Comments on: Shoes. Everywhere. http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/ When you need some destuckification. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:51:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Change Yourself Change the World › First Snow Moon http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-26003 Change Yourself Change the World › First Snow Moon Mon, 22 Nov 2010 02:40:57 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-26003 [...] Havi would call this a shoe.  And note that there actually isn’t a shoe.  But I’m pretty sure she’d be okay with me [...] [...] Havi would call this a shoe.  And note that there actually isn’t a shoe.  But I’m pretty sure she’d be okay with me [...]

]]> By: z. http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14410 z. Tue, 02 Mar 2010 21:25:08 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14410 I'm on the call now but can't get into the chatroom ... anybody on a mac having problems with getting in? I know I have the latest java but still can't get the plugin to work. darn. :( I’m on the call now but can’t get into the chatroom … anybody on a mac having problems with getting in? I know I have the latest java but still can’t get the plugin to work. darn. :(

]]> By: Havi Brooks http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14407 Havi Brooks Tue, 02 Mar 2010 19:47:21 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14407 <img src="http://fluentself.com/images/blog/ducks/Selma_tinyW.png"> These are all so great. I am giving thought to all of these. You are marvelous. Thank you for the questions! So so so appreciated!

These are all so great. I am giving thought to all of these. You are marvelous. Thank you for the questions! So so so appreciated!

]]> By: Kaja Marie http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14377 Kaja Marie Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:58:22 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14377 Question: What about when people think that I am throwing a shoe. I really don't want to throw shoes, but apparantly I do... all the time. .-= Kaja Marie´s last post ... <a href="http://tekstogtanke.wordpress.com/2010/02/28/kill-your-darlings-men-ligg-unna-mine/" rel="nofollow">Kill your darlings, men ligg unna mine</a> =-. Question: What about when people think that I am throwing a shoe. I really don’t want to throw shoes, but apparantly I do… all the time.
.-= Kaja Marie´s last post … Kill your darlings, men ligg unna mine =-.

]]> By: sharonopolis http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14375 sharonopolis Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:07:10 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14375 Not sure if it's outside the scope of the class, but I'd like to discuss how to give criticism without throwing shoes. I find it easy to do when there are facts involved, but when it's *artistic merit* and *aesthetic preference* and I have a strong opinion I need to figure out how to make that constructive for the other person. Because no one wants to hear "your art sucks." Not sure if it’s outside the scope of the class, but I’d like to discuss how to give criticism without throwing shoes. I find it easy to do when there are facts involved, but when it’s *artistic merit* and *aesthetic preference* and I have a strong opinion I need to figure out how to make that constructive for the other person. Because no one wants to hear “your art sucks.”

]]> By: Birdy Diamond http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14373 Birdy Diamond Tue, 02 Mar 2010 05:32:47 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14373 Joining w/the others in saying 'Many thanks for doing!' :-) I too will probably be listening in after the fact, but will be waiting eagerly for the recording. My big shoe-related stuckness is being so afraid of the potential pain of them that it's being very very hard to move forward on certain necessary projects, which is causing different kinds of stress & strain. Possibly related, and definitely deserving of another huge 'Thank you!' was your post about sometimes slow means you care huge-bunches, not not-at-all. Sovereignty is easier some days than others. :-P Best of Fortune & thnx again! Joining w/the others in saying ‘Many thanks for doing!’ :-) I too will probably be listening in after the fact, but will be waiting eagerly for the recording.

My big shoe-related stuckness is being so afraid of the potential pain of them that it’s being very very hard to move forward on certain necessary projects, which is causing different kinds of stress & strain.

Possibly related, and definitely deserving of another huge ‘Thank you!’ was your post about sometimes slow means you care huge-bunches, not not-at-all.

Sovereignty is easier some days than others. :-P

Best of Fortune & thnx again!

]]> By: Katie (Sauer) Hart http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14369 Katie (Sauer) Hart Tue, 02 Mar 2010 04:31:08 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14369 I'll be listening in to the recording... Any thoughts on the situation when person A thinks You threw a shoe at person Z - while neither You nor Z think a shoe was thrown? Person A feels very strongly that You and Z are deluded that you can't see the shoe. .-= Katie (Sauer) Hart´s last post ... <a href="http://yogiconomist.blogspot.com/2010/02/rmu-2010-teaching-economics-conference.html" rel="nofollow">RMU 2010 Teaching Economics Conference - Presentation</a> =-. I’ll be listening in to the recording…

Any thoughts on the situation when person A thinks You threw a shoe at person Z – while neither You nor Z think a shoe was thrown? Person A feels very strongly that You and Z are deluded that you can’t see the shoe.
.-= Katie (Sauer) Hart´s last post … RMU 2010 Teaching Economics Conference – Presentation =-.

]]> By: Anonymouse http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14364 Anonymouse Tue, 02 Mar 2010 03:11:09 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14364 You touched on something once that was so interesting - about avoiding conflict to avoid hurting other people. I hope you can talk a little about how that relates to shoes and sovereignty. Maybe it's the fear of being a shoe-thrower? You touched on something once that was so interesting – about avoiding conflict to avoid hurting other people. I hope you can talk a little about how that relates to shoes and sovereignty. Maybe it’s the fear of being a shoe-thrower?

]]> By: Sarah http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14362 Sarah Tue, 02 Mar 2010 02:50:58 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14362 My shoe-related stuckness involves differences of opinion about shoes and sovereignty. What happens if you -- not you-Havi, but some hypothetical you -- think I threw a shoe at you and I am convinced I did not? Or vice versa? How can we both keep our crowns on our heads while considering the validity of the other point of view? If we can't agree, then what? This pretty much only matters to me in my closest relationships -- in the rest, there's more room for staying away from potentially shoe-infested topics, at least -- but it matters <i>a lot</i> there. My shoe-related stuckness involves differences of opinion about shoes and sovereignty. What happens if you — not you-Havi, but some hypothetical you — think I threw a shoe at you and I am convinced I did not? Or vice versa? How can we both keep our crowns on our heads while considering the validity of the other point of view? If we can’t agree, then what?

This pretty much only matters to me in my closest relationships — in the rest, there’s more room for staying away from potentially shoe-infested topics, at least — but it matters a lot there.

]]> By: Allie http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/shoes-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-14359 Allie Tue, 02 Mar 2010 01:13:32 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8017#comment-14359 I'll be at work @1pm, but I plan on listening later on. Could you do a transcript too, possibly. (Like the state of the union, sometimes I'd rather go back and read because I'm think about what's been said rather than listening to what is being said currently.) Just a thought. My question is about internal shoes. I have a habit of throwing shoes at myself in my head. I worry if I'm doing enough, being present enough. I try, but I would like more confirmation. I need a mental hug everyday. From myself and the people in my life. Especially Tuesdays. But sometimes that isn't possible, and I'm trying to be understanding and rational about it, and it's hard. I know they love me, and support me, but sometimes my brain forgets. Help me hold the love better? I’ll be at work @1pm, but I plan on listening later on. Could you do a transcript too, possibly. (Like the state of the union, sometimes I’d rather go back and read because I’m think about what’s been said rather than listening to what is being said currently.) Just a thought.

My question is about internal shoes. I have a habit of throwing shoes at myself in my head. I worry if I’m doing enough, being present enough. I try, but I would like more confirmation. I need a mental hug everyday. From myself and the people in my life. Especially Tuesdays. But sometimes that isn’t possible, and I’m trying to be understanding and rational about it, and it’s hard. I know they love me, and support me, but sometimes my brain forgets. Help me hold the love better?

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