Comments on: Someone just threw a shoe at you.

By: Sour plums and red herrings

Sour plums and red herrings — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 10:14:43 +0000

[...] find this post to be enormously helpful in such situations as was husband’s take on it: zure pruim, he [...]

By: Stay Safe

Stay Safe — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 20:36:07 +0000

[...] are lashing out, but mostly its just a defence mechanism gone horribly awry. Havi Brooks calls this throwing shoes. The shoes are never about you. You just got caught in the [...]

By: Conversations: Systems and Honour [really long post where I coach myself out of anger and into fear] | Wings of Flight

Thu, 26 May 2011 11:15:41 +0000

[...] Calm Me: I can see you feel really strongly about this. What can we do to make these behaviours less like thrown shoes? [...]

By: Allison Nazarian

Allison Nazarian — Thu, 12 May 2011 16:21:04 +0000

A friend gave me the link to this post as I just had a particularly nasty anonymous shoe thrown at me. Great timing and I love your take on it.
xo Allison

By: Stay Safe « Feed The Spark

Stay Safe « Feed The Spark — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 23:22:49 +0000

[...] are lashing out, but mostly its just a defence mechanism gone horribly awry. Havi Brooks calls this throwing shoes. The shoes are never about you. You just got caught in the [...]

By: Dragon whisperers live next door to monsters, I should’ve guessed | my seed house

Thu, 02 Dec 2010 21:07:47 +0000

[...] theory I think I’m just supposed to be okay with it inside my own soul. To know that there is no spoon shoe. And to learn to be okay with it, with me, with not knowing the cosmic why behind it [...]

By: Notes on talking to dragons | my seed house

Notes on talking to dragons | my seed house — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 21:31:12 +0000

[...] one: follow Havi’s advice about shoes. Because a dragon breathing fire at you is simply a really, really, really big shoe. A very [...]

By: CraftyPod #123: Being More Authentic Online, with Kirsty Hall

CraftyPod #123: Being More Authentic Online, with Kirsty Hall — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 18:50:42 +0000

[...] • Havi Brooks talks about your right people, and people throwing shoes. [...]

By: Jody

Jody — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 09:54:36 +0000

It was a year ago today that I quit my job, having been struck by one of those flying shoes.

“Shoe throwing? Their stuff. The throwing of the shoe is all about the shoe-thrower….”

I have been stuck in the unfairness of it all but reading those words that it was his stuff, or their stuff, has turned it around for me.

Their stuff – let it go and don’t make it my stuff.
My stuff – much clearer to me from having been hit by that particular shoe.

Thanks!

By: It’s been a good week, except for that flying shoe | Things I wrote along the way

Sat, 17 Jul 2010 05:38:48 +0000

[...] but then my day ended weirdly. Matter of fact, a shoe was thrown at me, as Havi [...]