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We dissolve stuck and rewrite patterns. We apply radical playfulness to life (when we feel like it!), embarking on internal adventures (credo of Safety First). We have a fake band called Solved By Cake. We build invisible sanctuaries, invent words and worlds, breathe awe and wonder.

We are not impressed by monsters. Except when we are. We explore the connections between internal territories and surrounding environment to learn what marvelously supportive delicious space feels like, and how to take exquisite care of ourselves. We transform things.* We glow wild.**

* For example: Desire, fear, worry, pain-and-trauma, boundaries, that problematic word which rhymes with flaweductivity.

** Fair warning: Self-fluency has been known to lead to extremely subversive behavior, including treasuring yourself unconditionally, unapologetically taking up space, experiencing outrageously improbable levels of self-acceptance, and general rejoicing in aliveness.

 

a brave and hopeful yes

very personal ads

I write a Very Personal Ad (also known as a Vision of Possibility & Anticipation) each week to practice wanting, listening, getting clear on my desires

the point isn’t getting my wish (though cool things have emerged from wishing), it’s learning about my relationship with wanting, accessing the qualities

wanting can be hard, it is easy to feel conflicted about it, and the reasons for that make this a surprisingly subversive practice…

this is the 344th consecutive week of wishing, come play!

alligators, unimpressed

deep inside my dream I was involved in a
a complicated baseball game
that included alligators
I was the catcher
and if you know me at all, you know that’s about as unlikely
as alligators playing baseball

I made a spectacular catch
— no glove! left-handed! from an armchair!
and no one was impressed
dream-me was very sad

parade, please

I want a parade to celebrate me!
and I have to be the one to give myself the parade
this is important
and also frustrating

important

it’s important because I always want to remember
how appreciation is a quality of the divine
it comes from SOURCE, not from people,
and source lives within me, is transported in me,
which means I can always access appreciation when needed

and sure, yes, sometimes other people will be the
delivery system for [gifts of source]

but people are people and source is source

and let us not confuse these
let us not go through life believing that a specific person is our source of love
everything ends and people exit,
and it is a great and tragic distortion to go through life believing that
once a person is gone, we no longer get to have
whatever beautiful things that person used to deliver by way of source

appreciation is mine because it just is
I can glow it outward or inward
trusting in the delivery systems to deliver
trusting in my own ability to be the delivery system

and

sometimes it scares me, the intensity of this need-craving-desire
to be appreciated
I see and hear you, monsters in the form of
“ugh just grow up already and
stop needing everyone to like everything you do”
and also other impatient monster-like voices that say,
“why do you squander your time and talent on weekly wishes,
go write for a larger platform where more people will read
and appreciate your words, and oh right, you’d actually get paid”

but that form is not my yes
my yes is to be free to follow my desire
my yes is to fill my pockets with freedom
and write exactly what I want to write, and when and how I want to write it,
and to glow appreciation for myself and for life
out into the world
filling up my world

and I wish because wishing is ritual
and because this is where I want to be

and if all that means that sometimes I have to
throw myself a parade
then so be it, here’s to all the superpowers of self-proclaimed parades
here’s to the treasures that emerge from getting
raw and honest with my wanting

what is the bridge between freedom and sanctuary

I have learned a lot about my yes during the year of yes
and now I am learning about doors in the year of doors

now, as I prepare to exit
the home where I’ve lived the past seven years
with no idea of what’s next
my biggest yes is knowing-and-remembering that I have
plentiful resources, really good options, and
this is the most important thing
a beautiful safe cozy nest that I love

I want to listen to the wise voices in and around me
not the monsters
not the dismissive alligators
not petrified me who believes that now is then
I want to listen to the ones who really know me deeply

okay, I can listen

the far-away boy: I thought your catch was the highlight of the game!
my former housemate: and alligators can’t even sit in armchairs, so they should really be impressed by the whole package…

incoming me: FILL YOUR POCKETS WITH FREEDOM, my love
say yes to what you want
your yes is the bridge between Freedom and Sanctuary,
it is sanctuary that will allow you to be free, and guess what,
EVEN IF you say yes to your yes and
for whatever reason it doesn’t say yes back to you,
saying yes to your yes is still a win
a win for you and it’s a win for the world,
I’m absolutely serious about this,
because saying your yes is challenging the rigging,
and if you say yes to wanting what you want,
you are also saying yes to the idea of this,
to having Freedom + Sanctuary in the same space at the same time,
which means you will get it in some form even if not in this form,
not to mention all all the bravery points for saying it, so yes, go ahead and speak your
brave and hopeful yes

thanking myself

I have been practicing appreciation by saying thank you before bed
thank you, that is, to me of the day-that-was

thank you for being so calm and steady
during the messy attempted-leg-shaving-while-tired debacle
thank you for responding with attentiveness and reassurance and presence
thank you for keeping All Salve next to the bed
thank you for checking the list of What Helps When We’re Petrified
thank you for trusting the nap
thank you for asking Lucky Honey to take the front of the V
thank you for helping me remember to pause for RGW (Replenishing Glass of Water)
thank you for helping me get clear on my yes
thank you for being receptive to many possible good solutions and not fixating
thank you for bringing me back to my thank-you heart
thank you for doing your best, today-me, you are treasure and I appreciate you!

and naming superpowers

Here are the superpowers I want right now:

I am Wildly Unfazed
I can totally handle this
Everything is working out perfectly no matter how it looks to me from the outside or how my monsters and scared selves want to read the situation
Oh, what Fantastic Unexpected Luckiness
There’s always money (and whatever else I need) in the banana stand
I now have plentiful resources for what I want
(and a beautiful safe cozy nest that I love)
Solid guidance from wise, calm, capable incoming me
I am so loved
I live by my BRAVE AND HOPEFUL YES!

amen may it be so and may I remember

and more

let’s take deep breaths of superpowers
let’s shout them from the rooftops of our mind
let’s be the source of remembering source
let’s circulate them in spirals, like a hula hoop or an unnamed reverberating bell

this calls for ALL CAPS!

THE SUPERPOWERS OF I SAY MY YES
THE SUPERPOWERS OF MY YES IS RECEIVED WITH JOY AND LOVE
THE SUPERPOWERS OF THIS IS RIGHT AND THIS MOMENT IS RIGHT
THE SUPERPOWERS OF MY YES HAS ROOTS and MY YES HAS WINGS
THE SUPERPOWERS OF I AM OF THE EARTH
THE SUPERPOWERS OF GETTING SERIOUS ABOUT JOY
THE SUPERPOWERS OF CROSSING THROUGH
THE SUPERPOWERS OF THIS IS MY DOOR AND IT IS A BEAUTIFUL ONE
THE SUPERPOWERS OF ECHOING & REVERBERATING
THE SUPERPOWERS OF FILLING MY POCKETS WITH FREEDOM
THE SUPERPOWERS OF RECEPTIVE TO MANY POSSIBLE GOOD SOLUTIONS
THE SUPERPOWERS OF INTO THE GARDEN WHERE THE MANY POSSIBLE GOOD SOLUTIONS LIVE
THE SUPERPOWERS OF THE MYSTIC FANTASTIC FORTRESS COMES TO MEET ME AT HAPPY HOUR
THE SUPERPOWERS OF AND YES THE HAPPIEST HOUR IS NOW

amen may it be so and may I remember

trust trust trust, seed and release.

this is really what my wish is about
allowing myself to want what I want
to hear my brave and hopeful yes
without being attached to the way I think I’m supposed to receive it

the brave and hopeful yes
is the yes of listening, asking, desiring, releasing,
trust trust trust, seed and release

my brave and hopeful yes is a red balloon of releasing

what do I know about my wish this week

it’s about freedom-meets-sanctuary, ease-filled transition, a dose of magic,
and being very honest with myself
even when this means interacting with monsters and seeing aspects of myself
that I didn’t want to see
or noticing that I’ve forgotten again that source is source
and that the answer (as always) is getting quiet and going deep inside myself
to the place from which ALIVENESS sparks

let me speak my brave and hopeful yes
let me whisper it in the heart-garden
under the stars

let there always be people I like to play with,
the kind who can admire a spectacular catch,
and who can reflect my own incoming abilities to appreciate and be appreciated

let there be a beautiful safe haven for me to land in
a place I will love and cherish
that will love and cherish me
may we find each other soon, with the greatest of ease, and say yes yes yes yes

may it be so!

now

my kitchen is now empty but for one cabinet
I have to remind myself approximately 19,000 times a day that
Now Is Not Then
I write the word TRUST on my forehead with a fingertip
and kiss the palms of my hands and press them to my cheeks

the days are getting longer and I love this
thinking about tu b’shvat, the birthday of the trees
and I can feel this new spring coming
soon we plant a new tree where the wild winds uprooted the old one
everything is being seeded

superpower of safety first

months-February-VPA-2016

january on the 2016 fluent self calendar was the door of FREDOM, and february is the door of SANCTUARY, which comes with the glowingly important superpower of safety first

I want to live by safety first
and I want to be a grand adventurer
and I want to see no contradiction between the two
my cozy nest of a home-base allows me to set forth on wild adventures,
internal and external,
trusting my sails and my beautiful anchor

last week’s wishes

I wished a wish called set free and be set free

this was a big week of letting go, and not always easy
but I crossed the bridge from terror into lit up with giddy excitement
about my brave and hopeful yes
and it was quite the passage
so I am glad to have asked for this

thank you, me who wished

invitation: come play with me…

you are invited to share many !!!!!! about what is here,
or share anything sparked for you while reading

deposit wishes, gwishes, superpowers, qualities, ingredients, intel, possibly in code

safe space for creative exploration asks us to let go of care-taking and advice-giving

wishes are never late because whenever you wish is the right time for wishing

here’s how we meet each other’s wishes: oh, wow what beautiful wishes

15 Responses to a brave and hopeful yes

  1. Kathleen Avins
    Twitter: spiralsongkat
    says:

    “…because saying your yes is challenging the rigging…”

    yes!

    My wishes this week…
    …the courage to ask for what I want…
    …the joy of receiving what I want, *AND/OR*
    …the mysterious magical miracle of Something Even Better.

    <3 may it be so <3

  2. Kate says:

    I want to live by safety first
    and I want to be a grand adventurer
    and I want to see no contradiction between the two
    my cozy nest of a home-base allows me to set forth on wild adventures,
    internal and external,
    trusting my sails and my beautiful anchor

    *delight* in this
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  3. Pqw-orange
    Twitter: fiadhiglas
    says:

    FILL YOUR POCKETS WITH FREEDOM.

    For some reason that’s ping-ing for me.

    I, too, deeply desire being appreciated. I rarely hear appreciative comments from others, and i’ve been appreciating myself a lot lately. The good news about me appreciating is that I *notice* lots of important-to-me details, often/usu missed by others.

    Am thinking of myself as self-contained, and bringing my own planetary weather with me. So many things are internal storms that… there’s no need to inform other people about. Sovranty, such a helpful concept.
    Pqw-orange recently posted… Dream element: 2.1.2016

  4. Sue T says:

    What beautiful wishes!

    These are so juicy; thank you:
    “…trusting my sails and my beautiful anchor”
    “…everything is being seeded”
    “…appreciation is a quality of the divine”
    and
    “…freedom-meets-sanctuary, ease-filled transition[s]”

    On my Calendar of Doors, February/Sanctuary has been named the Moon of suspension: suspension between seasons and within doorways. I wish for suspension of fear, guilt, shame, and other rigging-induced stories; for the sails and the anchor to beautifully complement and serve each other; for the dreaming of the snow-covered seed to create visions of Spring, where (of course) All is Well.

  5. Mechaieh
    Twitter: zirconium
    says:

    !!!!!
    parade
    !!!!!
    crowns
    !!!!!
    bouquets
    !!!!!
    moon-trees and mooncakes
    !!!!!
    Mechaieh recently posted… yearning across the centuries

  6. Magic says:

    Oh! *laughs in delight* I’d just sat down to read this page but decided I should be indulging myself in fresh lychees so jumped back up to get them. However my eye caught something about a spectacular catch with no glove, left handed and from an armchair and I laughed out loud, as with a recent injury, I’ve found myself catching many things ‘spectacularly’ with my non-dominant hand so as to avoid problems with retrieving things once they hit the floor! So I was grinning as I came back to share this spectacular catching and then saw it was a dream! AND that no one was impressed! And it made me laugh ruefully even more, as yes, all my spectacular feats of co-ordination go unnoticed!

    Which makes me think that we who read these pages ‘catch’ much! (I’m not sure it’s as spectacular as catching things in an armchair with alligators but hey.)

    *takes pin off monsters who are trying to pop thought bubble*

    Alas, I think they beat me to it!

  7. Kathleen Jowitt
    Twitter: KathleenJowitt
    says:

    These posts always contain the exact thing I need; how do you do it? I will have a parade!

    The wish about it being received with love is working out very nicely so far.

    I wish to see the springiness of spring. I wish for a Lenture with all the superpowers of purple. I wish for patience.
    Kathleen Jowitt recently posted… F5

  8. seagirl says:

    Ooh source v. delivery system. I love this!!

    I have recently figured out how to be my own delivery system. And discovered what a joy it is to be the delivery system for someone else, who throws open the door when the delivery arrives and says “come in! I’m so glad you are here!” It is almost better than receiving. Because you are being received.

    This week I want:
    More love, more trust, more courage.
    Less screen time. Maybe even no screen time at home some days? Hmm, what would that feel like? Let’s find out.
    Continued forward progress in all things.

  9. Puck says:

    Safety First, yes!

    I had a very difficult night where the monsters were very loud and very active and the following day I was tired but muscled through and then today I woke up COMPLETELY fatigued. So thank you, body, for fulfilling my wish for rest when my brain wishes to Hustle because The Game Is Rigged.

    Today I wish for deep deep reconnecting with my desires, and gentle gentle clearing of stuckness, and letting it be easy.

    Today my tidying coach (not a proxy) said this to me: ‘In dance, we say “freedom comes from the technique.” You can’t fly and do the fun stuff without the technique…but you also won’t fly if you stick to only the technique.’

    This was in reference to my schedule but I think this is beautiful and I want to remember it for other applications. <3
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  10. me who can just be says:

    !!!!!!!
    !!!!!!!
    !!!!!!!

    [wanting more ways to share excitement and agreement and appreciation and YES not in words]

    [thinking in beautiful pictures in this moment, my mind is so much happier when it can wander]

    [blue gold ruby flowers dusty sunshine clean love snow trust ache desire green leavs black dirt stretch yawn clear water good work wood wool fire laughter]

    [my wish]

  11. elspeth says:

    yes, i want all of this, so much.
    freedom and sanctuary and doors and yes to my yes and no to my not-yes and so many superpowers.
    roots and wings. filling my pockets with freedom. a heart-garden under the stars.
    a brave and hopeful yes, and being my own damn parade. or being my own tea-party if a parade feels too big and loud.

  12. Katie says:

    Yes!
    Reading this, I just realised my yes (more accurately, one of my many yeses). My yes is to only apply for temp jobs, not permanent jobs. Suddenly I breathe out and my shoulders drop. Wild, true, real me doesn’t want to be trapped. Doesn’t want to have the feeling again of having to do the same thing forever, give up playtime forever.
    Now to work on Metaphor Mousing the word ‘temp’. Hmm!

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