Comments on: The clan of the outsiders. http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/ When you need some destuckification. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:47:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: The truth about rejection | House of HipGnosis | House of HipGnosis http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-2/#comment-50693 The truth about rejection | House of HipGnosis | House of HipGnosis Sun, 29 Jan 2012 23:01:23 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-50693 [...] talks about outsider syndrome. The Rejection Narrative is a close cousin of [...] [...] talks about outsider syndrome. The Rejection Narrative is a close cousin of [...]

]]> By: Dance of Shiva and the True Meaning of Christmas | ShivaMonster http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-2/#comment-47876 Dance of Shiva and the True Meaning of Christmas | ShivaMonster Fri, 16 Dec 2011 18:13:36 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-47876 [...] pattern is about belonging, I can start working on that. I can remember Havi’s post about the Clan of the Outsiders. I can find the places in my life where I do feel like I belong, like the coffee shop that knows [...] [...] pattern is about belonging, I can start working on that. I can remember Havi’s post about the Clan of the Outsiders. I can find the places in my life where I do feel like I belong, like the coffee shop that knows [...]

]]> By: » Why Not to Give Advice Sideways Soul http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-2/#comment-33129 » Why Not to Give Advice Sideways Soul Tue, 22 Mar 2011 21:51:23 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-33129 [...] (Read Havi’s post about Outsider Syndrome). [...] [...] (Read Havi’s post about Outsider Syndrome). [...]

]]> By: Alicia http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-2/#comment-30966 Alicia Sat, 12 Feb 2011 15:48:27 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-30966 Thank you for writing that. I needed to read today. I felt like an outsider when I moved from my seaside town in the south to a grim industrial town in the north 25 years ago. I've lost count of the times I've been told 'you're not from round here are you?', or 'you don't belong here'. Criticised for being middle class and southern.. Weirdly enough, I moved back to this grim town after years of living in London and Brighton. And STILL don't feel like I belong here!! (And I was born here). What's that all about? Maybe a deep rooted feeling of not belonging anywhere anyway means you'll never feel settled where ever you live. 'hurt, resentful, jealous and confused?' I've felt like that my whole life. At the age of 43, I've just started therapy and it's raised a LOT of strange, painful feelings. Moving through a very painful process may just help to connect with people instead of running away and hiding (which is what I normally do). Thank you for writing that. I needed to read today. I felt like an outsider when I moved from my seaside town in the south to a grim industrial town in the north 25 years ago. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve been told ‘you’re not from round here are you?’, or ‘you don’t belong here’. Criticised for being middle class and southern.. Weirdly enough, I moved back to this grim town after years of living in London and Brighton. And STILL don’t feel like I belong here!! (And I was born here). What’s that all about? Maybe a deep rooted feeling of not belonging anywhere anyway means you’ll never feel settled where ever you live.

‘hurt, resentful, jealous and confused?’ I’ve felt like that my whole life. At the age of 43, I’ve just started therapy and it’s raised a LOT of strange, painful feelings. Moving through a very painful process may just help to connect with people instead of running away and hiding (which is what I normally do).

]]> By: Do Mi Stauber http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-2/#comment-26433 Do Mi Stauber Mon, 29 Nov 2010 16:49:37 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-26433 Wow. Lots of thoughts. I have gone back and forth all my life between feeling like an outsider and finding my people. Now at 51 I am closer to feeling comfortable in both situations. I'll have to think about this some more...Thank you, Havi. Wow. Lots of thoughts. I have gone back and forth all my life between feeling like an outsider and finding my people. Now at 51 I am closer to feeling comfortable in both situations. I’ll have to think about this some more…Thank you, Havi.

]]> By: Digital Demolition » Blog Archive » Off balance http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-2/#comment-12818 Digital Demolition » Blog Archive » Off balance Tue, 19 Jan 2010 20:29:28 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-12818 [...] person has issues (stuff, stuck, triggers, whatever you want to call them) and no one feels normal. Ever. We’re struggling to fit into a nebulous place that doesn’t exist, except in our heads. (And [...] [...] person has issues (stuff, stuck, triggers, whatever you want to call them) and no one feels normal. Ever. We’re struggling to fit into a nebulous place that doesn’t exist, except in our heads. (And [...]

]]> By: Intersections http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-2/#comment-12716 Intersections Fri, 15 Jan 2010 21:54:23 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-12716 [...] So there I was sitting in the the workshop when suddenly it occurred to me that I was feeling like a total outsider. [...] [...] So there I was sitting in the the workshop when suddenly it occurred to me that I was feeling like a total outsider. [...]

]]> By: dee http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-1/#comment-9930 dee Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:23:43 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-9930 OUTSIDER is a gift not a joke.im a outsider since i can remember and proud of it to.im sick of hearing someone say u are not when they dont have a clue who u are or background.My blood family was bad they never understood me my mom was always in the streets looking for my stepdad never know my real dad.i was just in the way thats all i was.at 12 i ran away living in the streets came back and left again never went to high school 8th grade was it for me got pick on and push around so much and pick in special ed cause i was so quite but pass with a's lol.my relatesonships are bad cause i never learn the meaning of love so i dont how to give it or recive it cause alot of fights.my kids are the closes family,friends,that i have.dont get me wrong i love being alone waking up everyday with no stress of ppl nosense the tears heartaces.im making my outsiders family,and friends and we will not be pick on push around and walk all over no more.if u find yourself looking out the window looking at the world different wishing u could join the real world and having been out the house for about 3weeks then u are a outsider.and i welcome u with arms open wide much love. OUTSIDER is a gift not a joke.im a outsider since i can remember and proud of it to.im sick of hearing someone say u are not when they dont have a clue who u are or background.My blood family was bad they never understood me my mom was always in the streets looking for my stepdad never know my real dad.i was just in the way thats all i was.at 12 i ran away living in the streets came back and left again never went to high school 8th grade was it for me got pick on and push around so much and pick in special ed cause i was so quite but pass with a’s lol.my relatesonships are bad cause i never learn the meaning of love so i dont how to give it or recive it cause alot of fights.my kids are the closes family,friends,that i have.dont get me wrong i love being alone waking up everyday with no stress of ppl nosense the tears heartaces.im making my outsiders family,and friends and we will not be pick on push around and walk all over no more.if u find yourself looking out the window looking at the world different wishing u could join the real world and having been out the house for about 3weeks then u are a outsider.and i welcome u with arms open wide much love.

]]> By: Sherri http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-1/#comment-4343 Sherri Fri, 10 Apr 2009 15:58:09 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-4343 I'm not an outsider? Crap. (Oh and seriously? Thanks for this. It's eye-opening.) <abbr><em>Sherris last blog post..<a href="http://sherrileigh.wordpress.com/2009/04/03/photo-friday-peaceful-garden/" rel="nofollow">Photo Friday: Peaceful Garden</a></abbr></em> I’m not an outsider? Crap. (Oh and seriously? Thanks for this. It’s eye-opening.)

Sherris last blog post..Photo Friday: Peaceful Garden

]]> By: | Sarah's Blog http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/the-clan-of-the-outsiders/comment-page-1/#comment-3838 | Sarah's Blog Mon, 23 Mar 2009 16:30:32 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2237#comment-3838 [...] at some point in their lives, if not almost all the time. Havi talks about this here and calls it “The Clan of the Outsiders”. I have the same story going that she does - I’m on the fringes, different, weird. Certainly [...] [...] at some point in their lives, if not almost all the time. Havi talks about this here and calls it “The Clan of the Outsiders”. I have the same story going that she does – I’m on the fringes, different, weird. Certainly [...]

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