I admit that the part I honed in on in your post…what really jumped out at me – the idea of trusting OTHER PEOPLE to double check and make sure things are right. SO SCARY! I’m still trying to figure that out, as I would love to have help, but it gives me the chills. Although, it is possible to have both help and double check yourself, as you note, so maybe it doesn’t NEED to give me the chills. Kind of like having your cake and eating it…

Thanks for sharing your lessons…I know I learned a lot!
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Little children are so amazing the way they do things 200% and then let go without a look back. If you did it with adults, you might want to know they’re the kind that like epiphanies of the hot buttered variety and know how to let go.

I don’t know Havi’s whining ritual but I bet it’s a blast.
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Oh, this is a classic! I can’t understand why it takes 2 weeks to create one little form, and my webmaster can’t understand why we need to give our members plenty of time and notifications before they join our awesome activity.

Thanks for explaining the other side!
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For example, people always assume that it is an infinite amount of work to put endless text or a document online, which in fact just takes me a few minutes to do (cut, paste, put some code tags around it). On the other hand, putting up a simple button image takes much more time, because the button usually ‘does’ something once pushed. The thing it ‘does’ is the time consumer.

On the other hand, (volunteer) website crew (me included) often just do not understand the systems of the organisation they work for and how that leads to documents changing so many times, post-haste requests and why changes on the website have to be reversed 3 out of 4 times. Some think: if I delay doing this for a week, they might have already decided it is not necessary anyway and I don’t have to reverse my work, saving time twice.

Re the whining ritual: One Very Bad Day when teaching preschool, I threw up my hands and said “Enough! We are all going to sit down right now and cry all at once instead of fighting and crying all day.” We sat down in a circle and within minutes I and 13 2, 3 and 4 year olds were sobbing our eyes out. They cried the way little children do, no holding back, breaths in little gasps and hiccups. Finally, without my doing anything, they suddenly erupted into giggles. Storm clouds cleared. Joyous moods prevailed. After that, wherever I taught I would have Sit Down And Cry sessions. It wasn’t unusual to have a small child tug at my shirt and say I think we all need to cry right now!

Whining, crying, naps, systems, making self-care number 1. All good.
.-= Mahala Mazerov´s last post … Skillful Answers to Disgraceful Questions, Part 2 =-.

And ditto on the taking care of yourself being the first priority.

As both businesses have gotten busier and busier, I’m finding that creating systems is becoming more and more important. After my last show, I learned that I have to have a better system for taking in repair/rework/adjustments. I haven’t yet found the time to make a form (wowza, I love forms!), but I have notes about all those little things I forget to ask in the heat of the moment that stop me in my tracks if I don’t have them. I did a similar thing for special orders earlier this year, and it works like a charm.

Safe travels, Havi.
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