Comments on: To hell with transparency.

By: burlesque performer

burlesque performer — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 08:38:54 +0000

well said! great reading users comments.

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By: Keely H.

Keely H. — Thu, 28 May 2009 20:36:51 +0000

Hi Havi, I think I may devote a whole blog post to this topic once I get through processing it. It's so easy to turn authenticity and openness into a "should", particularly when you're an introvert and in all likelihood an HSP and everyone keeps telling you to loosen up and stop hiding. Thanks for sharing this. It's given me a lot to think about. Keely H.s last blog post..Marketing for Writers

By: Daniel Edlen

Daniel Edlen — Thu, 28 May 2009 14:41:04 +0000

Again, really well said. Very nice. I don't spew personal stuff, but maintain a consistent level of openness that has felt comfortable from the get-go of my onlineness. Oh, I just notice your "Twitter version" thing. Very smart. Peace. @vinylart Daniel Edlens last blog post..Thankfully Speechless

By: Emma Newman

Emma Newman — Wed, 27 May 2009 17:31:56 +0000

Oh. My. God.
Okay, I am seriously freaked out.

Not just because you linked to me (that rocks, thank you!) – that would be freaked out in a nice way…

I’m freaked out in a “Okay, I can’t ignore this message any more kind of way.”

(jibbers incoherently) Must… blog…. ergle…

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By: Catherine Cantieri, Sorted

Catherine Cantieri, Sorted — Wed, 27 May 2009 15:32:46 +0000

Thinking about "should"s and their attendant damage, I once read a blogger state that "'Should' is a form of hate speech." And I thought, now that's going too far. But then, the more I think about it, the more I think that blogger might have been onto something. There's a huge component of judgment in "should" and based on what I've read on this blog, in the comments and my own personal experience, "should"s that we apply to ourselves are almost always hateful. So I'm trying to treat "should" like it's an ugly epithet I wouldn't use on anyone, and not use it on myself either. Catherine Cantieri, Sorteds last blog post..Amazing Web Productivity Tools: Especially for creatives

By: Ingrid

Ingrid — Wed, 27 May 2009 13:32:58 +0000

Just wanted to say ‘wow.’ You are so very insightful- and seem to have the right insight at the right moment….
Thanks.
Ingrid

By: Elena

Elena — Wed, 27 May 2009 05:48:20 +0000

Thank you for posting this.

Perhaps my biggest fear is opening up to people, talking honestly about the things that matter most to me or the dark memories from my own past.

Joanne’s comment about the fear of being boring also really resonated with me. I think that’s the main reason why my inability to open up with people bothers me – I’m afraid that because there are things I can’t talk about, people will never get to know me well enough, and they’ll think I’m boring or aloof. But the fear of Talking About The Thing is so much greater than the fear of being boring, so I often choose not to talk.

Your post made me realise that just admitting that I can’t talk about something is being open and authentic. And that it’s ok to have some things I just can’t talk about, since almost everyone does, even people I admire for their ability to speak openly about their thoughts. Thank you.

By: castocreations

castocreations — Wed, 27 May 2009 01:33:00 +0000

I’m a total open book. Sometimes to my own detriment. I’ve shared much too much with people in real life and probably online too. I tend to be very trusting.

Then again, I am who I am and I don’t stress too much about it because it’s just part of me. I don’t like secrets and most of my life is not super private. Of course there are a few things that I keep “private” but even those I share with people sometimes.

I do think it’s important that people share aspects of their life other than business related topics – even if it isn’t something super personal. It adds a personal depth that puts a “face” on something that could otherwise possibly appear too business like.

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