Probably it’s about words – “breaking” can be understood like “crushing”, “destroying” (like it was in your example). But also like “making a very little step out, still under control”.
When I read the motto: “breaking the comfort zone” it sounded very familiar for me. But definitely not with the picture of me jumping from the plane when in fact I am really scared to go out from my home.

Of course, if you try to “crush” your comfort zone to deal with your fear, maybe it is not wisest option.
But in my opinion, to be able to meet with your fear you have to call this fear, somehow.
It never worked for me when I tried to deal with my fears, sitting on the couch and feeling 100% comfortable. I couldn’t “meet my fear” in that kind of situation, because simply there was no fear anymore.
I had to call it to me, and the best way was usually to move a little from my “comfort zone”. Just a little, enough to make the fear appearing, but still having enough comfort to look at my fear with patience and try to find out why it is appearing.

In some way it is “breaking” comfort zone (because it needs to lose it a little), but in other way it is “expanding” it – because as a result the comfort zone is growing up, step by step.

I heard a story about rock climber who had a fear of height.
So he tried to deal with that in controlled situations, giving himself maximum possible comfort, but continuously moving the border forward.
At the beginning he found a place on the top of the mountain, surrounded by precipices.
He started by just sitting there. Then, when he became familiar with that, he tried to stand up. Then stay with just one leg…
Step by step, he was moving the border farther, trying to be always just on the edge of that border

Was he “breaking” or just “expanding” his comfort zone?

I’ve noticed that it’s much easier for me to warm up to new experiences and things if I am READY to do so. I do not like it when anyone tries to push me into stuff. If I WANT to do it, then I’ll go for it.

I know this isn’t a recent post Havi, but I’ll comment ’cause that’s my feeling. I’m a beginner on Haviblog.

Have been in this stuckiness zone for a few months now with a couple of fears keeping me company to top it off. I’ve finally decided that I can’t go on like this, got to stop avoiding life, even though I’m so scared – I know something’s got to change.

There’s also this internal tug-of-war conflict that I’m battling with – the need to express myself (which has been drummed into me, ‘just doesn’t pay’ financially) warring away with the need and the pressure of having to make a ‘decent successful’ financial living.

So thanks again, how lucky we all are to have someone like you out there who cares :)