Comments on: The lost art of not jumping.

By: Deb

Deb — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 20:37:27 +0000

Hurray for validation. Yes I once got forced (pushed) to jump; and yes I survived and it turned out – eventually – for the best; but it has taken a long time to get to the point where I feel both safe and successful. Really, it is okay to have both.

And it is not going to bode well for the next person who asks “now, when are you going to launch?” because I plan to never launch but to wade gracefully in to the stream.

I so needed to discover this post today.
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By: Sued

Sued — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 17:40:13 +0000

Hi Havi,

I linked to this post from Work Happy Now. This was a great post–I loved the whole metaphor of your “New Big Thing” as a kid learning to swim/jump off the diving board. Most people I know who were emotionally (or worse, literally) pushed off a diving board (or the edge of the pool) before they were ready mostly just ended up developing a big fear of water (well really of being overwhelmed/drowning which are actually not unreasonable fears!), swimming in the deep end, and–as an added bonus–a deep sense of feeling that their feelings don’t count.

Writing and teaching about having compassion and acceptance for one’s self (even when we’re having a vulnerable moment) is very courageous and a much needed antidote to so many of the damaging (at worst) and unhelpful (at best) views and attitudes that seem to be part of our cultural collective consciousness. So, a big thank you for having the courage to take this challenge and offer a more humane, gentle approach to life and its challenges.

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By: Waverly

Waverly — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 07:21:53 +0000

Havi–
This metaphor really worked for me. When I was about 8, my mother signed me and my sister up for swimming lessons with the local Bluebird troop. They needed an extra couple of kids to get the discount for the group. On the last day of the class, we were all supposed to dive (or jump) off the diving board and swim to the other end of the pool. I refused to jump and the teacher came out on the diving board and pushed me in. I swam straight back to the closest edge and climbed out. I’ve always thought that was a smart thing to do. And years later, and years of swimming lessons later, I taught myself to swim by just goofing around in a friend’s pool. And I love swimming. And I love water. Just not jumping!
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By: Karen, Square-Peg

Karen, Square-Peg — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:14:29 +0000

Oh, Havi! Amna asked me last night – when I talked about feeling like the next thing I need to do is too big (a JUMP): “Did you read Havi’s post today?” … I jumped (not JUMPED..a nice friendly lope) over here this morning to find out what you said — ahhhhh…I LOVE the water AND I’m not jumping! Thanks for this!!
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By: Natalia

Natalia — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 12:53:37 +0000

Oh, how wonderful that sounds! I’ve come to appreciate not jumping through reading your blog and ebooks. What an amazing concept. So simple, and yet…

I just had to JUMP IN to something (in/out of relationships and to another country). I wasn’t ready, as it turns out. Argh. I jumped in and things didn’t go as planned – so I wanted to get out of the friggin’ pool because I was drowning, but nobody came to help me out. It’s so hard to tread water! It would have been great to get out. I guess this isn’t so much about jumping in as much as it is about not wanting to be in the pool. Or about wanting to un-jump. Heh. I’m kinda learning to swim now, but shit…

By: Char

Char — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 06:01:08 +0000

so, um , havi
i haven’t slept in 4 days – quite literally – i’m on adrenalin overload for way too many reasons to mention.
and i’ve got stuff to sleep – homeopathic, rescue remedy, pharmaceuticals, etc- and the message is sleep would you which equates to jump in the pool already and dive into your unconscious.
but i don’t wanna.
i wanna be in community. i don’t want to jump into sleep – i’m afraid, i’m not ready to release into rest with all this stuff and let my unconscious do its thing because i don’t wanna.
just like jumping in the pool – and i read this and will now ease into going to sleep, and i’ll sleep for as long as i do – and if i have bad dreams or it’s time to get up – i’ll do that – and allow myself to make mistakes with the whole not sleeping thing
in part because i read this line of yours
Its best qualities come out when it has permission to do things its own way. It’s happy. It has a sweet, playful, goofy spirit and a fierce power all its own.

And my commitment is to love it.

To care for it. To give it room. To appreciate how cool it is. To take away shoulds. To give it permission to have fear. To give it permission to need stuff.

To not have to do anything the conventional way.

And to do all that for myself too. When I can

thank you so much for helping me in a way i didn’t know how to do for myself. how can i ever say thank you enough for that.
.-= Char´s last post … Be Kind 2 Mind: Glenn Close goes to Bat for Her Sis =-.

By: Sonia Simone

Sonia Simone — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 05:28:02 +0000

@Andrew, that is neat, working on being less certain. I like it. .-= Sonia Simone´s last post ... What Makes Marketing Hard? =-.

By: Sanders

Sanders — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:59:45 +0000

“It’s amazing how good it feels to have permission to not do things the painful way.”
YES!!! Why is that we often look for the hard way to do our stuff?

I’m so NOT jumping! Thank you Havi!