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		<title>By: Mone</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/how-did-you-get-into-coaching/comment-page-1/#comment-45554</link>
		<dc:creator>Mone</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Nov 2011 12:55:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you for this wonderful post. I&#039;ve been following your for some months now, but I haven&#039;t seen it before. And now I I just have found it in the moment I needed it most. Great.
I&#039;ve been starting living this spirit and I see it as some sort of great adventure- especially in Germany! ;-)

Thanks a lot.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you for this wonderful post. I&#8217;ve been following your for some months now, but I haven&#8217;t seen it before. And now I I just have found it in the moment I needed it most. Great.<br />
I&#8217;ve been starting living this spirit and I see it as some sort of great adventure- especially in Germany! ;-)</p>
<p>Thanks a lot.</p>
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		<title>By: Elisa</title>
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		<dc:creator>Elisa</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Aug 2010 02:33:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Havi, thanks for this post. It&#039;s given me a couple of things -- relief that just because I&#039;m not succeeding enough to consider myself a success yet, that doesn&#039;t mean I won&#039;t succeed, I have time. The other thing is the Dance of Shiva link. I guess when the time is right, the thing shows up, haha! Because I&#039;ve been poking around this blog every once in a while for several weeks now and I never saw the Shiva Nata blog! Even though that&#039;s what you do! Incredible.

Anyway, I had that download thing happen to me last month, and I started working with one client this month, and even though I&#039;m super happy this part of my life is FINALLY starting, however small, I&#039;m not giving myself the pat on the back I deserve because I&#039;m still working on my money stuff and finding my people. And, well, that&#039;s what I meant when I said I find relief in reading that success takes time. I have time. Yay!

Thanks! :)

Oh, and my body had a sort of reaction, a good reaction, to the Dance of Shiva, so I&#039;m going to poke around in that blog some more, and there&#039;s a pretty good chance that I&#039;ll be getting your Starter Kit soon. Hee hee! My body is excited just looking at that video.
.-= Elisa´s last post ... &lt;a href=&quot;http://happymoonmoon.blogspot.com/2010/08/somewhere-cows-are-looking-for-me.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Somewhere Cows Are Looking for Me&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Havi, thanks for this post. It&#8217;s given me a couple of things &#8212; relief that just because I&#8217;m not succeeding enough to consider myself a success yet, that doesn&#8217;t mean I won&#8217;t succeed, I have time. The other thing is the Dance of Shiva link. I guess when the time is right, the thing shows up, haha! Because I&#8217;ve been poking around this blog every once in a while for several weeks now and I never saw the Shiva Nata blog! Even though that&#8217;s what you do! Incredible.</p>
<p>Anyway, I had that download thing happen to me last month, and I started working with one client this month, and even though I&#8217;m super happy this part of my life is FINALLY starting, however small, I&#8217;m not giving myself the pat on the back I deserve because I&#8217;m still working on my money stuff and finding my people. And, well, that&#8217;s what I meant when I said I find relief in reading that success takes time. I have time. Yay!</p>
<p>Thanks! :)</p>
<p>Oh, and my body had a sort of reaction, a good reaction, to the Dance of Shiva, so I&#8217;m going to poke around in that blog some more, and there&#8217;s a pretty good chance that I&#8217;ll be getting your Starter Kit soon. Hee hee! My body is excited just looking at that video.<br />
.-= Elisa´s last post &#8230; <a href="http://happymoonmoon.blogspot.com/2010/08/somewhere-cows-are-looking-for-me.html" rel="nofollow">Somewhere Cows Are Looking for Me</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: Sunshyndreamer</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/how-did-you-get-into-coaching/comment-page-1/#comment-13429</link>
		<dc:creator>Sunshyndreamer</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:30:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Havi,

I feel so freed from the tyranny of certification. THANK YOU!!!

Like you, I have much life-learned knowledge to share, and I am no longer afraid to share it because it isn&#039;t &quot;professionally approved&quot;

Peace &amp; Love
Maureen
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Havi,</p>
<p>I feel so freed from the tyranny of certification. THANK YOU!!!</p>
<p>Like you, I have much life-learned knowledge to share, and I am no longer afraid to share it because it isn&#8217;t &#8220;professionally approved&#8221;</p>
<p>Peace &amp; Love<br />
Maureen<br />
.-= Sunshyndreamer´s last post &#8230; <a href="http://maureenleemaloney.wordpress.com/2009/11/18/riding-a-motorbike-taxi-in-tanzania/" rel="nofollow">Riding a motorbike taxi in Tanzania</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: No, I&#8217;m Not A &#8220;Coach&#8221; &#8212; And You Shouldn&#8217;t Be, Either &#124; TechHerding: Keeping Technical Cats On Track In Training</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/how-did-you-get-into-coaching/comment-page-1/#comment-9727</link>
		<dc:creator>No, I&#8217;m Not A &#8220;Coach&#8221; &#8212; And You Shouldn&#8217;t Be, Either &#124; TechHerding: Keeping Technical Cats On Track In Training</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:45:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] been following the discussion on my friend Havi&#8217;s blog about her aversion to being called a &#8220;coach&#8221; with great interest &#8212; because [...]</description>
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		<title>By: Naomi Niles</title>
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		<dc:creator>Naomi Niles</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 07:52:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Made a friend laugh hysterically at my mad kazooing skills this weekend and remembered you.

I understand what you mean about the word coach. I don&#039;t much like &quot;web designer&quot; either. It just doesn&#039;t feel right, but I still have to use it. Maybe one day that&#039;ll change.

Thanks for sharing your lovely story. I love reading how people got started. I would have done a lot of things different at the beginning myself, but I don&#039;t regret anything. I have before, but realized that it&#039;s pointless because you can&#039;t change what&#039;s done already.

Anyway, if we had all the right answers and everything cleared out for us, life would be pretty boring, right? :)
.-= Naomi Niles´s last post ... &lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/IntuitiveDesigns/~3/0beGhTN2B7g/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;IttyBiz Site Redesign&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Made a friend laugh hysterically at my mad kazooing skills this weekend and remembered you.</p>
<p>I understand what you mean about the word coach. I don&#8217;t much like &#8220;web designer&#8221; either. It just doesn&#8217;t feel right, but I still have to use it. Maybe one day that&#8217;ll change.</p>
<p>Thanks for sharing your lovely story. I love reading how people got started. I would have done a lot of things different at the beginning myself, but I don&#8217;t regret anything. I have before, but realized that it&#8217;s pointless because you can&#8217;t change what&#8217;s done already.</p>
<p>Anyway, if we had all the right answers and everything cleared out for us, life would be pretty boring, right? :)<br />
.-= Naomi Niles´s last post &#8230; <a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/IntuitiveDesigns/~3/0beGhTN2B7g/" rel="nofollow">IttyBiz Site Redesign</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: Christi</title>
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		<dc:creator>Christi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 02:13:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you.

Really, thank you.

I felt like a weirdo because I had a hard time getting the word coach past my teeth when telling people what I&#039;m headed for next.  

I feel like a weirdo when I don&#039;t WANNA pick a niche, because I think it&#039;s all tied together, but somebody tells me if I want to get successful at the c word I should define my niche and brand that baby.

Blech.

But I thought I was just being weird and finding a way to stay stuck by not wanting to fit into those boxes.

Did I say thanks for your ever-validating work?

CJ
.-= Christi´s last post ... &lt;a href=&quot;http://christijarland.wordpress.com/2009/11/01/too-tired-to-get-done/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Too Tired to Get Done?&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you.</p>
<p>Really, thank you.</p>
<p>I felt like a weirdo because I had a hard time getting the word coach past my teeth when telling people what I&#8217;m headed for next.  </p>
<p>I feel like a weirdo when I don&#8217;t WANNA pick a niche, because I think it&#8217;s all tied together, but somebody tells me if I want to get successful at the c word I should define my niche and brand that baby.</p>
<p>Blech.</p>
<p>But I thought I was just being weird and finding a way to stay stuck by not wanting to fit into those boxes.</p>
<p>Did I say thanks for your ever-validating work?</p>
<p>CJ<br />
.-= Christi´s last post &#8230; <a href="http://christijarland.wordpress.com/2009/11/01/too-tired-to-get-done/" rel="nofollow">Too Tired to Get Done?</a> =-.</p>
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		<title>By: Claire</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/how-did-you-get-into-coaching/comment-page-1/#comment-9682</link>
		<dc:creator>Claire</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 03:54:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>OK, lurkdom officially over here.
Two posts I comment on in one day?  Wow.
I am looking forward to a few more minutes reading this over again and linking to all the other good stuff to read.
Enjoying the getting to know about you deal.
Thanks again Havi.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>OK, lurkdom officially over here.<br />
Two posts I comment on in one day?  Wow.<br />
I am looking forward to a few more minutes reading this over again and linking to all the other good stuff to read.<br />
Enjoying the getting to know about you deal.<br />
Thanks again Havi.</p>
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		<title>By: Havi Brooks</title>
		<link>http://www.fluentself.com/blog/ask-havi/how-did-you-get-into-coaching/comment-page-1/#comment-9668</link>
		<dc:creator>Havi Brooks</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:10:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://fluentself.com/images/blog/ducks/Selma_tinyB.png&quot;&gt; 
@Tisha - I think you&#039;re going to be okay! I mean, problematic as the &quot;coach&quot;-word is for some of us, the truth is that this is what most people google. It&#039;s what they look for. 

So using the word coach (even if you&#039;re explaining your own personal relationship to that word) is very useful. People google coaches. They hire coaches. 

I got waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more business after my business mentor (whom I refused to call my coach) told me to put a &quot;coaching&quot; tab on my site or to mention &quot;coaching clients&quot;. 

In fact, I even had people tell me &quot;Oh, I had no idea you DID that -- I would have hired YOU if I thought you were a coach and instead I went with this other person&quot;. So. 

Nothing wrong with using a word that people are familiar with. 

And then you can redefine for yourself what your own mix of coaching, love and advocacy is and talk about that. 

Your right people will be all YAY TISHA because you are so completely wonderful, and then no one will care about what you call it either way. Does that help? 

xox
h</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://fluentself.com/images/blog/ducks/Selma_tinyB.png"/><br />
@Tisha &#8211; I think you&#8217;re going to be okay! I mean, problematic as the &#8220;coach&#8221;-word is for some of us, the truth is that this is what most people google. It&#8217;s what they look for. </p>
<p>So using the word coach (even if you&#8217;re explaining your own personal relationship to that word) is very useful. People google coaches. They hire coaches. </p>
<p>I got waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more business after my business mentor (whom I refused to call my coach) told me to put a &#8220;coaching&#8221; tab on my site or to mention &#8220;coaching clients&#8221;. </p>
<p>In fact, I even had people tell me &#8220;Oh, I had no idea you DID that &#8212; I would have hired YOU if I thought you were a coach and instead I went with this other person&#8221;. So. </p>
<p>Nothing wrong with using a word that people are familiar with. </p>
<p>And then you can redefine for yourself what your own mix of coaching, love and advocacy is and talk about that. </p>
<p>Your right people will be all YAY TISHA because you are so completely wonderful, and then no one will care about what you call it either way. Does that help? </p>
<p>xox<br />
h</p>
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		<title>By: Jason (@allpraxis)</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jason (@allpraxis)</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 16:34:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I always suspected you had superpowers, and now you&#039;ve admitted it! Glad you&#039;re using your powers for good. Not that I could imagine how they&#039;d be used for evil. (Reckless smallification? Perhaps in bizarro world where your evil twin Ivah lives?) I&#039;m eager to see what road I&#039;ll have to walk to gain my superpower, hopefully without the whole crippling oozy ear infection thing (your radioactive spider?). To quote Twain, &quot;You can&#039;t reach old age by another [woman&#039;s] road. My habits protect my life but they would assassinate you.&quot;

Anyway, great post! Stuff happens, you realize you&#039;re a conduit for something kick-ass, you show up (even if that alternates with hiding) and then so does everyone else who needs what you&#039;re channeling. Simple, beautiful, hard.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I always suspected you had superpowers, and now you&#8217;ve admitted it! Glad you&#8217;re using your powers for good. Not that I could imagine how they&#8217;d be used for evil. (Reckless smallification? Perhaps in bizarro world where your evil twin Ivah lives?) I&#8217;m eager to see what road I&#8217;ll have to walk to gain my superpower, hopefully without the whole crippling oozy ear infection thing (your radioactive spider?). To quote Twain, &#8220;You can&#8217;t reach old age by another [woman's] road. My habits protect my life but they would assassinate you.&#8221;</p>
<p>Anyway, great post! Stuff happens, you realize you&#8217;re a conduit for something kick-ass, you show up (even if that alternates with hiding) and then so does everyone else who needs what you&#8217;re channeling. Simple, beautiful, hard.</p>
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		<title>By: Kaushik</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kaushik</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 16:10:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I used to believe a life coach was someone incapable of living so they coached. Now I&#039;m in danger of becoming one.

Inspirational--thank you.
.-= Kaushik´s last post ... &lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/BeyondKarma/~3/EqOsOjgDCuk/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Playing…&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I used to believe a life coach was someone incapable of living so they coached. Now I&#8217;m in danger of becoming one.</p>
<p>Inspirational&#8211;thank you.<br />
.-= Kaushik´s last post &#8230; <a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/BeyondKarma/~3/EqOsOjgDCuk/" rel="nofollow">Playing…</a> =-.</p>
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