Comments on: The step everyone skips on the way to calming the heck down http://www.fluentself.com/blog/newsletter/calming-the-heck-down/ When you need some destuckification. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:51:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Easing the pain. There’s a bit of a trick to it. « Spiral Song Kat http://www.fluentself.com/blog/newsletter/calming-the-heck-down/comment-page-1/#comment-21325 Easing the pain. There’s a bit of a trick to it. « Spiral Song Kat Wed, 25 Aug 2010 03:23:07 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/blog/?p=21#comment-21325 [...] of beautiful, comforting, inspiring, and all-around excellent advice (not least from the wonderful Havi Brooks, who is my hero and mentor) on the subject of allowing your feelings simply to be what they [...] [...] of beautiful, comforting, inspiring, and all-around excellent advice (not least from the wonderful Havi Brooks, who is my hero and mentor) on the subject of allowing your feelings simply to be what they [...]

]]> By: Joely Black http://www.fluentself.com/blog/newsletter/calming-the-heck-down/comment-page-1/#comment-2106 Joely Black Thu, 18 Dec 2008 15:52:35 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/blog/?p=21#comment-2106 I think this might be one of the best and most useful posts ever written on the internet, or possibly anywhere. And I mean that quite seriously, too. No smoke-blowing here. I've read an awful lot of blogs about various things, and a great deal more books. The best were Pema Chodron's. She even has a book called "Start where you are", and gets at the same ideas. Yet although her books are always very gentle and reassuring, somehow they don't sink in deeply. It might be because it's very high-flown and Buddhisty in places, designed for the hardcore people who meditate 24 hours a day with their ankles wrapped round their ears. What I love about this is that it's much more practical and down to earth. And immediate. Sometimes we need permission not to go running after the solution, but to just be in the freak out. I remembered this last night during a session with the inner goblins and today I feel a thousand times better. Thank you, always. <abbr><em>Joely Blacks last blog post..<a href="http://isabeljoelyblack.wordpress.com/2008/12/18/no-i-dont-know-how-to-ask-for-help/" rel="nofollow">No, I don't know how to ask for help</a></abbr></em> I think this might be one of the best and most useful posts ever written on the internet, or possibly anywhere. And I mean that quite seriously, too. No smoke-blowing here.

I’ve read an awful lot of blogs about various things, and a great deal more books. The best were Pema Chodron’s. She even has a book called “Start where you are”, and gets at the same ideas. Yet although her books are always very gentle and reassuring, somehow they don’t sink in deeply. It might be because it’s very high-flown and Buddhisty in places, designed for the hardcore people who meditate 24 hours a day with their ankles wrapped round their ears.

What I love about this is that it’s much more practical and down to earth. And immediate.

Sometimes we need permission not to go running after the solution, but to just be in the freak out. I remembered this last night during a session with the inner goblins and today I feel a thousand times better.

Thank you, always.

Joely Blacks last blog post..No, I don’t know how to ask for help

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