An entire page about me.
Pronunciation guide: HA-vee.
Things about me.
I live on the road and I don’t speak* and I love peanut butter.
What else? I like bridges, bells, secret ops, napping. I have an imaginary chocolate shop that is actually a ballroom, but I’m ready to let it go because I’m ready to let everything go.
I am currently on Shmita, which is like a sabbatical, and an ever-expanding road trip called Operation True Yes, and I write about all of this on the blog.
Somehow I have written nearly fifteen hundred posts here, partly because I’ve been doing this for a while, and mostly because for someone who doesn’t talk, I have a lot to say.
About what we do here.
Self-fluency: getting to know who and how we are in the world, and in our internal world. What we need, how we best function. Learning to recognize when we’re in our stuff and how we want to interact with it. Remembering the magical rule of Oh Right, Shit Is Not About Me.
We play. It’s interesting how we can turn “mindfulness” and “presence” into this heavy, fraught Should, which is so unnecessary because presence can be fun and playful. Presence can be thrilling.
We bring light to shadowy places. We dissolve stuck, rewrite patterns, change how we relate:
The problem with creative self-investigation is it comes with the worst labels. Blah-self-help-personal-development-time-management-productivity-blah. I reluctantly admit that we do stuff that kind of falls into some of those categories, except it’s lighthearted, curious and sparkly. Not preachy, not motivational.
We are all equals here. No external sources of authority needed. I don’t have your answers. I have my answers, and I share how I get to them, but we are all in this together, playing, figuring things out for ourselves.
See also: Whee! The People for more about some of the people who hang out here.
More about me?
1) I let my beloved Colleen ask me questions for 50-for-50.
2) TJ got me to reveal 30 Things I Love Right Now.
3) And — an old post! Fewer than 33 things about me…
What else can I tell you?
I love to dance. I’m currently on a mission of Less. This website has been my online home for ten years (I know!), and many of my closest real life friends are people I first met here.
For five beautiful years I ran a center in Portland, Oregon called The Playground, for practicing all the stuff we talk about here. And now I’m done with teaching/coaching and any form of being in the front of the room, and am teaching by not-teaching. More about that later. :)
I am really glad you are here, and I am glowing love from my thank-you heart,