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By: 25 Things You Can Learn From Havi (and Selma) - Blogging Tips From Jade Craven

25 Things You Can Learn From Havi (and Selma) - Blogging Tips From Jade Craven — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 02:02:21 +0000

[...] Havi wrote about this in a blogging therapy post on worrying. [...]

By: Havi Brooks

Havi Brooks — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 16:06:33 +0000

OKAY.

Turns out that I’d already started a post on this (that’s how busy I am) and found some more stuff. Want it? I’ll mini-excerpt.

What if whatever I say is useless, and unentertaining, and nobody reads it?
What if it is? There are lots of blogs that are useless and unentertaining with a ton of traffic. You can get traffic for anything with strategy. And anyway, it’s always useful for someone.

How can I come up with a witty lesson every day?
Who says you need a witty lesson every day? Some people only give a witty lesson twice a week.

And really, who says you need a witty lesson? Jenny the Bloggess NEVER has a lesson. She talks about random stuff in her head and gets 200 comments on every post.

What if I don’t have an entertaining little voice that gives me the cute “come-hither” wink?
Not a prerequisite for blogging. Just the curse of people like me.

What if I hate what I write?
Who is it for? Who is it REALLY for? If it helps your right people, who cares if you hate it? And if it helps you, that’s also good.

Eventually you’ll get enough distance from your “ack, I’m a WRITER!?! stuff to recognize that it’s usually better than you think it is.

I haven’t solved this one either because I also have VERY high standards that no one (including me) could possibly ever meet. But I’ve found that over time I’ve gotten more comfortable with reading my writing voice and seeing some progress both in how I write and how I relate to my writing.

xoxo

By: Perfect Clients - Do You Know Yours? | Your Web Coaches

Perfect Clients - Do You Know Yours? | Your Web Coaches — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 00:45:47 +0000

[...] looking for reasons to blog. Really making them up and getting support from Havi Brooks who has a blogging therapy series going which, when I read her posts (which is truly therapy for me), I come away with letting go of [...]

By: christy

christy — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:36:51 +0000

@Havi wrote, “And you give yourself some attention. And some love, if you can stand to have some.”

That’s a tall order. And I don’t think I realized just how tall it was until you voiced it here.

Shiva Nata may bring on the hot buttered revelations (don’t know, haven’t tried it yet), but so did this post.

Thanks.

By: Diane Whiddon-Brown

Diane Whiddon-Brown — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 07:27:30 +0000

@Stacie - I love your comment! And I have so much fun talking to you on Twitter. You want to hear something weird? I was actually a lot more nervous about talking on Twitter than commenting on a blog! 140 characters? Have you read my blog? I totally ramble. What am I supposed to say in three sentences? You know what? It doesn't matter. You're absolutely right to give yourself room to be whoever you are. Honestly, I'm working on that, too. Hoping my blog will help me with that. Jump in when you're ready, and be sure to let me know. I'll come by for a virtual visit. Diane Whiddon-Browns last blog post..Plotting vs. Pantsing

By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 05:41:34 +0000

Is the italicized "pick up something useful" a hypnotic suggestion? Anyway, if it was, it seems to have worked, because this was good moral support. Thanks. Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coachings last blog post..Productivity From Within -- New E-Book!

By: Julia R

Julia R — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 03:44:17 +0000

True story: I used to think only my mother read my blog. Then this nice gentleman named Jim (a pastor in a rural Indiana community) e-befriended me, I think because I write prayers occasionally on my site. His replies started popping up on my Twitter page. He added me to his blogroll. And I knew he was really a smitten kitten when he Tweeted me one day to randomly say, "One of the things I like about you is your joie d'vie. Your blog breathes life." So there you have it -- how one random pastor whom I never would have connected with otherwise validated my voice, my mission, and Havi's excellent point that there is always *someone* out there who will love and benefit from your work. Do I/will I have a million readers? Not unless hell freezes over. But I don't need to have a million, and neither do you, new bloggers. Just find your Jim, and the rest will follow! :D Julia Rs last blog post..How nonprofits can rock social media in 2009

By: Janet Bailey

Janet Bailey — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 23:11:42 +0000

Oh oh oh! Love all of this, but especially: If my blog turns out to be useless and unentertaining, all I have to do is find my useless, unentertaining tribe! PROJECT! xo

By: Claire

Claire — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 23:05:36 +0000

Hi Havi: This series is totally relevant to me even tho the blog I intend to have will be a personal one, and not anything related to the paid work that I do. What’s changed since I started following your blog is that I’ve published a handful of poems and started participating in forums which (hopefully) will allow me to connect with like-minded people. You have definitely inspired me to be less afraid of revealing my inner voice. Hats off to you & Selma!

By: Yooper

Yooper — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 22:41:22 +0000

Havi,

I have written some things, and they are currently percolating…I took the holidays off from everything…except posting on forums and blogs, and twitter…that’s just fun!

I have some ideas coming around…but me NOT writing (or writing, but not posting) is bringing up stuff…yeah and the a little worry…hey that’s normal, so that’s cool.

THANKS! again for the great therapy session! See you on twitter.