Comments on: The thing that stops you from doing the thing.

By: My Roadmap of Growth « A Couch of My Own

My Roadmap of Growth « A Couch of My Own — Sat, 02 May 2009 16:48:25 +0000

[...] from external legitimacy to increasing internal [...]

By: What If My Poetry Is Never Useful To Anyone Other Than Myself? « The Living Poet

Fri, 01 May 2009 04:10:18 +0000

[...] the original worry came up loud and clear because I was reading Havi’s post about the thing that stops you from doing the thing. One of the things that Havi mentions is that one way to get past the stuck is to focus on helping [...]

By: Gilbert (@CrazyOnYou)

Gilbert (@CrazyOnYou) — Fri, 01 May 2009 02:40:52 +0000

For me a big part of the stuckness is thinking that unsticking it must really, really complicated and tough to fix, so I go about making it that way. When I finally wear myself out, I eventually relax and let it be simple (it’s the process, stupid!) somehow it magically unblocks me.

Of course, facing the fear also helps… And allowing the fear to express itself… And cookies… Nice soft chewy cookies are good.

Let’s not forget @Thorin’s advice too – do the thing that you fear…

By: Havi Brooks

Havi Brooks — Fri, 01 May 2009 00:38:33 +0000

Yay.

@Thorin – that is by far the best comment we’ve ever had on the Fluent Self blog (apologies to all the duck fetishists). Fabulous.

@Nathan – hmmm, must be some other duck. Birds of a feather, you know. *kiss* :)

By: Nathan Briggs

Nathan Briggs — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 22:22:39 +0000

@havi: caught me. You know how Selma sneaks out late a couple of nights a month…? ;-)

@Thorin: lol!

By: Thorin Messer

Thorin Messer — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 22:08:25 +0000

I’m with Mr. Briggs. I’m going to let everyone in on my super-secret highly guarded secret, worth millions and normally only revealed in my ultra-mega-selective (limited to 1000 people per!) seminars. It’s a simple three step-process to unblocking your creative energy and blah blah blah.

Step One: Shut up.
Step Two: Do the thing.

I’ve been rigorously trying to follow this system myself for some time…can someone help me understand why I’m not a rich, famous writer? ;)

By: Shawna R. B. Atteberry

Shawna R. B. Atteberry — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 22:04:56 +0000

Thank you Havi! A lot of this last week's posts have been exactly what I needed. I really want My Thing to start taking off, and I am slowly getting destuckified. Shawna R. B. Atteberrys last blog post..Me, Working at Home, and the Bible

By: Havi Brooks

Havi Brooks — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 21:20:19 +0000

@p_q – that’s so funny! I also often have the “too many tabs opened at once thing” (which usually turns into one of my Item! posts when it gets to be too much).

Oh the irony. And yes, the process of destuckifying does contain it’s share of sticky distractions. :)

I’m sure you’ll get all the things you need when you need them and that it will sort itself out. At least, that’s my wish for you!

@Nathan – oh you, always trying to get peed on by my duck. Fetishist! I know your kind, sir.

@Lucy & Rowena – exactly! It really does feel like forever … and it’s so great to remember that it’s not.

@pam – wow. You nailed it! That is so exactly what I am trying to do here. Everything I talk about is really meant to be something you can apply to everything in your life.

I mean, yeah, I teach business-ey stuff just because it’s an easy way to get the point across and because I geek out on it. But really all of this stuff is just self-work live-a-happier-more-intentional-life so you can feel safe and comfortable being who you are.

So yay! Love it when people get the *essence* of what I’m trying to teach here. Fabulous.

By: p_q

p_q — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 19:20:09 +0000

I love your post, as usual.

But here is the “problem”.
You link to many interesting things!

Right now, I’m reading your Selma story, and meanwhile I have 14 more tabs opened, most from your blog and a couple of Hiro Boga, and “davka” and things like that.

So I’m getting stuck trying to learn how to get unstuck!

Anyway. it’s good thing to know that I have all this good to read and learn.
Internet have so much but at the same time so little.

In this great jungle your blog is a pleasent farm.

My love to you and your duck.

By: Nathan Briggs

Nathan Briggs — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 18:39:32 +0000

I am shocked – shocked I say – that there aren’t dozens of Selmnanaughts queuing up to be peed upon by Her Yellow Magnificence.

So I have this easy, 2-and-a-half step, easy system…