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Each week I write these VPAs to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted.

I always get useful information about my relationship with various aspects of the ask. Join in if you like!

Happy Sunday, you guys!

You can VPA all week, if you like.

Let’s do it.

Thing 1: Chinook book dates

Here’s what I want:

Ah, October.

If you live in Portland, which the vast majority of you don’t, you’re probably doing the same thing.

Anyway, a million amazing coupons that all expire at the end of this month.

Ways this could work:

I could take the gentleman out to lunch. At a bunch of different places.

There could be lists.

It could be turned into a game.

I could enlist Dana and Carolyn.

My commitment.

To play.

To make this fun.

To discover new things and say wheeee!

To make notes for next year.

Speaking of which….

Thing 2: Seasonal updatings in the Book of You.

Here’s what I want:

The Book of Me is sorely out of date when it comes to AUTUMN.

I’d like to do some updating about seasonal changes, what I need in the fall, what works and what doesn’t. And some additions to the dammit list.

Ways this could work:

Doing some stone skippings.

Extra writing time this week at the Playground.

More Shiva Nata to get focused and to find all the openings.

My commitment.

To remember that the more I document what I need, the more likely it is that I will give it to myself.

And the more likely it is that I will run into walls about why I’m not allowed to take care of myself, which means: safety first!

And to also remember that when I run into walls, I get to consciously interact with them and learn about them, and this will end up solving all sorts of future challenges.

This is a useful opportunity to plant some really sweet surprises for Slightly Future Me, and I know we’ll look back on this with appreciation and love.

Thing 3: Tiny mini snack-size Drunk Pirate Councils…

Here’s what I want:

There is much to be done, and it needs to be done differently.

Instead of having official and formal Drunk Pirate Councils (what we call “meetings” here on the pirate ship), I’m thinking tiny daily mini-councils.

Fifteen minutes. Where are we on X? Immediate navigational steps on Y? What’s working? What are we trying differently?

Zehu. Alles. That’s it. Nothing more.

Ways this could work:

I don’t know. I’m going to ask the First Mate if we can try this for the next couple weeks.

The main problem will be figuring out a time of day, but we’re just going to have to do it.

I’m also going to ask Cairene for suggestions.

My commitment.

To show up.

To say, Fair winds!

To drink orange juice and pretend it’s rum. We might have to change the name to Ridiculously Sober Not-At-All-Drunk Pirate Councils.

Also I’d like a cute little name for mini-council. Curses, English language! Your lack of handy diminutives is yet again getting on my nerves.

Thing 4: Sixteen Days Inward.

Here’s what I want:

Sixteen deep, powerful, restful days of turning inward in preparation for Crossing the Line.

Ways this could work:

Designated notebook.

Follow the same structure as Island Time.

Stay in the Quarters.

Invent rituals.

Practice all the things you’re teaching.

My commitment.

To be present for this.

To be ready to discover all the things I’m wrong about.

To take care of myself in every way I know how.

Thing 5: An early and celebratory end to Plum Duff?

Here’s what I want:

We’re getting pretty close to selling out the gorgeous 2012 Playground calendars.

There are still a few Rally (Rally!) spots for January. And a few of the reduced rate Rallies (for KT-ers and anyone who has already been on Rally).

I’m reading through scholarship applications, but you can still send yours!

Let’s have these all fill up, and have a happy End of Plum Duff celebration.

Ways this could work:

Not sure yet.

I’m going to meditate on this and flail on it, and see what comes up.

And I’m going to give you the link to the Plum Duff page:

http://TheFluentSelf.com/plum-duff password: extraraisins

Officially? Plum Duff goes through October 17 in the morning (a week from tomorrow). However, a lot of this will be gone before then.

My commitment.

To stay connected to the essence of Plum Duff:

Delight. Curiosity. Wonder. Possibility. Joyfulness. Adventure. Play.

To wear lots of costumes and dance around.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

I wanted to start teaching about conscious entry, and I’m doing it! The Art of Embarking course is filling up quickly. I’ve been writing about it, practicing it and planning the teachings. Feeling good about this one.

Then I wanted to announce and bunch of announcings, and they got announced.

I asked for magazines for the arts & crafts area in the Treasure Room at the Playground (for doing collages and such), and we didn’t get any so far. Will have a look at SCRAP this week, and re-ask the ask.

Also wanted next steps on planning Denver. We have tickets to the Championships, a likely venue, hotel room for me, and some other stuff taken care of. Still more to do on this, but hooray for progress.

That’s it!

Play-filled comment zen. Here’s what I’d love today.

  • Wanted: Your own personal ads, small or large. Updates on past ones if you like.
  • You can also do these on your own or in your head. You can always call silent retreat!
  • Leave your gwishes! Throw things in the pot!
  • Things we try to keep away from: the word “manifest”, telling people how they should be asking for things, unsolicited advice.
  • VPA amnesty applies, of course. Leave yours any time between now and next Sunday (or whenever, really) — it’s all fine by us!

xox