I also appreciate the reminder that there are wonderful people to help support me along the way. People in my life who know me through all my life changes.

Thanks for the comforting words, Havi.
.-= Dawn´s last post … Still Feeling Defensive… =-.

Seems we might be built more for sudden change/danger and so gradual change registers less. Most change we expect to be sudden and dramatic and it very often turns out to be incremental.

Evidently, if predict that the weather tomorrow will be much like today, you’ll be right 86.49% of the time (Made Up Statistic Alert).

Consciousness about metaphors can be very powerful, especially as our nervous system often treats concepts as if they were physical truths.

Thanks for the thinking food.
.-= Andrew Lightheart´s last post … Provisional thoughts about being less certain =-.

Thank you for this:
[You’re just going for a walk, and around this next bend is a new piece of terrain. But it’s not really all that different from what you already know.
I’m still on the ground. Not going anywhere near a cliff. Just building a new thing. Not alone. With help.]

Thank you,
Jenn
.-= Jenn Z´s last post … 8 Organic Steps to Become Deeply Rooted in Love =-.

I tweak it to a fork or another road coming off this road.

The advantage to that is that it is connected to the road you are on right now. But instead of going towards destination A, you are thinking about going to destination B. But you can’t see the whole road to B, just the first bit, maybe.

It also helps to recognize that by going down this new road you are probably giving up something that you can’t see further down the road you are on.

But the other thing about roads is that most of the time you can turn around and go back. Get back on the road to A if you like. But also that further down the road to B, there is probably another fork or sideroad that’ll take you to C. Another decision. Maybe you stick with B. Maybe you never get to B.

And knowing that, you know that doing this thing you are doing is not forever. ANd that doesn’t mean you aren’t committed or aren’t giving it your all, or whatever, just that if it doesn’t work out you will have options. You have no idea what those options will be until you get there but there will be options.

And even if this road turns out to be a great road, options will still turn up and you might decide to take one (or not) anyway.

But that making choices and going down roads that promise nice destinations but everything is a bit vague because you can only see the next bit of the road… well that’s normal.

And in that sense it is absolutely nothing like jumping off a cliff.
.-= JoVE´s last post … Is teaching pushing everything else out? =-.

Yay for not just jumping because there is fear! That’s almost as silly as not doing something just because we are afraid. It can get in the way at times, sure. But I suspect it is also serving as a protective parent with my greater interest at stake. The problemo is when it becomes overprotective and restrictive.

If we get to the edge of the cliff and the terror subsides because we suddenly see something else, something bigger than before, well then, caaaanoooonball… If we don’t have the emotional bandwidth for it, there may be a perfectly fine reason and one that, at least for a little while we can heed. Or, poof, we get a whole new scene (in the shape of your new metaphor) that makes more sense, resonates and we’re in our own movie and get to dance our own dance (to our own soundtrack even). The one we actually desire.

Thanks for your lovely thoughts!

We are the masters of our metaphors! Yes! That is so important. Thanks for the reminder, Havi.
.-= spiralsongkat´s last post … We can’t do it all…or can we? =-.