Comments on: Some thoughts on dealing with loss. http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/ When you need some destuckification. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:47:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Mantramantramantra | Chapterrette http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-38799 Mantramantramantra | Chapterrette Fri, 15 Jul 2011 12:59:25 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-38799 [...] mantra is geïnspireerd door Havi, Geneen, Pema, Martha et al. ← Midsomer coaching Taartjes [...] [...] mantra is geïnspireerd door Havi, Geneen, Pema, Martha et al. ← Midsomer coaching Taartjes [...]

]]> By: Char Brooks http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-28707 Char Brooks Thu, 06 Jan 2011 03:05:25 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-28707 When I said it has to do with mixing things up intentionally, I was referring to an early January 2011 post you wrote on Adaptation and Change just in case you wondered where I was coming from. Love Love Love When I said it has to do with mixing things up intentionally, I was referring to an early January 2011 post you wrote on Adaptation and Change just in case you wondered where I was coming from.

Love Love Love

]]> By: Char Brooks http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-28706 Char Brooks Thu, 06 Jan 2011 03:03:46 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-28706 Dearest Havi: I know that I've said this over and over to you but this piece you wrote is one of the most priceless things I've found to help me with loss. There are so many parts that are absolutely brilliant. This is the one that speaks to me right now. "Everything that has been helpful for me while being in the pain of loss has been about two kinds of acknowledgment: Acknowledgment of the pain. This hurts so much right now. And acknowledgment that things move/flow/continue in their different ways. I am here." It has so much to do with adaptation and change, mixing things up intentionally, etc. Not sure how it works - but I know that loss, change and adaptation are all related. Would love to hear your thoughts if you feel so inclined. Thank you for sharing your wisdom so generously. Dearest Havi:

I know that I’ve said this over and over to you but this piece you wrote is one of the most priceless things I’ve found to help me with loss.

There are so many parts that are absolutely brilliant. This is the one that speaks to me right now.

“Everything that has been helpful for me while being in the pain of loss has been about two kinds of acknowledgment:

Acknowledgment of the pain. This hurts so much right now. And acknowledgment that things move/flow/continue in their different ways. I am here.”

It has so much to do with adaptation and change, mixing things up intentionally, etc. Not sure how it works – but I know that loss, change and adaptation are all related. Would love to hear your thoughts if you feel so inclined.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom so generously.

]]> By: Tarah http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-24097 Tarah Wed, 13 Oct 2010 19:01:53 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-24097 Havi, This was just the post that I needed to see today. Whatever challenges I am facing, I can almost always come here and find a helpful post. But this one, you have no idea. Ugh. You're great, that's all I can say. Lots of love coming your way. Havi,

This was just the post that I needed to see today. Whatever challenges I am facing, I can almost always come here and find a helpful post. But this one, you have no idea. Ugh. You’re great, that’s all I can say.

Lots of love coming your way.

]]> By: R.M. Koske http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-19837 R.M. Koske Thu, 22 Jul 2010 20:54:08 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-19837 An old post, I know, but I just sent a link to a friend who's hurting - I'm hoping it will help. Thanks for giving us more tools. An old post, I know, but I just sent a link to a friend who’s hurting – I’m hoping it will help. Thanks for giving us more tools.

]]> By: Elizabeth Sheppard http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-15715 Elizabeth Sheppard Fri, 16 Apr 2010 02:21:16 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-15715 Also: I am adding my Twitter link so we can hang out at the bar. Also: I am adding my Twitter link so we can hang out at the bar.

]]> By: Elizabeth Sheppard http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-15714 Elizabeth Sheppard Fri, 16 Apr 2010 02:20:39 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-15714 I loved the objects... I am here exercise. I think I will use that. And I loved this posting. I will Twitter it and Facebook it. It's been over a year now since I found out a loved one was not ever going to be able to communicate with me again the same way. The hurt was terrible, terrific, terrifying. But the time has made it a little better. I think grief is part of being human. Your blog helped. Really! I loved the objects… I am here exercise. I think I will use that. And I loved this posting. I will Twitter it and Facebook it.

It’s been over a year now since I found out a loved one was not ever going to be able to communicate with me again the same way.

The hurt was terrible, terrific, terrifying.

But the time has made it a little better. I think grief is part of being human. Your blog helped. Really!

]]> By: meredith http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-15685 meredith Thu, 15 Apr 2010 06:20:29 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-15685 Thank you for writing this Havi. My loss was a year ago. It is not as big a loss as a lot of people's, and I get a lot of "you should be over this" messages. Sometimes from other people, mostly from myself. That sucks. So I read your blog and I try and give myself permission. And it helps. Quite a lot. So thank you for being there. and hugs. Thank you for writing this Havi.

My loss was a year ago. It is not as big a loss as a lot of people’s, and I get a lot of “you should be over this” messages. Sometimes from other people, mostly from myself. That sucks. So I read your blog and I try and give myself permission. And it helps. Quite a lot. So thank you for being there.

and hugs.

]]> By: julekucera http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-15665 julekucera Wed, 14 Apr 2010 15:00:11 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-15665 I never heard of the process of naming before. I'm going to do that. Hugs to you with your loss and for your honesty. Hugs to me too. I never heard of the process of naming before. I’m going to do that.

Hugs to you with your loss and for your honesty.

Hugs to me too.

]]> By: Beth http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/some-thoughts-on-dealing-with-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-15644 Beth Tue, 13 Apr 2010 23:37:49 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=8984#comment-15644 Hugs. I just wanted to say that the part about the "what if" loss is helping me a lot right now. With that decision thing. Because that's what I'm dreading, and now I have words to use to describe it, which means that I can deal with it in ways other than running unhelpfully in circles. Thank you for including it, even though it seems so small compared to other kinds of loss. More hugs. I believe in hugs. Hugs.

I just wanted to say that the part about the “what if” loss is helping me a lot right now. With that decision thing. Because that’s what I’m dreading, and now I have words to use to describe it, which means that I can deal with it in ways other than running unhelpfully in circles. Thank you for including it, even though it seems so small compared to other kinds of loss.

More hugs. I believe in hugs.

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