Comments on: Pain and safety — an email exchange http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/ When you need some destuckification. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:51:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: SchroedinHavi’s Cat — evalazza.com http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-30678 SchroedinHavi’s Cat — evalazza.com Sun, 06 Feb 2011 05:03:02 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-30678 [...] Anyone who stumbles across this blog is likely already reading the Fluent Self. Last week Havi posted something about acknowledging pain that I have been thinking about ever since: It’s like, if you’re shooing a cat out of your apartment but the cat really has some message to ... [...] [...] Anyone who stumbles across this blog is likely already reading the Fluent Self. Last week Havi posted something about acknowledging pain that I have been thinking about ever since: It’s like, if you’re shooing a cat out of your apartment but the cat really has some message to … [...]

]]> By: SchroedingerHavi’s Cat « http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-2276 SchroedingerHavi’s Cat « Tue, 30 Dec 2008 17:17:12 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-2276 [...] Anyone who stumbles across this blog is likely already reading the Fluent Self. Last week Havi posted something about acknowledging pain that I have been thinking about ever since: It's like, if you're shooing a cat out of your apartment but the cat really has some message to ... [...] [...] Anyone who stumbles across this blog is likely already reading the Fluent Self. Last week Havi posted something about acknowledging pain that I have been thinking about ever since: It’s like, if you’re shooing a cat out of your apartment but the cat really has some message to … [...]

]]> By: Outdriving My Headlights » The First Post http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-2265 Outdriving My Headlights » The First Post Tue, 30 Dec 2008 03:55:13 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-2265 [...] I found her blog a few weeks ago.  I was so moved and touched that I sent her an email or two, not thinking much of it.  She asked if she could use some of my letters in an Ask Havi post, and I was like, “Sure,” wondering what I had said that could possibly be interesting to someone else.  And then, I read this.  [...] [...] I found her blog a few weeks ago.  I was so moved and touched that I sent her an email or two, not thinking much of it.  She asked if she could use some of my letters in an Ask Havi post, and I was like, “Sure,” wondering what I had said that could possibly be interesting to someone else.  And then, I read this.  [...]

]]> By: Magic in my mind… « The Secret Life Of Worm Hill http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-2101 Magic in my mind… « The Secret Life Of Worm Hill Thu, 18 Dec 2008 15:00:45 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-2101 [...] for learning how to meet myself where I am (goodness it took me ages to choose which of Havi’s posts I was going to use there, because [...] [...] for learning how to meet myself where I am (goodness it took me ages to choose which of Havi’s posts I was going to use there, because [...]

]]> By: James | Dancing Geek http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-1690 James | Dancing Geek Tue, 25 Nov 2008 13:12:09 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-1690 I don't know about anyone else, but I'm giving <b>myself</b> a big hug after reading this (and the healing heartache post). It doesn't help that I've just been writing up some happiness coaching stuff - I'm now totally bushwacked! Some highlights for me: The cat - oh yes, that's my mental image for when ick happens now. The Rilke quote - holy crap! Havi I swear your blog is a universal channel of somekind. Whatever we need, we come here and find. I'm really not sure what it means to 'live the question' (who am I? what do I want?) but I can't help but feel like you're speaking directly to me when I read that! I think you all rock and I love you all! <abbr><em>James | Dancing Geeks last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/DancingGeek/~3/463088938/what-do-you-want.html" rel="nofollow">What do you want?</a></abbr></em> I don’t know about anyone else, but I’m giving myself a big hug after reading this (and the healing heartache post).

It doesn’t help that I’ve just been writing up some happiness coaching stuff – I’m now totally bushwacked!

Some highlights for me:

The cat – oh yes, that’s my mental image for when ick happens now.

The Rilke quote – holy crap! Havi I swear your blog is a universal channel of somekind. Whatever we need, we come here and find. I’m really not sure what it means to ‘live the question’ (who am I? what do I want?) but I can’t help but feel like you’re speaking directly to me when I read that!

I think you all rock and I love you all!

James | Dancing Geeks last blog post..What do you want?

]]> By: Mynde http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-1688 Mynde Tue, 25 Nov 2008 05:52:54 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-1688 What I love about your style Havi, is that you help me to remember to be kind and gentle with myself during the process. I also think the place you invited Milk Dud Writer into with her pain, the idea or notion to begin by simply acknowledging it... a piece, a portion, but just acknowledge it, is a remarkable reminder at how conditioned we are to move quickly in "some" direction for relief... I usually march right to the kitchen, or stay up too late surfing the web or watch too much TV. Everything you said about pain is so true. Our wounds are our calls for self-love. I love that the Rilke quote got tossed into this. I found a refrigerator magnet this summer and read it for the first time and had to have it. I want to share with you and your readers the portion of the quote leading up to it because it seems apropro here on your blog about being kind and patient with yourself and the process of healing. "I beg you... to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language." Thank you for another wonderful post. <abbr><em>Myndes last blog post..<a href="http://www.yourwebcoaches.com/2008/11/what-is-fear/" rel="nofollow">What is Fear?</a></abbr></em> What I love about your style Havi, is that you help me to remember to be kind and gentle with myself during the process.

I also think the place you invited Milk Dud Writer into with her pain, the idea or notion to begin by simply acknowledging it… a piece, a portion, but just acknowledge it, is a remarkable reminder at how conditioned we are to move quickly in “some” direction for relief… I usually march right to the kitchen, or stay up too late surfing the web or watch too much TV. Everything you said about pain is so true. Our wounds are our calls for self-love.

I love that the Rilke quote got tossed into this. I found a refrigerator magnet this summer and read it for the first time and had to have it.

I want to share with you and your readers the portion of the quote leading up to it because it seems apropro here on your blog about being kind and patient with yourself and the process of healing.

“I beg you… to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language.”

Thank you for another wonderful post.

Myndes last blog post..What is Fear?

]]> By: Melissa http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-1687 Melissa Tue, 25 Nov 2008 05:16:19 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-1687 Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!!!!!!!! Havi, it seems like you always know exactly what to say and when to say it! This post couldn't have come at a more perfect time. I am slowly becoming more in touch with what is going on inside and learning that it's okay, and it's also okay to share. That is a real biggie for me, sharing what I'm feeling. We really do need to hear more from Ms Milk Duds, she seems to bring out some good in all of us!!! <abbr><em>Melissas last blog post..<a href="http://noexcusesbehavior.wordpress.com/2008/11/25/get-it-all-out/" rel="nofollow">Get It All Out!</a></abbr></em> Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Havi, it seems like you always know exactly what to say and when to say it! This post couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. I am slowly becoming more in touch with what is going on inside and learning that it’s okay, and it’s also okay to share. That is a real biggie for me, sharing what I’m feeling.

We really do need to hear more from Ms Milk Duds, she seems to bring out some good in all of us!!!

Melissas last blog post..Get It All Out!

]]> By: Get It All Out! « A Tasty Little Cocktail for Your Gray Matter http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-1686 Get It All Out! « A Tasty Little Cocktail for Your Gray Matter Tue, 25 Nov 2008 05:11:39 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-1686 [...] This post was brought on by: http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/ [...] [...] This post was brought on by: http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/ [...]

]]> By: Sonia Simone | Remarkable Communication http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-1685 Sonia Simone | Remarkable Communication Tue, 25 Nov 2008 05:01:27 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-1685 Spooky, that "live the questions" quote was tacked to my bulletin board for many years. Somewhere it got lost in a move, I haven't seen it for probably 10 years. <abbr><em>Sonia Simone | Remarkable Communications last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheRemarkableCommunicationBlog/~3/458990643/" rel="nofollow">How to Survive the End of the World</a></abbr></em> Spooky, that “live the questions” quote was tacked to my bulletin board for many years. Somewhere it got lost in a move, I haven’t seen it for probably 10 years.

Sonia Simone | Remarkable Communications last blog post..How to Survive the End of the World

]]> By: Cate http://www.fluentself.com/blog/habits/pain-and-safety/comment-page-1/#comment-1683 Cate Tue, 25 Nov 2008 00:49:10 +0000 http://www.fluentself.com/?p=1418#comment-1683 "Leben Sie jetzt die Fragen" -- oh how I love this quote (and Rilke in general). I'm putting it on my computer so as I work I'll remember that my job is to live the questions, not freak out 'cause I don't have the answers I feel I *should* have. Thanks for the beautifully moving post. <abbr><em>Cates last blog post..<a href="http://culturallyteaching.com/2008/11/24/use-worldmapper-to-challenge-world-perceptions/" rel="nofollow">Use Worldmapper to Challenge World Perceptions</a></abbr></em> “Leben Sie jetzt die Fragen” — oh how I love this quote (and Rilke in general).

I’m putting it on my computer so as I work I’ll remember that my job is to live the questions, not freak out ’cause I don’t have the answers I feel I *should* have.

Thanks for the beautifully moving post.

Cates last blog post..Use Worldmapper to Challenge World Perceptions

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