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Each week I write these VPAs to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted.

I always get useful information about my relationship with various aspects of the ask. Join in if you like!

Sunday! Let’s start gwishing for things.

Thing 1: excitement for the Toy Shop!

Here’s what I want:

I have been working my ass off trying to make the Toy Shop at the Playground beautiful and sparkly. Giant project.

And while there’s still plenty of work to do, we are done with round one. And I’m ready for some celebration!

Ways this could work:

At the Rally (Rally!) this week, there will be a number of people who have been at other Rallies or at the Shiva Nata teacher trainings.

They might ooh and aaah over the changes. That would be awesome.

Or I could take some time to really notice the parts of me who need acknowledgment and appreciation, and do some oo/aah-ing myself.

I can have a mini-house-warming party for the Toy Shop. Even if I don’t invite anyone.

It could just be me and the Schmoppet and a glass of wine. We could make toasts. Toasts!

My commitment.

To bring fun and light-heartedness to the process.

To play. To squeeze all the buttmonsters and pounce with the pouncers and flirt with the yowls. Yes, it’s that kind of store.

Plus we have jewelry made from spirographs!

To be full of love and support for my tiny, sweet thing.

Thing 2: epiphany-tracking.

Here’s what I want:

This week the insights are going to be flying at me like mad because this Rally is especially shivanautically-themed.

And I’d like to have some way of consolidating them, sorting them, helping them land.

Ways this could work:

Well, that could be my intention for one of the things I get epiphanies about.

Or it could even be part of my Rally project that I end up projectizing: what do I do with sparks of genius when I’m not ready to act on them yet?

My commitment.

To be present with the hard.

To let the moments of understanding do what they need to do.

To ask lots of questions, skip the stones and take notes.

Thing 3: we still need a new tech pirate and haven’t found him/her yet.

Here’s what I want:

This is an ask that has been asked a lot of times, in a variety of forms.

And for whatever reason, we haven’t found what we wanted.

So instead of just asking the ask again or posting the ad, I am going to work on this in the soft.

I am going to pay attention to what would happen in my business if we had the tech support we needed, and what my internal resistance is to bringing this person onboard.

Ways this could work:

A lot of internal work.

Asking loving, curious questions. Being the interviewer. Having faith.

Talking to the fear and the doubt.

My commitment.

My commitment is to the pirate ship.

And it is also to my own process.

So I am going to figure out what I need to feel safe before I rewrite the ask.

Thing 4: announce the stowawayship!

Here’s what I want:

There’s a stowawayship scholarship ship (which is the best kind of scholarship ever) for the June Rally (Rally!).

And while people have already started applying, I haven’t actually announced it. So I should do that.

Ways this could work:

This counts as telling you guys, right?

And I can mention it to the Kitchen Table mice.

My commitment.

To be excited about this.

So far every single time we’ve had a stowawayship, the people who have been able to come have been amazing, and it’s been a completely delightful experience.

It’s a perfect, simple solution. And I am a fan of perfect, simple solutions.

So yay stowawayship. Ship. Ship.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

I wanted to do work in the soft to help me press the Pooblish button on my Shiva Nata video posts.

And I haven’t. Well, that’s not completely accurate. Stuff in the soft has shifted. Just not to the pressing-the-button point yet. Still working on it.

Then I wanted ease at the dentist, and it was a completely smooth experience, for which I am very grateful.

Trying to remember lip balm was really important. And that has not happened. Not even slightly. I’ll have to think about that one some more.

And I wanted to do some Rally prep and wow, I cannot believe how much Rally prep happened, especially since I don’t really remember asking for it.

Huge, huge, huge progress there, thanks to Cairene and the First Mate. We have a bunch of new systems in place that I’m very excited about. Verra nice!

Comment zen. Here’s what I’d love today.

Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!

Stuff I’d rather not have:

The word “manifest”. To be told how I should be asking for things. To be judged, psychoanalyzed or given unsolicited advice.

Much love for your gwishes! So happy to have you doing this with me.