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By: Havi Brooks

Havi Brooks — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 20:50:43 +0000

@Jean – what a lovely question. What *does* Selma want? I think she really likes being appreciated, especially since she is such a big part of everything I do and weirdly I tend to get the credit for it.

So Selma wants appreciation. And she really likes to dance. :)

Guys, these ads are fantastic. Reading them is really powerful. And I find it amazing that even though we all feel weird and uncomfortable about the asking, there is something really CLEAR about just getting it straight.

This whole “oh, yeah, this is what I want” and the “oh, yeah, this is what I’m afraid will happen” — it just seems really useful. Love it!

By: Zora

Zora — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:03:48 +0000

Thank you, Melissa! I really appreciate it. :)

By: Jean S

Jean S — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:23:23 +0000

Havi,

what an amazing series…your posts, all the comments…thanks so much to one and all.

ps. what does Selma want?

By: melissa

melissa — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 00:25:46 +0000

Havi- I post infrequently but read daily. I love this blog and you get it. Man, do you get it.

So, I’m taking a chance here with verbalizing my personal ad…

Personal ad:
Me: Wonderful dog trainer who focuses on building the bond between you and pooch. Only humane and positive techniques, no alpha-dominance ewwey-gooey or smash-your-dogs-nose-into-the-floor meanness or sit-stay-come roboting. Focus on reward and developing spiritual sense through learning to communicate with your best friend. Loves problem cases, so-called lost causes. You: Frustrated enough to seek help but not to give up. Able to see and reward small progresses in others. Willing to see and reward small progresses in yourself!

Ways this could happen:
–increase my voice by being more visible in local neighborhoods
–talk to rescues, offer free services to foster families.
–keep answering my phone especially when i don’t know the number

I commit to doing one thing every day to increase my voice and presence in the community. I commit to rewarding small progresses in myself!

You are all in my thoughts and I am hoping the best for all

PS. Zora, if you’re reading this… about the OCD. I get it and send you love and light. I’ve been managing depression and anxiety disorder for 7 years. Dr. John LaPook has some great articles on managing OCD (one recently in HuffPo.) Good luck!

melissas last blog post..ache

By: Rebecca Hb.

Rebecca Hb. — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 19:23:34 +0000

Asking for this kind of thing is hard for me. But I’m going to try anyway.

Thing 1: A job I love

What I Want: A job I will love, that will challenge me and put me in places I’d never imagine I’d be but still find interesting rather than terrifying. With good benefits and a willingness to work with my odd schedule needs.

Ways This Could Happen: * Someone could mention something to me that sounds interesting and I would check it out
* I could stumble across a Help Wanted ad that intrigues
* Something else that I can’t think of right now

My Commitment: To give this job the best I can. To be friendly to my co-workers and not bundle too far back in my hermit’s cave. To communicate clearly with my boss about my needs and not spring surprises on her.

To not worry about not finding in a job in the current economy.

To make things.

By: Zora

Zora — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 19:06:54 +0000

My friend has given me a possible option for next year, and my other friend has been chucking suggestions at me – hooray!

By: Andi

Andi — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 18:37:37 +0000

I’m freezing up just trying to focus on one thing to ask for. I have been having many epiphanies lately, one of which is that my art needs to be telling me a story for me to enjoy working on it and for it to have greater meaning in the outer world. Which may have been obvious to someone outside my head looking at my work, but which was a huge eye opener to me.

To help me clarify some things I have declared July a month of

Silence; trying to go no tv, but in this house it is more like tv lite. I am asking to hear that “still small voice”

Making things; asking for the funding to enable me to make art without any expectations of it (ie not expecting to sell it so I don’t get all wrapped up in “will this sell” and therefore can be freer and make fun stuff)

I am ready to incorporate new practices to help me achieve these things. And I am ready, or at least willing, to change and grow. And so I am asking for the ability to become a Shivanaut.

This could happen by:
Someone buying some art through my etsy shop, filling my PayPal balance to the appropriate amount.

Someone I know seeing the website and saying “I don’t know why, but this made me think of you and so here it is”

Someone having an extra copy and holding a drawing.

Someone bartering art for a copy.

I commit to:
Following the program.
Clearing the space in my home to follow the program.
Not hiding from any epiphanies which occur from the program.
Feeling the fear and doing it anyway. :)

Thank you. :D

Andis last blog post..Wishing

By: Ingrid

Ingrid — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 18:12:35 +0000

Havi-
A very fast, very short note to say, these personal ads continue to come to fruition, faster and better than I could imagine. And without going into too much detail, let me say one of them was about taking a big leap, and having a net- that one would appear, for sure, and maybe even better than I expected. The net I got was so secure, and safe and comforting that you would be astounded. So thank you. *** :)
Ingrid

By: Tara

Tara — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:03:36 +0000

Darling Havi,
I just love these! As you know, the love letter to my Future House worked out lovely and now I LIVE in my Future Perfect House. Yay!
This week, my first week of self-employment, I need reassurance, support and success. I have specific goal that I’d like to reach that will both provide for my needs and give the encouragment that this is the right path. I’d like to reach that goal by Sunday.
The reassurance and support will come from this success, but also from my friends and family. They will no longer say “Now that you’re not working” or if they do say it, those words won’t change what I *know* to be true.
I am willing to accept support and success in any other way it would like to manifest this week.
I am open.
I am ready.
I am feeling able to do this thing!

I found really great hangers at Target yesterday and thought of you. And then I realized that hangers = yoga teacher is an odd connection :)

Wishing you a lovely week!

Taras last blog post..One More Day!