Comments on: More thoughts on exiting the middle.

By: On Progress and Getting Stuck | Helping You Harmonise

On Progress and Getting Stuck | Helping You Harmonise — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 11:13:36 +0000

[...] : A few months ago, my friend Sarra sent me a link to an interesting post on The Fluent Self blog about different phases of skill level. It is worth reading in its entirety, but the executive [...]

By: Eliana Gilad

Eliana Gilad — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 21:30:32 +0000

oops, forgot my twitter name – actually, avoiding twitter is another way I stay in the middle. It goes along with middle sister – overwhelm.

By: Eliana Gilad

Eliana Gilad — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 21:29:18 +0000

Wow, what a blessing to read your posts Havi and all the wonderful comments too.

Beginner’s Mind is my preferred way to stay stuck in the middle. I do it silently. Or, another way I stay in the middle is to get foggy. As soon as I begin to hit the essence, the deeper essence of presence, I fog, or shift focus.

Yesterday after one too many times of playing Jean D’Arc’s replacement I lost it in the car – yelled, screamed, to God – I’ve had enough. Today has been raw and painful. I let it show to a colleague. It was embarrassing.

When I read these posts I see I am really loving me through this. It’s great to see that.

By: Charlene Jaszewski

Charlene Jaszewski — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 04:10:26 +0000

Wow. this is tweet-o-mancy. Exactly the tweet I needed to read.
But this post explained something about myself I hadn’t been able to articulate.

All my life I’ve been the person who can dive in and learn things very quickly. Once I feel like I’ve gotten “enough,” I lose interest and move on to the next thing I can learn quickly. Result? I have beginner knowledge in many things, but nothing very deep. I used to think it was because I just love to learn things (which is true) but now I’m wondering after reading this if it’s that being in beginner mind is “easier” because I don’t have to challenge myself. I’ve been guilty of being in beginner mind with things AND people. and i dont’ like it anymore. But trying to get out of the middle is…hard. I don’t even know how to do it. Maybe you can write a post on that next?

By: Marvelous Monday : Wicked Whimsy

Marvelous Monday : Wicked Whimsy — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 13:03:29 +0000

[...] Gems from Havi: exit the middle and more thoughts on exiting the middle. [...]

By: Josiane

Josiane — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 17:44:02 +0000

What you wrote here opens up a whole world of new perspectives and new possibilities, and really useful ones at that. Once again, I’ve got more thinking to do about it all, some more exploration of the ideas that came up for me while reading (and re-reading) those two posts. I’m already pretty excited about where this is leading me! Thank you!

By: Jenny McMillna

Jenny McMillna — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 12:01:06 +0000

I love this. It makes me think of the one smart thing I have learned as I have gotten older which is to stop struggling.

When I was a teenager I read an article about someone who could float upright in water. It was some kind of advanced yoga practice. He made the statement that all that it took was to do nothing. “To drown is to be doing something.” I have always carried this thought with me, but never quite been able to pull it off.

I do know that I make so much more progress when I give myself permission to be where ever I am at.

I want to ask, how does the middle relate to the bridge?

By: Jane

Jane — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 10:26:29 +0000

I’ve come back and reread this a couple of times because it’s just so right for where I’ve been this week. It’s like a door opening from a thought room I’ve been investigating and showing a path to circumvent getting stuck in getting more caught up in striving to Be Good and Succesful (definitions which strangely enough are never mine) that ends up paralysing me and sapping the energy that I want to actually do the things I enjoy.

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 02:12:08 +0000

I sooooo needed this post today!

Such a great way to describe where I’ve been for , like, a year. But lately, I feel myself moving, aware, making different choices, sailing slowly toward the goals.

For me, it’s a combination of pushing the boundaries of the middle and getting bored with it AND finally looking up to see what is beyond. When the vision was real, I could figure out steps to get there and reach.

It feels….weird, but exciting.

Thanks, Havi, you’re words mean so much.
.-= Susan´s last post … Summer Reading List for Biz Savvy Health Care Professionals =-.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 23:58:12 +0000

I’ve been thinking about this yesterday and today and I’m wondering if I’m in the middle in a lot of areas of my life because the beginning area was so uncomfortable that I skipped right over it and just wanted {someone or something} to fix it or make it better or make it harder/easier.

Most of the things we did in school came really easy for me. But I never really learned that the whole beginner’s mind thing was something to appreciate and enjoy .. which means that when something comes along that isn’t quite so easy (which is lots of things in life), I feel like there must be something wrong with me for not getting it and I get stuck there. It doesn’t feel like the beginning, and I haven’t really left it, so maybe it’s a sort of middle – and I just need to be conscious of it.

It does occur to me that the one area in my life that I am actually really good at noticing and being curious and experimenting is my photography, so maybe I can learn how to transfer that to other areas.
.-= Elizabeth´s last post … scenes from the market =-.