Comments on: Avoidance! Oh, and getting out of it. http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/ When you need some destuckification. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:03:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Unsticking and anti-procrastination http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-2/#comment-48993 Unsticking and anti-procrastination Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:04:25 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-48993 [...] Avoidance! Oh, and getting out of it. [...] [...] Avoidance! Oh, and getting out of it. [...]

]]> By: Burning out in academia | Meaningful Squiggles http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-2/#comment-46592 Burning out in academia | Meaningful Squiggles Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:11:09 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-46592 [...] of the major panic yesterday, was to go here for some compassionate emergency help (particularly this and this and this). I got this and it did help me get a few things done this morning. But I can [...] [...] of the major panic yesterday, was to go here for some compassionate emergency help (particularly this and this and this). I got this and it did help me get a few things done this morning. But I can [...]

]]> By: Seven Productivity Tips For People That Hate GTD « Nourish http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-2/#comment-39302 Seven Productivity Tips For People That Hate GTD « Nourish Wed, 27 Jul 2011 10:55:44 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-39302 [...] Allow yourself to suck. One of the biggest reasons we avoid doing what we love is that we’re afraid we’re going to fall flat on our face, in front of everyone. And then they’ll laugh or think we’re not amazing and all our theories about how we’re not really a genius will be true. Here’s some good news: You probably won’t be as bad as you thought you were. Here’s some bad news: You’ll never be great unless you first allow yourself to suck. So embrace your suckiness. Don’t let the fear of failure keep you from doing what you love. [...] [...] Allow yourself to suck. One of the biggest reasons we avoid doing what we love is that we’re afraid we’re going to fall flat on our face, in front of everyone. And then they’ll laugh or think we’re not amazing and all our theories about how we’re not really a genius will be true. Here’s some good news: You probably won’t be as bad as you thought you were. Here’s some bad news: You’ll never be great unless you first allow yourself to suck. So embrace your suckiness. Don’t let the fear of failure keep you from doing what you love. [...]

]]> By: 065 SELF PUBLISHING FOR VIRGINS / What’s Holding You Back? | Connie and Sheila Talk http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-2/#comment-38996 065 SELF PUBLISHING FOR VIRGINS / What’s Holding You Back? | Connie and Sheila Talk Wed, 20 Jul 2011 00:10:43 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-38996 [...] http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/ [...] [...] http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/ [...]

]]> By: Trigger, Peek-a-Boo Sound Bites, and Thanks Havi — Creative Journey http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-2/#comment-35360 Trigger, Peek-a-Boo Sound Bites, and Thanks Havi — Creative Journey Sun, 01 May 2011 16:17:32 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-35360 [...] had read her post “Avoidance! Oh, and getting out of it” before, but it hadn’t really sunk in. She mentioned a really insightful post by Emma [...] [...] had read her post “Avoidance! Oh, and getting out of it” before, but it hadn’t really sunk in. She mentioned a really insightful post by Emma [...]

]]> By: On Fasting From Facebook and [Re]Fueling My Passion(s) – South Side Scholar http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-2/#comment-32626 On Fasting From Facebook and [Re]Fueling My Passion(s) – South Side Scholar Mon, 14 Mar 2011 13:29:43 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-32626 [...] I was working on, I would sign onto facebook. Whenever I would get bored, I’d sign onto facebook. Avoidance can be a major problem for me at [...] [...] I was working on, I would sign onto facebook. Whenever I would get bored, I’d sign onto facebook. Avoidance can be a major problem for me at [...]

]]> By: Conversation Starter « Conversations http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-1/#comment-21028 Conversation Starter « Conversations Wed, 18 Aug 2010 01:15:21 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-21028 [...] moon and open up their experience a bit, for me to peek in on, notice how they handle things like Avoidence, in order to get to the place where they are thriving.  In posts like The Failure Manifesto, where [...] [...] moon and open up their experience a bit, for me to peek in on, notice how they handle things like Avoidence, in order to get to the place where they are thriving.  In posts like The Failure Manifesto, where [...]

]]> By: When in doubt, consult the Oracle | my seed house http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-1/#comment-20167 When in doubt, consult the Oracle | my seed house Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:34:50 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-20167 [...] Let me unpack that one. My oracle lately is the amazing Havi. Amidst my sugar crash, all I knew is that I’d been sitting around being unproductive for most of the afternoon, and where had my energy gone? Aforementioned worrywart dwelling was not making it any easier. But somehow I just knew Havi had covered this before. So I went for a post that looked like it might help: Avoidance! Oh, and getting out of it. [...] [...] Let me unpack that one. My oracle lately is the amazing Havi. Amidst my sugar crash, all I knew is that I’d been sitting around being unproductive for most of the afternoon, and where had my energy gone? Aforementioned worrywart dwelling was not making it any easier. But somehow I just knew Havi had covered this before. So I went for a post that looked like it might help: Avoidance! Oh, and getting out of it. [...]

]]> By: Please Make Your Game - The Quixotic Engineer http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-1/#comment-17732 Please Make Your Game - The Quixotic Engineer Mon, 31 May 2010 23:52:18 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-17732 [...] something for the first time, especially if it’s something you’re passionate about. As Havi Brooks explains, doing what you love can be terrifying: You’re avoiding the thing that’s holding all [...] [...] something for the first time, especially if it’s something you’re passionate about. As Havi Brooks explains, doing what you love can be terrifying: You’re avoiding the thing that’s holding all [...]

]]> By: Pat http://www.fluentself.com/blog/stuckification/avoidance-oh-and-getting-out-of-it/comment-page-1/#comment-16321 Pat Sat, 01 May 2010 16:57:01 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=2535#comment-16321 Dear Havi, Thank you so much for this. You understand! This: "Instead of recognizing your pain, you start to question yourself and your commitment." brought tears to my eyes because that was my life for far, far too long. Dear Havi,

Thank you so much for this. You understand!

This:

“Instead of recognizing your pain, you start to question yourself and your commitment.”

brought tears to my eyes because that was my life for far, far too long.

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