic word which rhymes with flaweductivity.

** Fair warning: Self-fluency has been known to lead to extremely subversive behavior, including treasuring yourself unconditionally, unapologetically taking up space, experiencing outrageously improbable levels of self-acceptance, and general rejoicing in aliveness.


31 tiny mini-rituals for entry and exit.

I have written a lot about conscious entry and how preparing for the voyage changes the experience of whatever it is that you are entering.

The main problem with doing this is: monsters! And the main problem monsters have with entry is that they think it takes forever.

So then we call on the internal scientists, who say: “Yes, it does take time. And! Research has shown that time for entry is totally worth it because then everything that happens after is better.”

But it also doesn’t have to take time. We can also make entry impossibly brief. Under three minutes. Sometimes even as little as three seconds.

There’s always a shorter version, right?

Why this is on my mind. Background!

I’ve been thinking about this a lot this week because we’re about to open Stompopolis to new member mice who are not necessarily familiar with the culture.

Stompopolis comes with very fun (optional, of course) entry-and-exit ritual which involves sitting inside of a compass inside of a blanket fort named George!

But really, anything can be an entry or exit ritual. Anything can be turned into an entry or exit ritual. Anything conscious, playful, curious and awake can be a ritual.

So what I really want to tell people is: Try things.

I mean, it really doesn’t matter what you do. Find out what you like. Experiment. The main thing is: Hey! I’m taking a moment to mark the transition and to be present for it. It’s an experiment.

Like this. Tiny mini-rituals that I just came up with.

Off the top of my head.

Thirty one of them, as it turns out.

  1. Walk in a circle.
  2. Or walk backwards. And widdershins!
  3. Touch something that is physically stable. The floor. The wall. Lean into it.
  4. Touch you: rub your feet or pat your arms.
  5. Draw a word or a symbol on the palm of your hand with your finger.
  6. Pat the ground seven times.
  7. Invoke a superpower.
  8. Or a quality.
  9. Tune into Grounded Enthusiasm, which is one of the secret magical things that lives at Stompopolis.
  10. Ask a question. Or four questions. Use a question to skip a stone. How do I want to feel? What do I need? What would help?
  11. Squeeze a butt-monster for good luck.
  12. Put on an invisible hat.
  13. Open an invisible door.
  14. Say: This is a door.
  15. Count backwards slowly from 27 to 0.
  16. Take eleven long slow deep breaths.
  17. Write a spell on your arm with your finger.
  18. Name five things around you.
  19. Describe what is happening. This is me, in a transition. This is me, not knowing what to do. This is me, talking to myself.
  20. Blow some bubbles. Real or imaginary.
  21. Imagine your force field filling up with clarity and focus. Or whatever you want to feel in your space.
  22. Draw a salamander. Badly!
  23. Pretend to be a penguin riding a skateboard.
  24. Stand on your tiptoes eight times.
  25. Jump up and down sixteen times.
  26. Pretend to be a spy.
  27. Whisper a magic word.
  28. Make a wish. Write it down.
  29. Think of something you’re feeling good about. This is not to negate the real and legitimate pain about the hard things, just making sure the good gets attention too.
  30. Write a three-sentence love letter to slightly future you: maybe you in two hours or you in two weeks.
  31. Say: I am here now. I want to be here now.

Play with me.

You can invent tiny rituals! You can do something — anything — and decide that it is now a tiny ritual too.

You can also rename the word “ritual” and call it something else.

We could even have a ritual for making-up-rituals. Like whispering WHOOOSH or twirling in a circle. I don’t know.

As always: we all have our stuff. We’re all working on our stuff. It’s a process. And we all get to figure out what works for us and drop the rest. Apply the People Vary principle as needed.

And, speaking of rituals, I am sending love to you and to all the commenter mice, the Beloved Lurkers and everyone who reads.

Qualities of entry and exit include, for me:
Presence. Curiosity. Wonder. Lightness. Passage. Courage. Flexibility. Adaptability. Freedom. Spaciousness. Trust. Play. Grounding. Possibility. 

10 Responses to 31 tiny mini-rituals for entry and exit.

  1. Andrea
    Twitter: gocreativedream

    I am here now!!! I want to be here now!!! I want to be here now so badly I am jumping up and down about it!

    I want to put this on a card and keep it in my wallet so it’s with me wherever I go.
    Andrea recently posted… Staying Creative, Zen + Connected To Your Dream During The Holidays (part 3 of 3)

  2. Tapley
    Twitter: tapleyruth

    Saying “Open Sesame” – very, very quietly.

    Closing my eyes for 3 seconds and then opening them.

    Adjusting my invisible crown. Or invisible pointy hat. Whichever I am wearing at the time.

    Taking a moment to touch the very tip of my nose.

    This is fun!

  3. Vvvvvvvvvvv says:

    Impatient me loves the ideas of rituals being tiny (not an hour long, like the rituals I grew up with).
    I love that almost all of these are cubicle friendly. Of course, bubbles can be imaginary!

    Dear afternoon me,

    What a wonderful calmness you have from having this thing done. I recommend a celebration, because it was hard for me! And it was all worth it to get you the peacefulness.

    Now me (wearing a velvet-y scholar cap)

  4. Vvvvvvvvvvv says:

    P.S. My entry ritual is to hold hands with my Project, who looks like a cute butt-monkey.

  5. kat says:

    ri – tu – als
    rich – you – alls
    rich – walls
    yes, rich walls! the walls are rich!
    purple and velvet, and reflecting shiny golden light!
    a candle is lit, smudge is smudged,
    the rich walls reflect the mystery
    they reflect the beauty
    they open to . . .
    a new possibility?

  6. Whitney
    Twitter: paleandnerdy

    Some entry and exit rituals I’ve been using:
    Good Morning Rockstar
    Taking a few seconds to think of how I want to feel, right before work
    Asking Teacher-Me to come to the front of the V (or whoever is appropriate at the moment)
    Taking one long breath
    Arms up to sky, then dowwwwn to the floor, then up again
    Giving myself one last moment before transitions. Even things that feel urgent, like when to get out of bed, when to ask a question, when to go into the next room, ect.

  7. Max Daniels
    Twitter: maxdaniels

    Ooooh, I love all these mini-rituals! I am going to try:

    – Good Morning Rockstar
    – adjusting my invisible crown
    – “Open Sesame”

    in addition to my ritual exclamation Watch this!
    Max Daniels recently posted… Sunday lunch with royalty

  8. Corie Weaver
    Twitter: coriejweaver

    mini-rituals! I’ve been having so much resistance around ritual lately, this sounds like a lovely thing to be playing with! Forcefield filled with golden bubbles that tickle!
    Corie Weaver recently posted… The Power of Purpose

  9. Kathleen Avins
    Twitter: spiralsongkat

    One of my favorite mini-rituals for entry is a good strrrrrrrre-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-etch!
    Kathleen Avins recently posted… Season of little lights.

  10. Sue T says:

    – Lighting candles when I go to bed to read at night.
    – Turning out the light for a while so I can enjoy the candles. Invoking gratitude.
    – Blowing them out later, before I get sleepy. (Permission to get sleepy!)

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