very personal adsPersonal ads! They’re … personal! Very.

So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.

Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.

Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.

And now it’s my Sunday ritual for clarity and remembering and stuff like that. Yay, ritual!

Let us dooo eeeet.

Thing 1: Progress on a HAT!

Here’s what I want:

A HAT, as you probably know, is Havi’s Announcing a Thing.

This is what is generally called a “sales page”, but that particular turn of phrase puts me into complete paralysis. Luckily I am okay at casually announcing things. On a page. Yes.

Anyway, it is high time that I finish the one for our Week of Biggification and Life-Changingly Astounding Things in Asheville that’s coming up in November. So I can officially announce it.

Especially since it’s almost half full already.

Ways this could work:

I am going to use the Rally (Rally!) to work on it.

Please note that now the Rally has its own HAT! Last week’s VPA totally worked.

Also Shiva Nata for the necessary insights and epiphanies.

And having conversations with the me-who-has-already-done-this to see what pearls of weird-ass wisdom she has to share.

Usually that’s pretty trippy. And useful.

My commitment.

To be receptive to this happening in fun, playful, silly, non-stressful ways.

To be in the excitement, because this really is the most exciting thing I’ve taught, in a location that is very special-to-me, as well as intensely fabulous in general

And to let my big crazy love for this thing be the source of whatever I end up having to say about it.

Thing 2: Rest.

Here’s what I want:

It is a hectic week.

What with the Rallying (Rally!) and pirate councils and the folk festival and visitors, it is a lot. And now I must say WAH and marvel at how much doing that involves.

So I would like rest and resting and restfulness to accompany the doing.

Or, better said: rest and resting and restfulness to partner with the doing.

Ways this could work:

I could book a massage or some goo-slathering (this might require more conversations with Phobic Me and Non-Phobic Me … but that’s okay).

And begin the Old Turkish Lady yoga sessions early.

Carve out time to take meals by myself.

Maybe a visit from Metaphor Mouse!

I don’t know.

My commitment.

To keep reminding myself that this is important.

To remember what I learned in the labyrinth in Taos: that rest is not only the duty of the queen, but the first duty of the queen.

And to play around with words and ideas and possibilities so that I can turn this resting thing into something that is workable and meaningful and fun.

Thing 3: Some right people for Hiro’s call.

Here’s what I want:

My dear sweet friend and sister-in-silliness is doing a freebie teleclass to teach interesting things, as a taste of some of what will happen in her Become Your Own Business Adviser course.

It’s going to be a guided process that helps you get in touch with something you really, really want to create in your business (possibly something you don’t know about yet or maybe you have an idea but you’d like to know more).

And about how to make the decisions that will help that good stuff happen, but not decisions based on depletion and freaking-out. Decisions that come from fullness.

Hiro is brilliant at this stuff. I’m sure I never would have been able to create the Playground without the help of this very class that I took last year.

In order to make the Playground happen, I had to also become the person who could handle it. Which meant developing aspects of myself and abilities that were new to me.

So much clarity and enthusiasm and knowing — that’s what I got, and also the insights needed to grow my business in the way that I wanted it to grow.

Anyway, I’m pretty insanely enthusiastic about Hiro’s work. And I would love to see a gazillion people sign up for her call.

Ways this could work:

I might bug her until she writes a post about it.

I can tell you about it, and also tell you that it doesn’t cost anything and that it will be full of usefulness even if you have no intention of ever taking any of her programs, and also where to go to sign up (on that page: the box in the right-hand sidebar).

Or maybe it will just be the right time for the right people.

My commitment.

To love my friend and appreciate her and be one of the people who waves her flag because her mission is linked to mine, and we are pirate queens sailing the same seas.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

My first ask was for a trial-run Rally (Rally!) to come together. And it did.

We have a tiny group of fun people. Lots of enthusiasm and giddiness.

And we are rallying it up starting tomorrow evening. Which is awesome because it really should be illegal to announce a thing a week before it happens. Yay.

I wanted help with the homecoming and an easy landing, and that actually went pretty well.

Mostly in that I was easier on myself about transitions. And also yelled at anyone who wanted me to get back to work. And took things slowly and easily.

And we were also looking for a small refrigerator for Hoppy House and a tiny one for the Playground, and I think we’ve found both. Though nothing has been purchased yet.

Still, it’s good to know what you want. Thanks to everyone who made suggestions!

The last thing was a more conscious relationship with going online, and that went really well for the most part. I have been remembering my kooky little rituals.

Will keep working on this one (you’ll probably see another incarnation of it in a future Very Personal Ad) but I’m feeling pleased about the general direction.

Comment zen. Here’s what I’d love today.

  • Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!

What I’d rather not have:

  • The word “manifest”.
  • Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
  • To be judged, psychoanalyzed or given advices.

Wishing love and good things for your Very Personal Ads! So glad for everyone doing this with me.