It’s definitely, definitely May, and I am ready to say hello to May in its May-ness. Hi, there. Hi, there.
And I decided I want to use that set of four questions from the book about Crucial Conversations that I’ve been working with. So. Let’s try that and see what happens.
Hello, May! What do I really want for me in relation to May?
I want steadiness.
I want to feel grounded, steady, energized and full of vitality.
I want to welcome May with open arms, even when I feel ambivalent about some of the things that have come in with the month.
To appreciate the useful things that past me has done to set things up for me-now. And to be patient about the parts I don’t understand yet.
To remember TRUTH:
How I take care of myself is the process. It’s not something that happens alongside the process.
And I want to remember, as always, that now is not then.
May and I get to have a brand new relationship each year. We don’t have to repeat old patterns if we don’t want to. Now-me and now-May can figure things out.
And what do I want for May?
I want May to feel appreciated! And welcome!
May should know that I adore all this sun. And that even though I can’t be outside frolicking as much as I would like, I’m still appreciating the SPRING of it all.
May, please know that I am excited about all the new things! I am.
And yes, okay, I was very grumbly at the beginning of the month about its arrival. That’s because I was locked into all these schedules and timetables, and giant throngs of monsters were telling me that we were BEHIND, and also DOOM!
The truth is, though, I am happy you are here. I am happy for good smells and for sitting in the garden. I am happy for Rally (Rally!), and I am looking forward to my sweet, sweet holiday.
And what do I want for the relationship between me and May?
Comfort. Integrity. Curiosity. Patience.
Exploration. Buoyancy. Silliness. Play. Streamers.
How would I act differently if this were really and truly what I wanted?
I might take more time to get clarity on what I want.
Having this spaciousness might make it easier to stop blaming time for going faster than I’d planned/expected, which might make it easier to deal with where we are right now.
But mainly I’d go outside and blow a bunch of bubbles, and that seems like a pretty good plan.
Join in if you like! The commenting blanket fort.
This practice has been changing every month.
You are welcome to write your own hello letter to May , if you like.
Or leave little pebbles for my love letter. Or drop off some gwishes for the month.
As always, we make this a safe space by not telling each other what to do, how to be or how to feel. We make room for each other.
Wishing you the most beautiful May possible. May it be full of unexpectedly good things.