Comments on: 8 ways to have a seriously unpleasant conversation

By: Hannah

Hannah — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 21:12:24 +0000

Love this post

Yay Selma !!

trying to take some of it on board – a little digestable bite for my next conversation

and if all goes wrong i shall say it was a Succesful Unpleasant Conversation ;)

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Shreds of Truth » Blog Archive » Communication Tips for Mondays — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:51:27 +0000

[...] Thanks (and apologies) to DeepFriar and Havi Brooks for unwittingly planting the seeds of this post in my mind. Go read their posts; you’ll [...]

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By: Communication Tips for Mondays : Shreds of Truth

Communication Tips for Mondays : Shreds of Truth — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 13:42:04 +0000

[...] Thanks (and apologies) to DeepFriar and Havi Brooks for unwittingly planting the seeds of this post in my mind. Go read their posts; you’ll [...]

By: Naturally Alise

Naturally Alise — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 22:43:31 +0000

I never really thought about the I feel and I think difference, it really does change the whole tone and importance of what you are saying.

By: Debi Hoag

Debi Hoag — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 03:45:32 +0000

Good grief, I hate that I see myself in every one of those ways to screw up. It’s slowly getting better as my gentleman friend reminds me that I don’t have to close myself off and that it’s OK to feel. If I can just remember the part about not giving so much detail that his eyeballs begin to roll back in his head … Ah, well, it’s an ongoing lesson and a journey that I love being on.

Thanks, Selma, for putting so many of my unconscious habits in to words. It’s kind of cool seeing them from the outside instead of having to find my way out of the darkness they create.

By: Rachael

Rachael — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 02:44:26 +0000

Who knew that Selma could blow Havi’s awesomeness out of the water with such a rockin’ post? This is so useful for the hardest of the hard stuffs.

@Pace – I have to agree that [I feel + like + thought (rather than feeling)] is a fantastic formula for a SUC.

…Although, I have to say that not using “I” statements at all is my personal favorite. Why stop at keeping your heart behind a wall when you can just start right off with launching grenades?

By: Mynde

Mynde — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 02:25:11 +0000

Ok so Selma is totally brilliant. I'm insisting that she was there, during that horribly awful communication breakdown I had last week and saw everything. O, I feel so human now. Thank you. Thank you. Not like, oh gack, I get to be human, but in the good self-accepting kinda way. My snark is now salivating all over my keyboard and trying to convince me that if I write a post like this, it would be therapeutic. Havi, I thank you and your duck, once again. The way you share you experiences makes me feel like we're the closest of friends and yet your this yoga chic in Portland with a duck. I dunno ;) Myndes last blog post..YWC Case Study

By: mariko

mariko — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 01:20:07 +0000

Hi Havi:

Love the post, but there may be a broken link for the book recommendations — either that or a rubber duck has highjacked my laptop and wrecked havoc….xoxox Mariko

By: JoVE

JoVE — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 21:53:41 +0000

Great post. But there must be something in the air. Jen Louden did one of these sarcastic posts recently, too. I'm pretty sure I need to come back and read this and all the posts at the bottom sometime when I'm feeling more like I have time to get into that. Right now I have to go hug my kid and maybe read some history to her or something (that's a nice thing to do, honest). JoVEs last blog post..I think winter might be here