And I like having to look forward to it with joy instead of seeing it out there with fear.

My new time stamp- Having the new improved bridgetpilloud.com up and roaring by the end of December.

Woo-hoo.

Thanks Havi for taking the pain out of the time stamp!
Bridget´s last post … Na-No-Intuit-Mo: Using your intuition to face a potential tragedy

First of all, I’d like to thank Havi for coming up with the term “timestamp.” “Deadline” sounds so, I don’t know, …
… FINAL.

“A goal is a dream with a timestamp.”

There. Better.

The challenge that I have with this post is that it almost seems we’re giving ourselves permission to miss the timestamp in advance. I think that’s counter-productive. We set timestamps for a reason or two:
— we want to accomplish something by a certain date.
— timestamps allow us to work backwards to break down our project into smaller tasks.
— they focus our attention on a goal.
And all these things are important.

Rather, I think it’s more important for us to forgive ourselves for missing timestamps for the very reason you mention: “New shit can come to light.” @spiralsongkat shares the importance of this: “Setting deadlines for myself, and then failing to meet them, repeatedly, has become such a source of shame and self-flagellation for me,…”

This is why we dread the deadline. This is why we shy away from setting goals and timestamps for future projects. Because we’re so ashamed of ourselves that we screwed up the last one.

Rather than set ourselves up for missing the timestamp by forgetting its very purpose, we should forgive ourselves wholeheartedly for missing it, and then figure out what it was that caused us to miss it.
Did new stuff come to light? Yeah? Then, that’s cool. What do you do now?
Nothing new? Where was the stuckness? Found it? Great! Now what do we do?

Because that’s what biggification, non-stuckness, and having a conscious, intelligent, non-jerky relationship with yourself is about.

At least, that’s how I see it.
Paul´s last post … Days of Wine and Roses

I was pushing myself to a new dead…*timestamp* on a project and realised that what I really needed was…

Crap.

Start again.

I’m setting up a new site with nerdy analysis of presentations on it.

I thought I needed a timestamp for launch.

What I *really* need is a quantity-stamp. ie When I have 14 presentations already done, THEN I can launch.

So then I feel more in control of when things happen – I can go faster if I feel like it, or slower and I’m not going to die, or sabotage myself with the opportunity to feel shit.

Might not always apply, but seems sensible with this particular project.

*blushes and grins with eyes shut and tries not to hold breath at being Havi’s Right People*
Andrew Lightheart @alightheart´s last post … Friday list #3 – Yay four and half steps!

@Inge: “I can set a date to finish a Thing and understand how many days that is from now, but at the same time I have no idea how much hanging around in unstructuredness it will take until the Thing starts to take shape and can be finished. In the end, the Thing counts, not how and by what time I get there.” –> Yes! That’s it, exactly! Thank you for putting it up so eloquently.
Josiane´s last post … Noticing – the dragonfly edition

I want to believe it. I will try.

I suppose it’s all a part of learning to look at my patterns, and not be impressed. Thanks for helping me with that.
spiralsongkat´s last post … Blogging in the dark

And yeah, if deadlines help you, god bless you. Use them and flourish!

!!!

Love you.
Mahala Mazerov´s last post … Tender Edges of Your Heart

Thank god there are no deadlines/”timestamps” for working on your stuff. That would be horrible…and funny. Imagine: “Dec 14th – Finished with fear of failure”
Christine Bougie´s last post … Limits