Comments on: Cheese. Communication. Stars. More Cheese.

By: Havi Brooks

Havi Brooks — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 21:26:45 +0000

Ha! @VIVA – I also like the book Difficult Conversations (though the title might be problematic for those of us (me!) who want to run away and avoid difficult anything. Thought it was quite useful. Though if I were just taking one communication book to a desert island — with a person I’d need to communicate with — I’d probably take NVC. Also How to Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk…. But NVC first.

By: VIVA

VIVA — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 20:45:09 +0000

Sounds like a great book!
A friend with anxiety (of a somewhat different flavor than mine) recommended the book “Difficult Conversations.” I’ve resisted it, because — I admit — I don’t want to do difficult things. I’d like to think that there is ease under the facade of difficulty, and I just have to (effortlessly) melt through the difficult layer onto the pillowy reassurance of the ease part. (Havi, your metaphorizing is contagious and fun!) My goal is to have more motivating self-talk and more openness to others.

So, is NVC as useful as Difficult Conversations?
(And let me introduce you to the I-have-to-know-this-investment-will-pay-off-now monster of impatience.)

By: Vulnerability : Sarah Marmoset

Vulnerability : Sarah Marmoset — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 20:48:53 +0000

[...] book Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg, as recommended by Havi here. I will second her advice to ignore the awfully cheesy poetry. Honestly, just pretend it’s in [...]

By: My Strategies for Weight Loss

My Strategies for Weight Loss — Mon, 24 May 2010 11:16:54 +0000

[...] I do. I just reason with it until it gets bored and gives up (some people call this non-violent communication. I think of it as “talking at them until they’re bored” because I’m not [...]

By: claire

claire — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 20:13:35 +0000

Thank you for suggesting this book by way of personal story-telling. I just finished reading it, and intellectually I get most of it though introvert that I am, I can't say I want to connect with people this much all the time. Still, most of it I found to be worthwhile, if a little clunky sounding. I'm working on my clarity of expression, being more specific about my observations and removing the judgments from them and figuring out how to accurately express/name my feelings and what I want. I was also rather intrigued by the section on applying NVC to internal critical monologues. There's a lot to take in... I'll probably try to read most of it again before it's due. Again, thank you for the review and for the note about skipping the poetry. claires last blog post..20. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion

By: Thank you note Tuesday - and not | The Peace Happiness and Love Blog

Thank you note Tuesday - and not | The Peace Happiness and Love Blog — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 19:59:19 +0000

[...] best mailman in the world brought my copy of the Nonviolent Communication book recommended by Havi, and it rocks. It also works. It worked the other day when my little one, age 3, was refusing to [...]

By: leah

leah — Sun, 31 May 2009 02:51:33 +0000

Ha! Thanks for sharing that about the poetry. I found it a bit cheeseball as well. I'm reading NVC, trying to absorb, struggling with it a bit. I love reading your discussions of it. Super helpful! Question: Is the "even though" part of your comment to Amna part of NVC? I recently heard people teaching EFT using it, but wasn't sure if it was part of NVC too. leahs last blog post..Whale Tales

By: Hugs, Transparency, Guiltassion, Hedonism, & Boundaries « The Living Poet

Sat, 30 May 2009 00:17:45 +0000

[...] Whatever, I’m at where I’m at, and as Havi pointed out this week, sometimes a little cheese is appropriate. [...]

By: Anna-Liza

Anna-Liza — Fri, 29 May 2009 12:33:59 +0000

All right all right already! Not you, Havi, The Universe. This book has been put in front of my face Idunnamany times in the last few months ... except for actually getting my hands on a copy. If The Universe could please arrange that my local bookstore have it in stock please? And preferably on a day I have money. Thank you. And thanks for the heads up on the poetry. I've had enough experience to know that many good things are hidden by cheese, but it's still good to have some reassurance that there's actually meat in there, so to speak. You know when you're resisting something so mightily that you don't even realize what you're doing is resistance? That? And when I say "you", I mean "I". Anna-Lizas last blog post..Pollyanna Knows the Feeling

By: Carrie Tallman

Carrie Tallman — Fri, 29 May 2009 01:57:11 +0000

Okay, I'm considering reading the book. But I am skeptical (possibly part of my problem). After reading many many many books, I'm wondering how many books does it take to get unstuck? I mean really, is my head extra thick? (Rhetorical). I have tools, but often I fall back into my stuckness despite knowing better. Which leads to frustration, unkindness, etc... Didn't mean to rant, but I'm ready for my "night under the stars" already. Thanks for the post. Carrie Tallmans last blog post..Parking Karma